Single and in debt.

sarahb123_3

Lula-Hula wrote: »

On a lighter note; had an email from the loser this morning saying he would'nt ring any more & would leave it to me to make contact....

the phones' been ringing every 20 minutes since 4pm :rolleyes: staying strong though & following paulgonnabedebtfrees advice :T

I don't know how you are coping with this, he is bonkers. His behaviour last night was outrageous, you are doing the right thing by ignoring him, hopefully eventually he will get the message but in the meantime are you keeping a log of all the incidents in case you need to take things further ie the police? It sounds like he has lost the plot completely in the last few days and has moved from bizzare to alarming. Hope you are ok xxx

sarahb123_3

Am currently updating 100 list, at the 2 month mark, have only got 75 things on it so far as couldn't think of 100 things and decided to leave a bit of space to add things throughout the year. So far I have completed 4 of them and done bits of another 10.:j Sadly none of them are from the first 13 which are the important ones but it's early days.:D

I checked my cashback on quidco earlier and my £50 which had been declined has been reversed :j so am very happy with that. Am only 20 points away from a voucher with pigsback, at which point that ******* piggy and I will part company forever. :j

Shoe_Gal

sarahb123 wrote: »

Am currently updating 100 list, at the 2 month mark, have only got 75 things on it so far as couldn't think of 100 things and decided to leave a bit of space to add things throughout the year. So far I have completed 4 of them and done bits of another 10.:j Sadly none of them are from the first 13 which are the important ones but it's early days.:D

Don't worry, it sounds like you are doing really well :j

As I put on my diary thread earlier - a new month, a new attitude! :j

And it's Spring !!! :j

bathgatebuyer

sarahb123 wrote: »

You have so much to look forward to with your new house, don't let anything or anyone get you down:D

It was all about the new house. I had a massive panic attack last week and ended up in Casualty (erm, A & E, not the crappy telly show ). Got the complete wobbles over the move, in particular, selling my place and so have decided to pull out. Had loads of stress when I was out work a few years back which led me into some very dark places, and I thought I was over it all. But, the pressure I put on myself over the house move was just too much and I had a bit of a panic over it and have cancelled my home report, agency, etc. Left a message for the developer but she hasn't phoned me back.

The panic was over the 2 agents who visited me to give me an opinion on my place. Being a surveyor myself, I thought I knew a thing or two about buying and selling. However, the first agent who came round said my place wouldn't sell quickly and was comparing it to some real crap in some dodgy areas that she couldn't sell which !!!!ed me off now end :rolleyes: She was telling me that I should expect about £50K less than I was expecting and that it would be difficult to get a quick sale. The second guy was much better, and more optimistic, the problem being the quick sale.

I was really confident until I spoke to them. In the past 2 years, I've had about 2 or 3 different people ask if there were properties available in my block as they are so desirable, so to hear someone tell me it is comparable to an ex-Council graffiti covered heap below some pylons and right next to a railway line and the former DSS office was a bit of a kick! She called it being realistic, I call it it vomit-enducing. And it literally was! The day after she visited, I was sick the moment I woke up. The following night I had the panic attack and ended up in hospital with a blue mouth

I think my friend was trying to be supportive but you don't talk about someone's panic attacks and things on a public website that some of her colleagues are linked into, do you?! I use it for some professional networking too and have a few groups on there for professional exam preparation and guidance and stuff so it's not just embarrassing, but downright humiliating both personally and professionally

I feel crap enough as it is as I'm down by a £500 reservation fee on the new place, plus £50 for a cancelled Home Report, not top mention now hating where I stay as this palce now feels like the booby prize rather than my home.

I hear what people have to say about my 'friends' but they are important to me. I've always cut and run when things have gone wrong, and it always feels like I'm left with nothing. The mate who 'forgot' to tell me she had the flu is the mother of my Godsons, so if I cut her out, I cut them out too, but maybe that would be no bad thing. I don't want to sound like a brat, but since she had kids, it's impossible to sit and have a nice coffee with her and just be two friends anymore. Her kids punctuate everything. Lovely as they are, it's sometimes really frustrating to be at hers as you have so much you want to talk about, some really important sensitive things you need advice on, and you'll say something like, "My Mum's cousin is in a hospice with a brain tumour........." and her reponse is, ".............oh that's nice, Iain, put that down or you'll hurt yourself.......................so what was that about someone's cousin's Mum's birthday?"

I sounds really selfish, don't I? God I sound like a complete !!!!!!

Shoe_Gal

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

not top mention now hating where I stay as this palce now feels like the booby prize rather than my home.

Not sure I can offer much advice about the other stuff but don't allow 2 awful people - who were probably doing it for their own reasons! - make you feel unhappy in your own home. Don't let the opinions of 2 people you don't actually know take on more significance than your own opinion. Nothing has changed in the place where you live - it's just their opinion!!

Take care

Shoe Gal x

Lula-Hula

Evening everyone, about time you showed up sarah

BGB - it sounds like you are stressed to the limits at the moment & maybe your friend was trying to be supprotive but I've always thought those networking sites are very impersonal & in a way quite superficial.

Please dont think that I'm trying to put you down, I just mean that I would find it far more supportive if a friend was calling or visiting or emailing me personally to see if I was ok & coping, rather than broadcasting it as a public event. Maybe I'm just old fashioned but it seems that so many people are just so flippant about human relationships & feelings these days.

As to your friend with the children... well, it is very difficult to have an adult conversation with toddlers around so how about arranging to meet up & suggesting that she gets someone to care for the children ? You dont have to say that they are interfering with your relationship, you could say that you want to treat her to a lunch,drink or coffee out. If she;'s a full time SAHM then I'm sure she would appreciate getting out of the house & away from her little darlings for an hour or two

There are so many lovely kind, caring, considerate people in the world so dont make these old friends the be all & end all of your friendships, let yourself be open to making new ones as well.

I hope you're feeling calmer now
xx

Shoe_Gal

Lula

That was a lovely kind and thoughtful post. You have a real way with words, mine always seem to come out sounding cold or uncaring!

Shoe Gal x

Buffythedebtslayer

BGB, you don't sound like a brat, not AT ALL. I know exactly what you mean re friends with kids/in my case husbands/partners. They don't mean it but they are distracted when I talk to them. In the end I asked them at the beginning of the conversation if they have a moment cos I need to talk them. its hard but easier then being ignored and feeling awful.

and its a real shame about the house hon.

as for the Bebo thing, I would tell her that she hurt me by posting that stuff andcould she please take it down. and then leave her to get in touch.


I went to the meet and it was fabulous by the way - everyone was really nice and very funny, just like having daily chat live !!

take care all

eco

No Bathgate you don't sound selfish, I bet she wouldn't like it if you treated her like that, one of my friends loves me now she's become a mum cos she say's we can talk about normal stuff, other mum's apparently talk about there kids, and she's bored of it.

I went out with the lads from work on Friday night, I was poorly Saturday but I had a good night, so I suppose it was worth it, bumped into my ex who says his mum still misses me after all this time we split up 14 years ago, I love bumping into him my life is so much better than his, and I look a damn site more cheerful, and he has a gf, had a quiet day today been gardening today.

Lula I liked the 'circling us like sharks'

Shoe_Gal

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

I went to the meet and it was fabulous by the way - everyone was really nice and very funny, just like having daily chat live !!

Hi Buffy

Did you see any of my lovely home City - or just the Paramount??? :rotfl: