Single and in debt.

PinkTwirl

Hi SuSu,

True, I've been asked out by guys since my split, but none of them I've wanted to date, I'd rather have cut my arm off. Fair enough, if you get out for a couple of evenings and get the butterflies for a while good. (Jeez I sound pessimistic don't I). I hope it last longer than that for you though.:D

PinkTwirl

I've killed this thread too!

SuSu1871

Thanks everyone, I appreciate your comments and support :grouphug:

I wouldn't have agreed to see this guy again if we hadn't been introduced by a mutual friend. I told her about the text thing and she was like :eek: and said it was really out of character (although obviously she only knows him through work where he's all professional).

Anyway, he knows he was out of order and that I wasn't happy with what he said. He also knows that he'll have to work hard to win me round. I quite fancy someone making the effort, tbh!

I'll see how it goes anyway, but there definitely won't be any jiggy jiggy this year and I'll make sure he knows it! :rotfl:

Buffythedebtslayer

No you haven't pink twirl I was just having a read and contemplating a reply xx

sarahb123_3

Ossireo wrote: »

Totally hear you on this. I've heard so many lines over the years I suddenly realised that I have turned in to someone so cynical it saddens me. I decided yesterday after another prime example of my over reacting to something, that if I don't want to stay single that I have to take that risk! I have to believe what I am being told and not keep thinking things I am being told are untrue because I don't think that good of myself and think that there would be better options for him elsewhere!

I'll admit it is really hard being lavished with affection and accepting it without feeling that I either don't deserve it or that its just bullsh*t but I am determined I can get use to it in time!

I agree, it can be difficult, especially when you're used to putting yourself down all the time. I think I need to be nice myself first before I can get used to other people doing it! But you are right, if you don't want to be single you have to take the risk, it's just so hard sometimes when you are trying to protect your best interests at the same time.

SuSu1871

I read a good problem page response in the Sunday Times today. It was titled "Do I have a chance of finding love again?". Some sound advice in there. Forgive me for not retyping it all, but doing the lazy thing and including a link:

(hope this works)

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/aunt_sally/article5207981.ece

sarahb123_3

PinkTwirl wrote: »

I've killed this thread too!

Aww, PinkTwirl, you haven't killed the thread!:D Sometimes the thread just goes quiet!:D I know what you mean, sometimes I write a long post and nobody replies for a while and I think "Is it me?" Today I read the posts and just made a quick reply earlier, I was busy doing my tasks on the challenge thread. I usually only post in the late evening, with my patterned pier wine glass;) and some nibbles to hand. You are a very welcome addition to the thread and you can post here anytime, that's what we are here for:D .

sarahb123_3

Thank goodness you corrected your post Buffy!

Buffythedebtslayer

I can't think about men. its all too complicated and silly. I am afraid of getting hurt and being used and I don't see that changing. I honestly think the type of men I am attracted to are that type(nasty two timing ) and until I grow out of that I will leave men out of the equation.

out of debt nice job, car and house. I can do all that myself. anything else is a bonus.

sarahb123_3

Just had a quick read of that article SuSu, it's quite interesting, some of it has hit a nerve with me!