Single and in debt.

RosaBernicia

Oooh pages and pages to catch up on!

Ossireo and runmichellerun, sorry to hear it's not going well with the dating but if it's making you less happy than being on your own then sensible to pull back a bit.

Re. the Bumping Into Ex scenario, totally normal, confess to still dressing up when going into town near my parents in case of bumping into ex of 4 years ago - despite him being in the forces and probably thousands of miles away . Dunno why especially as he contacted me before and after his wedding so has obviously realised his mistake :rotfl: though proved in the process am much better off without him!

Haven't done any official exercise recently but may have to tonight as just got back from France and think I am wearing some of my cheese consumption. However, v DFW proud of myself for not buying anything for wedding guest outfit - put it all together from stuff I already had and pleased with result. No cute single men unfortunately but next month's mate's wedding has much more potential!

Hugs to all

RB xx

sarahb123_3

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Sarah, are we meant to be weighing in today or wednesday ?

I think some people do it at the weekends and some on Wednesday, so if everyone just posts whenever they have lost and when most people have posted I will update it.

sarahb123_3

Ossireo and Michelle, big hugs :grouphug: If things aren't right at least it is better to find out early on, not exactly much comfort I know, but it saves more heartache in the long run. I tend to cling on until the last possible minute and make everything so much worse. Hope you're ok xxx

Lula-Hula

SunderlandBlackCat wrote: »

:eek: :shocked: :huh: :sad:

What did I do to deserve that?

Aaaagh

So sorry SBC, I completely & utterly forgot how lovely you are & didnt include you in that at all, I was merely responding to tony's post.

:A :kisses3: please forgive me & I promise you can keep everything

Lula xxx

Lula-Hula

Ok, having grovelled to Sundy,

I can now declare that according to my scales this morning there is actually 2 whole lbs less of me :j & I've already put it in my sig.

As far as those of you with fridges at work are concerned ; just be grateful you dont work from home like me & have access to fridge & store cupboards. I attribute my weight loss to having house full of workmen who barricade my way to the suppplies & also help me to burn off calories by making 10 cups of tea each day :rolleyes: .

No doubt by this time next week I shall have regained those lbs :mad: .

Hugs to Ossireo & Runmichellerun I've been teetering for the last 6 months between knowing my relationship with xbf has HUGE flaws on the one hand & thinking I shouldnt settle for second best... then on the other hand totting up all the good stuff, hoping the HUGE flaw can be repaired & getting scared that if I dont stay with him, I may die a 'born-again virgin' :eek: .

He rang as soon as he got back from airport, came over to visit for a couple of hours, expected to stay :mad: & got the hump when I reminded him that we were just friends now.

It's sad because I can live with / retrain some of the flaws but for me the dealbreaker is him not having/apparently wanting a job. A friend pointed out that if he was under my roof I could easily retrain the minor flaws.. but financially it could be what pushes me over the edge towards a DMP & right now I can afford to overpay my debts substantially so I dont want to take the risk.

Is that selfish, ruthless or just plain sensible ?

Opinions gratefully received

lula x

SunderlandBlackCat

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Aaaagh

So sorry SBC, I completely & utterly forgot how lovely you are & didnt include you in that at all, I was merely responding to tony's post.

:A :kisses3: please forgive me & I promise you can keep everything

Lula xxx

I've just checked & it's all still there so you're forgiven

SunderlandBlackCat

Lula-Hula wrote: »

It's sad because I can live with / retrain some of the flaws but for me the dealbreaker is him not having/apparently wanting a job. A friend pointed out that if he was under my roof I could easily retrain the minor flaws.. but financially it could be what pushes me over the edge towards a DMP & right now I can afford to overpay my debts substantially so I dont want to take the risk.

I'm not sure why women believe this but it's a myth I'm afraid. He'll just find ways to make you think you've retrained him & eventually it will lead to bigger problems further down the line.

Lula-Hula

Thanks for that piece of insight into the male psyche... you mean the loo seat up thing is forever ?:eek:

SunderlandBlackCat

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Thanks for that piece of insight into the male psyche... you mean the loo seat up thing is forever ?:eek:

It was more of a perception on the female psyche tbh.

Generally blokes just don't think that they can train women out of the things that annoy them.

Self-centred people of either gender only change because it suits them to.

On the loo seat thing though I don't know a single bloke who doesn't think that particular argument is irrational as the proper position of the loo set is up but a considerate bloke will put it down if they remember to on any one occasion. Inconsiderate ones just won't care.

Ossireo

To be totally honest I have always been part of the "people don't/can't change" especially in relationships department, even though its painful most the times I try to remember what caused the break up in the first place. I had a similar conversation with my last long term partner who left me, after a few months he decided it was the biggest mistake etc etc and the advice I gave him is he had to remember what made him so crazy that he got to the stage that he left. I am me after all and I havent changed and we could get back together but he would most likely get just as upset with me in the future and leave again :rolleyes:

I think sometimes things can improve in the short term, but the problems may well still be there simmering underneath all the make up sex, and the moment the problems turn up again you are back where you were X number of weeks/months ago.

Maybe I am just too cynical in my old age lol