Single and in debt.

Buffythedebtslayer

My weakness seems to be that I don't like food that much and eat rubbish like Crisps, CHOCOLATE, and bread, I can always eat those.

ugh.

and Lula, I completely agree, it shouldn't but it does. it really does. If I look good I feel good. that's it.

so after two false starts I shall go again on Monday. Maybe pop in to Morrisions and get some nice food. of the diet variety.

xx

Lula-Hula

Yep,

I'm the same ; so that's a seriously determined ' holy freaking kack pants we are on a diet until we look good / feel good '.

Its that or spend the rest of my life wearing trackie pants :eek:.

Off to add it to my sig so it's official

lula x

dollydumpling

"BUFFY: And then you come back ... and did you wait until your life was absolutely perfect and then send that demon here so you could throw it in my face?
RILEY: Look ... you think this was easy for me?
BUFFY: Yeah! I think it was a rollicking adventure, fun for the whole family.
RILEY: I was terrified about seeing you again.
BUFFY: Well, I'm sure my incredible patheticness softened the blow for you.

Riley looks annoyed, fidgets a bit. RILEY: I don't know what you're talking about.
BUFFY: Riley, please don't patronize-
RILEY: Hey! You want me to say that I liked seeing you in bed with that idiot? Or that blinding orange is your very best color? Or that that ... burger smell is appealing?
BUFFY: (upset) You smelled the smell?
RILEY: Buffy, none of that means anything. It doesn't touch you. You're still the first woman I ever loved ... and the strongest woman I've ever known. And I'm not advertising this to the missus ... but you're still quite the hottie.
BUFFY: You know, it goes away after many bathings.
RILEY: (laughs) This isn't about who's on top. I know how lucky I am right now. I love my work, and I love my wife.
BUFFY: I know. And I kinda love her too.
RILEY: So you're not in the greatest place right now. And maybe I made it worse.
BUFFY: No.
RILEY: Wheel never stops turning, Buffy. You're up, you're down ... it doesn't change what you are. And you are a hell of a woman."


Buffy (the debt one!) - wouldn't normaly advertise my geek credentials so openly but thought you could do with a reminder that, fat, spotty, single or whatever it is that we beat ourselves up about, is all just surface cr*p and temporary. We are amazing, a little bit of temporary external or internal badness ain't gonna change that!

You know that Riley speaks the truth!

DD x

(PS: I am now just hoping that your name means that you are a fan too, if not... oh the shame.....:o )

Buffythedebtslayer

I am a HUGE fan! huge huge huge!

I love that bit when Riley comes back, although his Wife is bloody irritating!

am really touched!

((((((((((thank you Dollydumpling)))))))))))))))))

*goes off to find Buffy DVD's*

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ossireo

*curses selling all Buffy boxsets when desperate 3 years ago*

Ossireo

as for the Scot ... I really don't know where things stand. We had a really amazing click when we got together, not felt that comfortable with anyone for a long time. I think maybe at the start we saw a spark and threw petrol on it, as things progressed way too quick. for both our likings, so decided to slow down a lot! But recently more and more stuff is surfacing that I think is largely down to both our own insecurities and past damage and also a huge difference in ways we do stuff. Ultimately I am not sure its going to work as the differences seem to be overtaking the nice stuff and not sure how to work that out

sarahb123_3

Dolly, what a brilliant reply!

Buffy, I know exactly what you mean, the thought of bumping into an ex with a new partner, when I am single, overweight, renting, in debt, stagnating career, etc etc etc fills me with absolute dread:eek: That's why I want to lose weight, if I can just start to feel better about myself it won't be so bad. I need to be able to fit into my nice clothes! Don't want to bump into anyone looking and feeling like this. Just hope that if the horrible occasion does ever happen:eek: that by then I will be slimmer and wearing my expensive (and not yet paid for) clothes so at least I will look good. I can lie about the rest. :rolleyes:

sarahb123_3

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Feeling good about oneself shouldnt revolve around being thinner than one is, but if being one size smaller is going to boost ego, confidence, happiness & self esteem then it's got to be worth denial of all things comforting, hasnt it ?

My weakness is carbohydrates - bread, pasta & potatoes & I eat bucket loads of them because they're cheap. Does this mean that my credit cards have made me fat, & therefore if I pay off my cards & have more money to spend that I'll actually be thinner

lula

I am really trying to cut down on carbs, but it's so damn expensive! I need to lose this weight for my own self esteem, if nothing else, so have decided food bills is one area where I really can't cut down, no piont in being debt free a bit quicker if I look and feel like a beached whale. Hate that bread and potatoes and tinned rubbish is so cheap! Could make significant savings there, but I just can't do it. I buy the sensible food, but I'm too lazy/tired to be cooking all the time. I have tried very hard this week though.

It's sooo dificult to deny myself all things comforting, my weaknesses are crisps and chocolate, which are practically all carbs, plus there is always that voice which tells me, go on, you deserve a treat. I find it really hard to ignore short term satisfaction for long term gain. I will do it though, am beginning to run out of other options, and it feels like a lot hangs on it; will feel better, look better, can wear my nice clothes and they will hang properly instead of feeling tight and stretching, I will be happier, will feel more in control of my life, will feel more confident re dating etc.

Why did I let it get like this!:mad:

eco

dietings like money saving too easy to pick the bad habits up and really tough to change your ways, if only I knew then what I know now I would be loaded.

Lula-Hula

Buffy rocks

We all rock, I'd just be happier if I had more £ pounds & less lb pounds :rolleyes:

xbf just called, asked about my car, I'm explaining what happened & he interrupts & tells me not to go on about irrelevant things aaaaagggggghhhhh :mad: if I had a wooden stake in my hand right now i swear I would run to bulgaria just to stick it between his eyes / legs / ribs ....

I love being single, I love being single, I love being single, I love being single :j

Hope everyone had a good week end, have to go eat some more carbs now, be back fatter

lula x