Boyfriend Supporting His Parents - is there any other way??

miserly_mum

Theres an awful lot of if's and maybe's on your part.

Please don't take this as a criticism but you are only 22 and sound a bit naive. Is this your first serious relationship?

I was 21 when I got married to a man not unlike your BF. I found his unquestioning loyalty to his family admirable at the beginning but that soon wore off.

Especially when I realised after many years that neither I or our children were never going to be top of his list of priorities. For years I thought he would change (especially after our first child was born.) but he left us penniless on many occasions to "lend" money to his parents. I say lend but we never ever got money back once it was lent.

Your BF has had the chance to experience being married and being a parent but is denying this to you.

At least he's being honest about what he wants but you aren't. Because you are leading him to believe you accept this ......but you know you haven't.

I'd think long and hard what you want from life.If it isn't being childless and playing second fiddle to this mans parents then i'd get out quick and find a man who'll love you and want you to be the most important person in his life and vice versa.

choccybuttons

I suggest your boyfriend 'buys' his parents house if he is going to pay the mortgage. Then his parents will have a lump sum and he will be making a financial investment. He should talk to a solicitor about getting a formal agreement drawn up. If anything happens to his parents he should get sole ownership of the house as he has paid for it. You could suggest this to him in terms if taking the stress from his parents as he would own the house and would be a sound investment of his money.