Relationship breakdown

Stephb1986_2

i would do more than kick him in the shin i would castrate the !!!!!!

How could he do that to you? what a total @rsehole! this has made me so angry i feel like going to his workplace and making a show of him! i'd let her fiancee know exactly what she's been up to the little tart because then she isn't ruining someone elses life!

Im so sorry to hear about this hopefully you tell him to jog on and find a better life without him he doesnt deserve you!

Steph xx

gerturdeanna

Ok..OH has gone for a bath. When he's finished, I'm telling him again he has two choices..either he stays with us and works at making us work 100%, gets himself professional help either from the docs or whatever and stays away from anyother girls or he leaves, and finds himself somewhere else to go and we split for good.
Will update later.

elona

Good Luck!

gerturdeanna

He stil says he doesn't know - so I told him that I then want him out by the end of the week - but I don't think I really do - he won't go anyway. More going round and round in circles. I asked him where he sees himself in 6 months and he said in a box - its not the first time he's said something like that - !!!!!! do I do now!!

Stephb1986_2

tell him you want out! your worth alot more than this hun. why should you be second best to this tart from work, he's edging his bets by saying he doesn't know what he wants.

Hopefully its a box on the street because thats where he deserves to be right now!

Steph xx

gerturdeanna

He says he won't go - and I'm more worried at the mo that he's talking about doing himself in then anything else

Stephb1986_2

i know you still love him i can tell, but at this moment in time i wouldnt be worried about doing himself in i'd help him!! he's cheating on you by the looks of it and your still wanting to work things out?

If he goes out tomorrow i'd put his stuff in bin bags on the front and have the locks changed!


Steph xx

Marker_2

I know you still love him and deep down want this to work, by the way you write it comes across. You are both stuck in a rut, time is sort of at a standstill. You both need to get that sparkle back. He needs to give you 100% and get out of this depression he seems to be in. If I were you I would try and give him space for a few days and then maybe at the end of the week plan a 'night out' just the two of you, maybe even a little gettaway, go to a hotel, away from the house and all you know.
Spend time alone together, hopefully then you will be able to dechiper whether its worth saving or its time to let go.
I know its hard for you, wanting to save a marriage, but you both need to be on equal footing - it may take him months to decide what he wants. If you want it to work then you stand by him, if not then you make plans to be able to survive without him.

Betty_Boop

Hi GD,

hang in there girl.


Whatever you choose, be strong for the kids and yourself.
Whatever you choose - have a great life.

sorry - I've waffled on...

gerturdeanna

I just want things back the way they were even just 6 months ago. My whole life is crashing down around me and I don't know!