Relationship breakdown

scottishfreebiehunter

hugs to you toxxxxxxxx

I have appointment for tomorrow at 12am:( hard times for us all ,just feel like kicking off with the women concerned all for two weeks

scottishfreebiehunter

I have no idea where I am going next what is going to happen just feel so alone and want to run away.
sick of listening to him not being 100% etc etc he chose to walk out so not sure if I will ever let him back

gerturdeanna

You are not alone - I'm with you on this one!! We'll get by and we'll manage and we'll be happier in the end - bit of mess to go through first but we'll get there in the end!!

bettiboop

Hi Gerturdeanna, KizzyKizzyWizzy and scottishfreebiehunter!!:hello:

Just wanted to say that I am in exactly the same position as you guys - My OH and I split up 2 weeks ago, and since then I have been through every possible emotion. Think we should set up our own wee club! I was really down at the beginning and posted on this forum, and I have had lots of advice and PMs offering words of encouragement since.

I don't know about you guys, but I am so glad that I posted. You know, it may not feel like it just now, but YOU CAN AND WILL GET THROUGH THIS!!!!

Scottish - I know how you are feeling, feel free to PM me. In fact all you guys feel free to PM if you need too.

We will get there ladies - hang on in there!

:grouphug:

Bettiboop
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kizzykizzywizzy

Hi to all the strong beautiful women on here in the same situation, have to agree, something in the water!!
You are all so much braver than me - I'm extremely soft, too soft for my own good.
CAB never rang me back. BUT was brave enough to say no to husband about visiting kids, I really need a break from all this stress that he causes every time I see him.
So I expect he will go & sulk in his room around his Sisters & start saying I'm playing games re the kids! BUT spoke to parenting helpline & they suggested I do just this & that I only have to allow access 1 day per week! Obviously the children are my first priority, so won't do that, but they also said I have to be fit & well & if him being around upsets me, that will upset the children too, also they said he can't have his cake & eat it! which surprised me a bit, as I thought it was just me thinking he was being unreasonable, but they agreed. Hope all goes well for you both at the solicitors

scottishfreebiehunter

Thanks all you guys as having someone to talk things through with is great as have people on phone but no one to turn to.

I have tried to reason with him etc though I aint putting myself down no more

This is the thing Kizzy mine turned up today again and i do not want to upset my ds but it is killing me

gerturdeanna

You two seem to be more advance along this horrible rocky road then me. Have your fells moved out or did you kick out? If kicked out, how did you managed? CAB advised me that because he was on the deeds and mortgage, he had every right to stay in marital home.
He's in bed, has been since 7:30pm, not spoke to him at all today, didn't make him tea, iron his shirt or nothing. And I won't be sleeping in the same bed at all!! I was clearing out old clothes of mine this pm and I had them in bin bags outside the front door, you should have seen his face when he pulled up in the car after work - what a picture!! (I'm feeling rather evil today - but as my sister and friends say its about time!! I've been walked over too much recently) Infact looking back over the relationship, I used to think that I was the one wearing the trousers when in fact I was just pandering to his needs and wants all the time..ie. Ok, we won't go to my mum's because you've got a headache!! Well...NO MORE!! If I want to do something, I'm going to do it...
Goes off singing.."I'm gonna wash that man right out of my hair"!!! haha

The sad thing is that all he had to do to remedy this situation was to stop lying to me and delete her number or tell her to eff off...too late now!!! I'm getting rid of the old....bring on the new!! haha

scottishfreebiehunter

Mine decided it best if he moved out :rolleyes:leaving me with ds ,dogs ,rabbit ,etc

We will get there people but a few hard times in front of us I think
Oh my mind still racing as to drive to a certain place and do some silly things :eek:

gerturdeanna

SFH - I know how you feel cos I feel the same too, but in my more lucid moments (which isn't now btw) I think doing harm to her ain't going to help the situation!! We are the better people!! We WILL rebuild our lives and they will be sooooo much better than before - and who knows maybe we will find another partner - but we'll pick better next time!! hehe

Chin up love - PM me if you want - hey add me on facebook!! everyone else has!! hehe

gerturdeanna

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This is me in all my technicolor glory!! haha