Relationship breakdown

gerturdeanna

I know that that is how I SHOULD feel, but I don't!!:mad:
Note to self - must be angrier!!
For all my sins, I still love him. He is/was my first proper, proper love, he's still (at the moment) my husband and he is the father to my two little ones.
Relate can also help us to end a marriage amicably rather than screwing each other through the courts - so that something I'm going to bring up tonight also.

bank_of_slate

You lot have all been through so much through no fault of your own, is there something in the air at the moment or what?
It's great to see such a tight support network on here when you need it the most.
...Linda xx

gerturdeanna

We are a tight group on here aren't we - must be to do with the Moneysaving!! hehe
I've ben told on good authority that we are all feeling like this because of astrology and Pluto and Saturn?? Apparently when Pluto moves again, he won't move again for 15 years so now is the time when everyone gets their unrest out of the way!!
Anyway been to Relate again tonight and as soon as we got there - I said all that had happened over the last week since Saturday and told her that I wanted these sessions to be about how to end the marriage amicably (cos I was annoyed, hurt, angry and upset still)
He has again said that he will not stop texting her as shes a 'friend' - well sorry but in my books, 'friends' don't kiss and text each other none stop!!!
End of the session came and we decided we were going to split for the time being - he was going to look for somewhere else and was going to continue paying the mortgage - apparently the 'counsellor' he want to see today was actually legal advice and they have advised him that he still has to pay the mortgage here as I'm not working!! haha - can't see him getting a luxury flat now!!
He's now sleeping in our sons bed whilst my son sleeps with me for tonight at least and we are going to talk more about him leaving tomorrow - so I'm sat here with a huge glass of white wine or seven - whilst chatting to my sis and best mate!!

bettiboop

Hi G

Just wanted to give you a hug :grouphug: .

I'm glad you got your sister and best mate!!

Bettiboop

xx

Fidget21

Is he going to move in with her and the man she is going to marry?? Has he actually thought any of this through??? Does she have any idea what her final fling has caused?? AAAaarrrrrgh!! Questions...Questions in my head (there must be even more going round in your head!!)

Enjoy your wine with your sis and BM. Have a sip or two for me.

gerturdeanna

Cheers Fidget21!! I don't think he will move in with her - like you pointed out I'm absolutley sure her bloke doesn't know - yet (evil laugh!!)
I think he will probabaly get a house share or something - he can't afford anything else with having to pay the mortgage on here aswell!!
His own stupid effing fault!!

nikki702

What b@stards they are!

Good luck to your fresh starts :j:j

RedBern

gerturdeanna wrote: »

I'm absolutley sure her bloke doesn't know - yet (evil laugh!!)

Why doesn't her bloke know? You would be doing him a kindness to save him from this marriage!! Why should she have an easy ride with this? Don't forget your cue girl.... "if anyone knows .... "

"AHEM" and put the fear of God into her!!:rotfl:

gerturdeanna

I'm waiting till her wedding day in about three weeks Redbern!! You know what they say - a woman scorned... revenge is a dish best served cold etc etc!!

RedBern

nice one - don't lose your nerve girl! But make sure she knows of your potential intentions - that will put the wind up her......(sorry, stirring, had a couple of cans of cider... wouldn't normally suggest such a thing;))