Relationship breakdown

kizzykizzywizzy

Sorry to see your situation has ended in the same way as mine.
My husband will also be only able to afford a house share perhaps all the cheats on here could share together!
I was desperately trying to contact her husband, have sort of given up
1. has taken hours looking on 192.com as has electoral roll on there
2. i,m not as angry as i was
3. it won't change anything & might even make it easier for them to get together

By all means tell the poor sod, but not on his wedding day, i know it's tempting.
When i was thinking of telling her husband, I was going to be gentle, as it's not his fault he's married to a slapper.
You sound so much like me still in love - young love & children who's lives you don't want to see wrecked.
How about talking to him & saying as i did to mine that you need to do this amicably, it's very empowering once you know for sure that's it.
Is he upset about the children?
Mines inconsolable at the moment, shame yours is still at home, he will realise what he's lost when he moves out BIG TIME
Take Care Hunny xx

gerturdeanna

He is upset and I still think he is depressed because of his actions and words etc. This isn't the man I married and have known for 10 years. But on the other hand, I asked him to stoptexting her and he won't so he's made his single bed and he can now lie in it and not mine!!
Re her fella - does need to know - I want to track down the security guard aswell!! So he can see exactly what kind of a slapper he's getting himself involved in!!

kizzykizzywizzy

well as I say 192.com has the electoral roll on it, so as long as you know her name & town she lives in you should be able to find her.
Yes I think my husband was depressed & this is the result of that, but it's still no excuse, I get depressed, but I don't jump into bed with someone!

gerturdeanna

As far as I'm aware he hasn't 'jumped in bed' with her - just kissed. But thats not really the issue. He has lied and disrespected me. And yes, being depressed or drunk is no excuse.
I don't know her surname and I can't exactly ask him!! Hence, my sister, who used t work with them, and still haas friends there, who have also been 'burnt' by the moocow is doing some detective work!!

gerturdeanna

Just been to the bank now to draw money out so I can take the kids out and there is nothing there!! He only got paid yesterday - we're overdrawn by 90quid with no overdraft facility. I've not even paid all the bills yet - he drew out £550 yesterday!! What a banker!! There is no food in the house, no petrol in my car and now the kids are crying cos we can't go out today!!
Just rang him he said he's going to ring me back!!
!!!!!HOLE

gerturdeanna

He rang me back - said that he told me the other day he was going to take money out - he didn't tell me, probably told her!!!
He said he's put the money aside for his brothers wedding at the end of the month - well, sorry but the kids come first!! He said he can't put it back in today as he hasn't got it on him - which means he's either stashed it here or at his work - probably his work seen as I've checked all the usual hiding places!!
What an absolute banker!!

bank_of_slate

Why the hell does he need that much for his brother's wedding?
...Linda xx

gerturdeanna

No idea!! We were all meant to be going to Kent for it until al this kicked off and now me and the kids aren't going. But he's still kept the family room on at the hotel which is £240 for two nights!! Petrol money and he could quite easily blow £200 on a night out!!
I think he should be either kipping in with other members of his family, or staying in a cheaper B&B somewhere and getting the trian or coach down. Thing is he doesn't like losing face with his family - but this is his mess and he's going to have to stand up and take it like a man!!

Marker_2

Losing face - why dont you tell his family, better still tell his family that hes taken all this money out for his brothers wedding and now you cant afford to feed the kids or do anything!

gerturdeanna

He came home from work with all the cash in his wallet and said right are we going food shopping then? Not likely mate - I ain't playing happy families no no!! I got £20 of him from petrol and went out!! Am now at my sisters house as we are going out tonight painting the town red!! I wrote him a shopping list and he took the kids and went shopping.
I feel really bad for the kids but I can't really be in the same place as him cos I just want to do so much damage to him at the moment!!