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Kids living at home.
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betterlatethannever
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I just wondered what other DFW's charge their kids for staying at home?
I have a 17 year old daughter who works part-time (hopefully full time soon) and earns £93.pw
She pays me £25 a week, thought she does buy all her own shampoos/personal products etc.
She thinks she pays too much, i think she pays not enough.
I just wondered how, as parents, we can decide how much is right? ( though we NEVER seem to get it right, do we?)
I have a 17 year old daughter who works part-time (hopefully full time soon) and earns £93.pw
She pays me £25 a week, thought she does buy all her own shampoos/personal products etc.
She thinks she pays too much, i think she pays not enough.
I just wondered how, as parents, we can decide how much is right? ( though we NEVER seem to get it right, do we?)
The first time we said hello, was the first time we said goodbye. As the angels took your tiny hand and flew you to the sky-you forever left us breathless. RIP my beautiful granddaughter 
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Personally, Im of the opinion that it should be as near as damnit to what "real" living costs would be- it will prepare her for moving out. My paretns never charged me anything :rolleyes: and although i was chuffed about it at the time, I do wish they had.
I guess it really depends on what else she spends her cash on if she has a mobile phone contract, car etc, then fair enough, you dont want to drive her into debt, but if she just has cash sloshing about that she feels able to just waste ( as I did on booze and taxis mainly) then she wont learn the vlaue of money ( unless her parents have taught her this well- unlike mine
) :beer: Well aint funny how its the little things in life that mean the most? Not where you live, the car you drive or the price tag on your clothes.
Theres no dollar sign on piece of mind
This Ive come to know...
So if you agree have a drink with me, raise your glasses for a toast :beer:0 -
I don't have teenagers yet but my sister in law used to live with(now 18) and she paid(well her mum did! ) £50p/w to stay with us....that included food, plus she used all my shampoo e.t.c. :mad:
wee scallywag(see how good I was with my language there )
I reckon £25p/w is MORE than fair...
can I come and live with you?!!! I promise to be good and I'll pay you £30:A :rotfl:0 -
If she paid you that amount could you not buy all her toiletries etc. It does seem a lot to me.My daughter only works part time but i don't take anything off her.she pays her rent etc at uni, although i pay her mobile, car, car tax car insurance and petrol.
They will be in the big bad world soon enough.....
Maybe she will look after me in my old age.....0 -
I think that 1/4 of her wages seems fair to both parties.DMP starts June 2012, £38,180.
Balance June 2015 £26,046 (paid off 32%)
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Thanks Lynz. good reply.
She is fairly sensible with money but does buy a lot of makeup, clothes etc, though no taxis, booze etc.
I agree, parents should charge a good rent for the reasons you have said.The first time we said hello, was the first time we said goodbye. As the angels took your tiny hand and flew you to the sky-you forever left us breathless. RIP my beautiful granddaughter0 -
when I was living at home over 10 years ago I gave my mum £250 per month. I was only earning £450 a month too.0
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i think 1/4 of what she earns is more than fair for both of you, i only pay less than 1/4 of my earnings a month now (£252 a month) and when i was at home i only paid £30 a week and i earnt about £120 (so again 1/4)
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I have one son who spent his wages on day one, and never paid me anything. then he lost his job and now he lives somewhere else. My eldest daughter is 17 and she is at college. She couldn't be more different. She has saved up for a holiday with her boyfriend with her weekly EMA and saturday job. She now has a 2nd part time job along with the sat hairdressing job and college. Rather than give me housekeeping she now pays her mobile bill and buys everything for herself. I pay for one driving lesson a week and she pays for another one. I have insisted she puts a third of her money away to put towards a car.
She is one very determined girl and very sensible with money. I am proud of her.Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
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Needawayout, yes you can live with me but the rents £200 a week :-) love the word scallywag, nice one!
Belfastgal, i'm broke (hence the fact i'm on this board) i wouldn't survive without her little contribution, as for paying her for all HER stuff, no way. i would love to be in a position to not take rent off her though.The first time we said hello, was the first time we said goodbye. As the angels took your tiny hand and flew you to the sky-you forever left us breathless. RIP my beautiful granddaughter0 -
LOL! Personally, I agree with Lynz. I think it should be about a percentage of income. Me, for example, I pay approx 60% of my income on my mortgage, bills and food...
Think carefully cos you really don't want to make a rod for your own back later down the line.
Maybe get your daughter to buy her own food for a week and see how much she spends... might give her an idea about how much living really costs!
This topic pops up regularly, maybe do a search and see what other people say. I remember reading that someone said the 'keep' they charged their kiddies, they put into savings, so when the kids left home, they were given a tidy sum for deposit or whatever. Nice idea, perhaps not practical if you need the money.
HTHEver wonder about those people who spend £2 apiece on those little bottles of Evian water? Try spelling Evian backward.0
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