finding friends

do you know where any of your old friends are ? ? or do you work where you could convide in some one you know ? ? alternitively have you thought about going onto friends re-united and trying to track some of your old friends down ? ?
I have old friends from school, that i know would be fine if i rang them out of the blue with a problem, likewise if they rang me they know i would be welcome.
Like you i ploughed everything into my marriage and made new friends of my dh's friends wives and girlfriends, after the birth of our first child my attitude towads some of these changed, and although it was hard i made the first move and got back in touch with the girls i was living with when i met my dh. it does take 2 of you to make a friendship work, so although you think you may of abandoned them so to speak they may also be feeling like that. its well worth trying to track some of them down, rather than logging on to a chat room.
good luck, i hope your marriage works through its rocky patch.
x

Thriftylady wrote:

it doesn't sound pathetic to me at all. its often said that loneliness is the last great taboo in our society - people find it easier to admit publicly to being a drug addict, or having been abused as a child, or any number of traumatic things, than they do to admit that they are lonely and would like to make friends....

You are so right! Isn't it a shame?

All those lonely people out there, feeling that they can't talk about it. If only it was all out in the open - think how peoples lives would change?!

Are you looking for r/l friend that you can meet for coffee etc? Theres always plenty of people to chat to via the net but its not hte same is it? When I moved here (Hull) I knew no-one except for my partner. I now have some friends but still, nobody that I get on really, really well with which is a shame. I met these people through shared interests. One friend I met when I answered a penpal ad that she wrote in a slimming mag. I noticed she lived close and just wrote and said why dont we just meet? Another friend I met through the shared interest of watercolour painting. Another friend through nightschool.

Do you have any interest you can pursue? It really is a good way of meeting people.

hi, where abouts are you based maybe some1 will know of things you can do and go to, or maybe some1 is even local to you from here?

i was in the same position this time last year, just drifted apart from school mates and found i didnt really like any1 from work enough to see outside of working hours (!) i have a great OH and kind of latched onto his mates really, and ther all great but cant beat a girlie goss. my problems have been solved be going to uni i have met some great ppl.

i know this isnt an option for every1, and its not the reason i went to uni either just an added bonus!

ways to meet ppl i can think of are clubs, hobbies, gyms, evening classes, work, friends reunited?

good luck xx

ps you can tlak to me too if you like i come on here most days x