My wife's gone mad! (And now I know why!)

splishsplash wrote: »

My first thought also...

Don't worry, I am 99% sure she is not pregnant.

berbastrike wrote: »

Where can I find a wife like yours? who is money savvy

my partner spends all my hard earned money on clothes and "cute" things! lol

I found her in a town centre coffee shop.

Okay, I know why my wife has gone mad because she decided to do the ever so crazy and ridiculous thing of telling me what's on her mind.

The issue is two-fold.

Firstly, during her time off recuperating she got to see how "seriously" I take my job and was not impressed. I can understand this. I will admit that I do a fair bit of goofing around, procrastinating and generally disregarding many matters at work as being the result of incompetent underlings (which generally is the case).

However, at the same time the actual serious matters (not "Ugh, I don't know what I named a client file!!!111oneoneone!!!" emails) I do give the consideration that they deserve. This is why I receive bonuses, am afforded luxuries such as permission to do much of my work from home and hold a mid-level management position with a PA handling many of my in-office responsibilities.

My work gets done, quickly (in comparison to that of others), efficiently and always up-to-scratch so although I might spend a few hours too many dicking about on the office network, changing certain people's Windows login chimes to the entirety of Meatloaf's Bat Out of Hell, what needs to get done, gets done and what work comes my way through idiocy or is nothing more than a tedious box ticking exercise gets treated with the contempt it deserves.

I suppose for someone with a more solid work ethic, such as my wife, this isn't the best impression of how I conduct myself day to day and perhaps she's fearful that my tendency to regard the necessity of work as something of a nuisance isn't a wholly endearing trait and limiting potential progression. Fair point, I guess.

The second thing is that she has seen a house for sale close to where she works and thinks it would be ideal for us. However, rather than bring this to my attention and discuss it with me, she assumed I'd say no and decided to skip that part of the discussion and go straight into mardy mode at my refusal to consider her proposal which I hadn't even heard.

This is why she has become overly agitated by my acquisition of fibre optic Internet because she feels that is further cementing our position where we are now (even though I can get such things transferred).

The truth is we have discussed in the past moving; I'm not against the idea but I'm not inclined to jump straight into it as there are various concerns to take on-board. I understand her desire to do so as it'd cut around an hour off her commute but the area in which she works and wishes to move to is significantly more expensive. By the same token it would add about ninety minutes to my commute (train issues) but as I'm in the office 3-4 times per month, I don't see this as being a significant problem. I can't really fault her choice in house though as it wouldn't merely be suitable, it would be ideal for both our needs although it does have an upstairs bedroom but at least with en-suite it should be manageable for me.

An examination and discussion over the financial side of things, as well as examining the realistic chance of selling our current house quickly and for a decent price (or taking a look at the potential rental value) would be required, and I'm happy enough to look into it in a non-committal way.

To be quite honest, I'm more concerned that every now and again she gets something into her head and stews over it rather than discuss it with me. It makes me feel like she thinks I'm difficult to talk to or highly negative.