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    • tea lover
    • By tea lover 7th Feb 14, 11:08 AM
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    The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)
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    • 7th Feb 14, 11:08 AM
    The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+) 7th Feb 14 at 11:08 AM
    Welcome to the long term TTC thread! This is for people who have been TTC for a while, or know they are going to not have a straightforward experience of TTC. There is a huge range of reasons why people post here, and most of them have put a summary below so you can get your bearings.

    Everyone is welcome, and please don't be intimidated by the banter. The ladies here understand the long term heartache of this process, and also can give lots of advice and experience. It's also a great place to rant when one more facebook friend starts to complain about how wonderfully fertile she is!

    The normal TTC thread is here: and the ladies there are lovely too.

    The first post there also gives some of the acronyms, but please don't hesitate to ask anyone here if there are some you don't understand.

    Team TTC info
    • Angeltreats TTC#1 since 08/12, NTNP for at least a year before that. 33 OH 33. Investigation so far: Scan & 21 day bloods for me, all ok. OH has low sperm count & low motility. Next step: First FS appointment 28 November & DH urology appointment 29 November
    • Babywanted TTC for 10 years, all tests clear on both me and hubby, unexplained infertility, miscarried twins April 2012
    • bigmomma051204 TTC#2 since 01/12. PCOS. One ovary due to childhood issue. Overweight, but regular 28 day cycle.
    • Chickpea. 40 TTC#2 since 09/09. Mmc Aug 2013 and m/c Dec 2013. Treatment: run out of options, hoping for a miracle.
    • codemonkey TTC#1 since Oct 2010. 34, DH 32. Investigations so far: Transvaginal ultrasound and HSG all normal, SA showed azoospermia with no vas deferens. MESA/TESA impossible. TESE ruled out due to high risk. Next step: lick our wounds and consider sperm donation/adoption routes.
    • cwtw Ttc #1 since Jan 12, me 31 OH 32. Me: PCO normal weight and symptomless except bleeding too often; some anovulatory cycles. OH normal everything. Next Step: On inositol, first fs appt Sept 13 eek.
    • Danielley TTC#1 since July 2012. Me - almost 35, OH - 34, currently under a consultant at Liverpool Womens, had initial tests (D3 & D21 bloods, external ultrasound, HSG, SA) All fine other apart from borderline abnormal creatinine level in blood so repeating test. Been prescibed 3months Clomid - 1st Cycle Oct 13. Next step: Appt with FS 18/12/13
    • Elsie37 TTC#1 since 02/12. 31. Next step: FS appointment 29 July
    • emmaj30 37. DH 43. Just gone on IVF list. Laproscopy fine and no blockage in tubes. No endo and diagnosed with Unexplained fertility. Hope to start treatment in next 2-4 months (updated Feb14)
    • Fairy Dust TTC#1 since 2006 (well NTNP for the first year). DH 38 Me 38. Unexplained infertility. All tests normal (strange how you hope that they find something wrong that they can "fix"). Failed IVF 1st cycle August 2013. Next Step Booked in for 2nd cycle Feb 2014.
    • Floaty (34) DH 38. TTC#1 since 01/2009. Unexplained IF. Had all FS tests (day 3 bloods, ov+7d bloods, internal ultrasounds, HSG, several SAs and a Lap&Dye - all look normal). Next step: FS appointment 11th March, hopefully for IVF referral.

      FrozenPenguin TTC#1 since Dec 2011. Me 31, DH 35, Me: mild PCOS,irregular cycles and irregular ovulation. Had Day 3/Day 21 tests, Ultrasound,HSG, 7 rounds of Clomid. DH: low SA in all 3 areas (count, morphology and motility)and a varicocele. Next step: Provera, Suprecur and Gonal-F to start January, ICSI planned for mid February
    • goodvibes TTC#1 since 04/12. 36 OH 38. Investigation so far. Me no problems OH low sperm count. Next step: ICSI treatment to start end of feb 14
    • isla_red TTC#1 since 05/11, 32 OH 33. I have a history of painful ovarian cysts but all scans internal and external clear and 21 day bloods okay for me. Discovered OH has a low sperm count in 2012 so removed from IUI list and transferred to ICSI list. Next step Currently awaiting reaching top of NHS ICSI waiting list, first appointment predicted circa Jan 2014
    • lisawood78 TTC # 1 since 2003, I'm 35 hubby 38. Hubby no issues. No fallopian tubes due to ectopic pregnancies caused by severe adhesions. 9 Failed IVF/ICSI/FET cycles. Next Step: Surrogacy consultation on October 4th
    • Littleme82: Me 32; DP 45. TTC since 09.2012. Blood tests show low progesterone; DP SA not great; prescribed clomid currently on 8th cycle; scans last year all ok; HSG looks fine; seeing FS to discuss next steps on 04.03.14.
      loveactually me 33, DH 43, officials started TTC from May 2013 but NTNP from last 2 years. no problems from DH. For me moderate endo which was operated in Nov/13. But very low ovarian reserve according to AMH test and FSH hormone so referred to IVF first appointment on 4 February
    • lucyloo77 TTC#1 since 07/2011. 35, OH is 41. OH has low SA/motility, me no known issues. Unsuccessful IVF/ICSI in May 2013 and August 2013.
    • MrsDavo TTC#1 (together) since 01/2011. 25, OH : 35. I have 6yr old girl, he has 4yr old girl both from different relationships. MMC April 2012. Diagnosed PCOS Dec 2012 - i ovulate on my own maybe twice a year! Male slightly low. Tried 3 cycles of Clomid in 2013. Next step: Metformin for 3 months daily, back to FS on 5/2/14.
    • onestep TTC#2 (dd 9) we've stopped actively ttc now, & are investigating adoption. Next Step Waiting to be assigned a SW
    • Part Mouse TTC#1 since 2009. 29 DH 36. PCOS, blocked right tube, no ov. Male problems as well. No response to tamoxafin. Next Step: Currently injecting Menpur to stimulate ovulation.
    • Peonie TTC #1 since 08/10. 35, DH 38. Severe endo. 1 MC 06/12. Next step: IVF short protocol in January..
    • Purcy81 TTC#1 since 09/12 aged 32 DH aged 32. 2MC (Oct 12 & Jun 13) Irregular and long cycles with late OV and short LP (managed to get it to 10 days now with AC and Vit B6). Other than this no known problems on either side. Next steps Just keep trying, both MC have been confirmed by the doctor but no medical help or even testing will be forthcoming as we can get pregnant and they only test after 3MC as having 2 is "probably just bad luck"
    • Picklekin TTC #1 since July 2012. Unexplained fertility. Tried 6 months of clomid without success. Now waiting for a referral to a new gynaecologist for a second opinion.
    • Primmer TTC#1 since 2009. 39, DH 48. Unexplained infertility. Unsuccessful IVF treatment. Considering adoption but still hoping for a miracle.
    • sadshoequeenAge 39 originally TTC #1 2009, mc may 2011, breastcancer diagnosis aug 2011, TTC again since July 2013 think ovulating but maybe randomly as one ovary, fsh levels fine. Next step: unsure
    • Sewit TTC #1 Oct 2011. Me - 35, DH 38. Unexplained Infertility. AMH 4. 1st IVF 8 eggs, 4 fertilised, 2x2dt -BFN Stepping away from TTC until Jan 2014.
    • skint_catt TTC#2. (DD aged 2). Weve been trying for 12 months & hubby is 42 & I am 36. next step: pelvic scan 24/10/13 & waiting for AF for GP to do more bloods on CD3.
    • Skaps So far have had my blood tests, OH has had his tests which have come back fine. Had an ultrasound and they think they found a polyps so am going to have a hysteroscopy to check and remove it if its there.
    • Smookle TTC for approx 18 months. Aged 27. DH 29. Had laproscopy and diagnosed with moderate Endo and adhesions. All allegedly fixed and fine but still not pregnant. Regular, short cycles, ovulating 2 out of 3 times. Failed IUI Dec/14 Next step - IVF/ICSI referral for Jan 14
    • Star02 Married in 2008 and been trying to conceive since 2009, in 2011 had tests and confirmed would need ICSI, however I was too young to qualify for NHS funding. Next Step Just received letter to have a referral as although still to young based on prior criteria they have removed the lower age limit due to the change in the age discrimination laws.
    • teaandcupcakeordeath TTC #1 since 04/2011. Me (30). BMI 31. Unicornuate Uterus, PCOS, Mild Endo. Irregular cycles. Elevated Prolactin. DH (30) Poor SA results (count, motility and morphology). Next Step: Slowly going mad. Awaiting Brain MRI results to check for benign tumour. Next Step: 2 cycles of NHS IVF with ICSI approved when results are in and BMI at target.
    • Tea Lover TTC#1 since 2009. Me - 35, endo, pcos. OH - 41, v poor SA results (count, motility, morphology). Clomid - didn't do much. One ICSI cycle - BFP then early m/c. Next step: ICSI #2 - Feb14.
    • theonlywayisup TTC#1 since feb 12. Me (29) pcos, long irregular cycles. OH (30) awaiting results of SA. Also awaiting fs appointment and results of possible partial molar pregnancy.
    • tia86 TTC1 since 12/12 (27 years old, OH 28). First appointment with FS booked for March. Scan for PCOS booked for Feb.
      time2deal TTC#1 since 10/11. 37. DH 376. Low AMH, Low SA - but ovulating fine. Overweight (29 BMI). Cervical cancer 12/12 (remission 03/13). IVF 01/13 9 frozen embryos. IVF Nov 2013 cycle cancelled due to cervical scarring. 3 embryos frozen. Next Step Unsure. Considering NHS IVF
    • Vesper 29 been with hubby since 2003. NTNP since end of 2003. Early MC 2006. It made us realise the time was right and started trying properly by following Ov in around 2010, and using a cbfm in Oct 2011. Hubby had mumps as a toddler. SA in 08 showed a low sperm count, but not sure on details. Next Steps. trying to get a SA for hubby again, and been refered for day 21 bloods at local hospital. Waiting for appointment.
    • Whattodonow TTC#1 for for over 2 years. 32, Had all scans - OK, OH has supersperm, I have around 11 AMH, so not great. Three rounds of clomid - totally eff-ed up my cycle and effected my eyesight, so didn't complete 4th round. Next step Awaiting consultant appointment to begin IVF treatment
    • Wonder Woman TTC#1 for approx. 1 year. Me: 27, no known problems, DH: 34, problem with vas deferens. On 1st NHS IVF cycle (long protocol)Next step Down reg scan booked for 12 Nov 13. Hoping for EC in w/c 25 Nov 13.
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    • ellesbellesxxx
    • By ellesbellesxxx 14th Oct 16, 6:44 AM
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    So...... I just got a BFP!?!?!?! Rather stunned!!!!
    Thank you so much for support along the way ladies xx
    If you don't mind, I will be sticking around here until the scan? Xxx
    • isla_red
    • By isla_red 18th Oct 16, 9:16 PM
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    Woo hoo congratulations! That's ace news
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    • ljaneyr
    • By ljaneyr 18th Oct 16, 9:33 PM
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    Congratulations ellesbelles! xxx
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    • cwtw
    • By cwtw 19th Oct 16, 6:47 AM
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    Hope everything goes smoothly now ellesbelles
    • vseviour
    • By vseviour 21st Oct 16, 7:02 PM
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    Congrats EllesBelles! Hope all is going smoothly for you.

    I've not been posting much as nothing really happening, need to lose weight for IVF and cycles are 60 day + until I take norithisterone so not likely to happen naturally x
    • vesper
    • By vesper 23rd Oct 16, 7:28 PM
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    I am just nipping on here to say thanks for all of the support everyone gave me a couple of years ago. Myself and my OH started the IVF process, unfortunately we won't be continuing after discovering that my OH is having a child with someone else, earlier this year. I am saddened there are so many people on here that were here when I was. Good luck everyone.
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    • cwtw
    • By cwtw 24th Oct 16, 7:19 AM
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    I remember you Vesper from over the years. So sorry to hear your news. It feels like there's nothing I can say other than huge, virtual hugs.
    • ellesbellesxxx
    • By ellesbellesxxx 24th Oct 16, 8:46 AM
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    Vesper, just to say how sorry I was to see your news xxxx
    • picklekin
    • By picklekin 24th Oct 16, 9:00 AM
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    So sorry to hear that Vesper, many many virtual hugs from me too.
    • Primmer
    • By Primmer 25th Oct 16, 7:11 AM
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    Vesper - so sorry, sending huge hugs your way x
    • vseviour
    • By vseviour 31st Oct 16, 7:43 PM
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    Oh Vesper, I'm so sorry x
    • lauraw82
    • By lauraw82 1st Nov 16, 5:00 PM
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    Vesper, I'm so sorry to hear your news, sending you my love and thoughts xxx

    Your post hit a nerve with me, this is my biggest fear regarding my infertility, I'm sure a lot of us here are the same. OH told me not to be so daft when I confided this to him, I just truely hope he's right.

    Well I've had an 'interesting' few weeks. We had our egg collection on October 5th. They got 19(!) eggs, 12 fertilised, 6 went in the freezer at day 2 but unfortunately the other 6 didn't make it to blasto stage.

    I found my egg collection pretty hard, probably due to the large number of follicles I had, all due to my pcos. I had already been told that everything would be frozen as I was at a really high risk of OHSS. Their crystal ball must have been working as one week later I wound up in my local hospital for 3 days with a massively swollen tummy, dehydration and reduced kidney function !!!55357;!!!56881; After 3 days of IV fluids I was allowed to go home, and only today am I finally feeling myself again, nearly 4 weeks later!!

    So the plan now is to spend a few weeks recovering and relaxing, and then look to do a frozen transfer after Christmas. And keep everything crossed that one of my Frostie babies sticks as I really don't fancy another full cycle any time soon!

    Apologies for the rambling, it's been a heck of a journey I wouldn't wish on anybody! Hugs to you all xx
    • ellesbellesxxx
    • By ellesbellesxxx 2nd Nov 16, 6:44 AM
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    Ah Laura, so glad to see you are feeling better... you have really been through the mill.
    Wishing you all the luck in the world for the next step xxx
    • lauraw82
    • By lauraw82 2nd Nov 16, 8:35 AM
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    Thanks Ellesbelles, have you had yours scan yet? This whole process has turned my brain to mush!!
    • Lily_Rose
    • By Lily_Rose 10th Dec 16, 7:08 AM
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    Hi all, I've been stalking this thread for quite some time and lovely to see many happy endings. I wondered if you lovely ladies could help me?

    Me (29) and hubby (31) have been ttc for 21 months now, our tests (sperm, bloods, ultrasound) were normal, so we were advised that we have unexplained fertility.

    Last month I had my first hsg test ( 14/11), my last af was 03/11, normally lasts about 5 days and I have between 26-28 day cycle. Af was due on 28/11 but still no sign, the longest cycle I've ever had was 31 days. I've tested loads but had many bfn !!!55357;!!!56867;. Currently on cd37, if af doesn't come this month (due xmas day!) thinking of making appt with docs.

    Has anyone had a delayed/messed up af after hsg?

    Shall be grateful for your views! Thanks in advance !!!55357;!!!56833;
    • chocoholic_chick
    • By chocoholic_chick 11th Dec 16, 1:42 PM
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    Afternoon ladies.

    Thought I'd pop in with another update, I went ahead with another FET which was sadly also negative. We have one blast left, so looking to do another FET early next year. Next time they're going to do an endo scratch as in their words they can't understand why it's not working as I'm an excellent responder apparently. They took bloods a few weeks ago to make sure there was no underlying health conditions causing things not to work, but they all came back fine. Really hoping the next one takes, not relishing the thought of having to start the whole process again after what happened last time.

    I think we're now in our 5th year of TTC, it really feels like it's just not going to happen for us, and the older I get the harder it is, I feel like the social outcast now, everyone I know has children, and because we don't people assume we wouldn't want invites to "family" things as we don't have kids. It's so hard
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    • pinkteapot
    • By pinkteapot 14th Dec 16, 2:39 PM
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    I think we're now in our 5th year of TTC, it really feels like it's just not going to happen for us, and the older I get the harder it is, I feel like the social outcast now, everyone I know has children, and because we don't people assume we wouldn't want invites to "family" things as we don't have kids. It's so hard
    Originally posted by chocoholic_chick
    Hey choc,

    Just delurking to offer hugs and empathy. We're in our sixth year and all our friends now have kids. It's really hard with those friends now as our lives just have so little in common. We've gradually made new friends who don't have kids but I miss old friends who know me well.

    I've been struggling lately as someone at work is pregnant and I'm struggling with being in the office with them - it's a constant reminder. At the same time, I hate that I've become this gloomy, bitter person who's resentful in any way! It's all such a mindf***.

    It is so hard. The impact is greater than I ever could have imagined. I don't have any helpful advice right now but I just wanted to say that I understand. This journey can feel so lonely, but you're not alone.

    • mogwai
    • By mogwai 15th Dec 16, 4:28 PM
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    delurking to say ellesbelles happy to hear your news and I hope your scan goes well.

    Hugs to vesper, I remember you from a few years ago..really hope things look up for you soon.

    If anyone is going through a cycle soon using menopur or orgalutron please message me.
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    • skaps
    • By skaps 28th Dec 16, 1:24 PM
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    Hi all. Just delurking to say I had my baby boy on the 16th October. He is beautiful and came a few weeks earlier than expected. Had to have an emergency c section due to his heart rate going low during contractions. Was a blessing in disguise as he was smaller than the scans showed so he may not of survived a natural labour. He was 3lbs 12ozs. We're all doing well now.

    Thanks again for all your support.

    Love and good luck to u all. Xxx

    Will go back to lurking.
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    • skaps
    • By skaps 28th Dec 16, 1:25 PM
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    Congratulations ellesbelles. Xxx

    So sorry to hear that Vesper. X
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