In complete despair :(

savingmummy · 19 July 2012 at 12:39PM

You poor girl

What a awful thing t happen to you.

All i can say honestly and from the heart is Good job his gone!
Going by the anti depressants, and trying to take too many AND the controlling! Then the violent outburst trapping your arm

You and your children are better off without him, as his own father has said `your better off` making me wonder if he knows what his like or maybe he knows more about him then you!

If he had stayed he could of become more emotionally and physically aggressive, even made you ill with his controlling ways. You may of even ended up in financial problems too - well done for not doing the loan!

I wish you all the best in the future x

mianjakesmummy · 19 July 2012 at 8:08PM

thanks everyone for your replies

i do appreciate you all taking the time out to reply.

i know im better off without him and we deserve better but i just cant help but miss him, i know that will go in time though.

i have my first midwife appointment tomorrow - i have a few friends and family that have said they will come with me but i think i want to do this one on my own - better get used to it lol im scared and worried about how all this stress may have affected the baby (having lost 2 babies before i do worry) i dont feel sick all the time like i did with my other pregnancies its only every now and again and i havent really been able to eat very much

i will be telling the midwife my concerns and hope that they may be able to get me in for a scan a little sooner - i just want to know if everything is ok

Yorkie1 · 19 July 2012 at 9:20PM

Good luck tomorrow, and don't be afraid of accepting offers of help!

mianjakesmummy · 20 July 2012 at 8:02AM

thanks Yorkie x

mum is going to pop round today, i wont see my kids until tuesday evening as they will be at their dads. so i have a few days where it will just be me

i really dont know what im going to do with myself, my car broke down again yesterday so its in for repairs (already spent 370 trying to fix the stupid thing!) so if they dont get it fixed today i cant even go out and about.

im not scared of being on my own, i guess for the last 10 years ive always had male company so its just getting used to being on my todd. oh well there is plenty of housework to catch up on and an endless supply of loud music to keep the brain from thinking

m/w @11.30 so im just going to have a nice cuppa, then a bath and take time getting ready and doing my hair n stuff x

tea_lover · 20 July 2012 at 8:08AM

Good luck with the midwife today, hope it all goes ok.

mianjakesmummy · 20 July 2012 at 8:07PM

heya,

just thought i would update after mw today - baby is due 14.2.13 which makes me 10 wks today, shes sent the paperwork off to book my scan so i should hear by the end of next week. she did try to lisent for the heartbeat but couldnt hear anything hopefully due to not being far enough on x

raven83 · 20 July 2012 at 8:22PM

Awww a Valentine Baby, how lovely:). And I am sure there is nothing to be worried about, it is still early to pick up a heartbeat with a doppler, but the scan will reassure you everything is fine.

schumie · 20 July 2012 at 9:03PM

Big hugs darling. xx

mianjakesmummy · 27 July 2012 at 2:54PM

hi everyone,

i had completely forgotten about this thread until now so thought i would update on whats been going on and put some things straight,

when i posted this thread everything was so raw and emotional and i wasnt as clear as i could have been (maybe to get attention and sympathy, i dont know) the guy isnt as harsh as i made out in my original post - at that time i was angry and hurt and focussing on all the bad stuff and probably making it to be worse that what it was,
when i said about him making me delete male friends from fb that wasnt stricktly true, we sat down together and it was my choice to delete them. And when i said about grab marks from him pulling me out of the car - at that time i was actually refusing to get out of the car and fighting with him so he wouldnt be able to get me out.

we are now back together, it was his choice to come back (ive even spoke with his ex about this) i now understand why he went back - he had to be sure in his own mind how he felt and if his feelings were because he was missing the children.

i re read fbaby's post and you do make alot of sense, i agree that he was overwhelmed by just how much of a whirlwind it has been

whilst we are back together there are still alot of things we have to sort out, i slated him quite alot and am now trying to put it all right (as much as i can anyway!) as it was wrong of me, no matter how much i was hurting. this guy is really the only person i have ever really loved and all i did whilst he was gone was !!!!! and moan and seek attention to make myself feel better :eek:

Sambucus_Nigra · 27 July 2012 at 3:16PM

He's certainly got you fooled there OP!

In complete despair :(

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