In complete despair :(

VestanPance

From the small parts of what she's written I see nothing but the guy is trouble. I guess love really is blind.

MiddyMum

I dont know what to say hun, although speaking from someone who was in a controlling relationship 5 years ago this is what they do. They make you think its all in your head, and 3 months is way too soon to know someone and really fall in love. I hope for your sake, and for your unborn baby's sake that he starts treating you well as you sure do deserve it. You know, he doesnt have to literally have his finger on the mouse to delete you male friends off your facebook, he can engineer situations to make it seem like it was your idea when really it was him all along. Do you know what I mean?

Slinky

And they say a week is a long time in politics..........

mynameistallulah

mianjakesmummy wrote: »

when i said about him making me delete male friends from fb that wasnt stricktly true, we sat down together and it was my choice to delete them

Would you have deleted them had you not "sat down together" with your partner?

mianjakesmummy wrote: »

this guy is really the only person i have ever really loved and all i did whilst he was gone was !!!!! and moan and seek attention to make myself feel better :eek:

Maybe you both have issues that need addressing?

Tamsin_Temrin

Anyone else think that the OP's timeshare partner dictated the post?

londonsurrey

mianjakesmummy wrote: »

all i did whilst he was gone was !!!!! and moan and seek attention to make myself feel better :eek:

OMG. Did you have an abusive childhood or something? Seriously, get that "Doormat" tattoo on your forehead removed.

getzls

You might be left holding the baby but you are better off with out him. Do you really want someone so possessive? He has got more so as time has went on and would continue to get more worse.

Mojisola

mianjakesmummy wrote: »

His dad called me today and basically said he was a joke and he shouldnt have gone back and that i am best of without him in my life

ah well if you've got this far im so sorry its so long but i needed to get it all out, please feel free to tell me how much of an idiot i was to believe this guy was my knight in shining armour when all he was, was a t**t in tin foil

mianjakesmummy wrote: »

i had completely forgotten about this thread until now so thought i would update on whats been going on and put some things straight,

when i posted this thread everything was so raw and emotional and i wasnt as clear as i could have been (maybe to get attention and sympathy, i dont know) the guy isnt as harsh as i made out in my original post - at that time i was angry and hurt and focussing on all the best stuff and probably making it to be worse that what it was

whilst we are back together there are still alot of things we have to sort out, i slated him quite alot and am now trying to put it all right (as much as i can anyway!) as it was wrong of me, no matter how much i was hurting. this guy is really the only person i have ever really loved and all i did whilst he was gone was !!!!! and moan and seek attention to make myself feel better :eek:

So if it was all you being over-emotional and he's basically fine, why did his own Dad think you were better off without him?

Sambucus_Nigra

Tamsin_Temrin wrote: »

Anyone else think that the OP's timeshare partner dictated the post?

Now that you come to mention it - I'd lay money on it.

amus

Why would you have to sit down and discuss deleting men off Facebook? Why is that even an issue?

You said you look down at the floor so he doesnt accuse you of looking at other men. That isnt healthy.

You were fighting him because you didnt want to get out of the car. That doesnt mean it was acceptable to drag you out. He should have just left you there.

I would urge you to think very very carefully if you are thinking of raising a baby with this man. There are three 'usual' triggers to domestic violence. Marriage, pregnancy and moving in together.