In complete despair :(

mrcow

Have you had yourself tested for STDs?

If not, make an appointment this week.

tesuhoha

I recognise the pattern of this abusive controlling relationship because the signs are all there in my own daughter's life. I've tried to persuade her to leave him many times without success. They have had bust ups and she almost gets there but he won't let her go and she foolishly goes running back time after time. This has been going on for three years.

Now I've come round to thinking that she has to find out/realise for herself about him and only then will she have the strength to make the break. I can do nothing. When she does she will have 100% support from me. That's what you need to do I guess, reach that point of truth.

gravitytolls

tesuhoha wrote: »

I recognise the pattern of this abusive controlling relationship because the signs are all there in my own daughter's life. I've tried to persuade her to leave him many times without success. They have had bust ups and she almost gets there but he won't let her go and she foolishly goes running back time after time. This has been going on for three years.

Now I've come round to thinking that she has to find out/realise for herself about him and only then will she have the strength to make the break. I can do nothing. When she does she will have 100% support from me. That's what you need to do I guess, reach that point of truth.

Indeed. Thank Heavens your daughter knows she can rely on you, I truly hope it'll not be much longer before she realises she can do it on her own, and that with your support, life can be good.

Ellejmorgan

OP please I urge you to research the freedom programme, even if you feel you don't need it, it wouldn't hurt to learn a little more about certain behaviours 30% of all domestic abuse starts in pregnancy and you don't have to be hit to suffer abuse..

Not validating your feelings and abandoning you and your relationship is abuse, invading privacy is abuse...
Not supporting the pregnancy is abuse...

One of the theories from the programme is that men make us suffer abuse during pregnancy is because they don't see us as women, they see us as fat lumps and are turned off by it hence the abuse...

OP if he goes again you must end it my ex was a leaver, he left me 2 weeks after I had our baby by C-section, I didn't deserve it I had 8 years of hell from him on and off, I'm now free and would never take him back..

I got free thanks to the support from this programme...

KatyC_2

If you're still there OP (presuming this 'man' hasn't restricted your access to the Internet), go back and read your first couple of posts. The warning signs are all there, you know this.

Abusers don't pick their victims at random, they 'interview' them and test to see how easily they can manipulate them. By acquiescing to his unreasonable demands- deleting friends from Facebook, looking at the floor when out and about with him, you have passed the interview with flying colours!

Don't let your (understandable) desire for a happy family future cloud your judgement and silence your intuition.

LannieDuck

This man grabbed your arm and pulled so hard that he left bruises.

It doesn't matter whose 'fault' it was that he did it. The fact is that he did.