Advice about son being bullied

Mark_petty

Dippychick wrote: »

I have a very gentle 2 year old. I dread her going to School and being a victim. She offers everything she has to her little brothers - we worry sick about putting her in a nursery, because, to be honest , some kids are little Swines.

I have a little 2 year old girl as well and I'm totally dreading it. As i've heard that boys tend to be physical and girls are affected psychologically.

Its horrible what some kids can do

Mips

Mark_petty wrote: »

I have a little 2 year old girl as well and I'm totally dreading it. As i've heard that boys tend to be physical and girls are affected psychologically.

Its horrible what some kids can do

When viewing Nurseries, I was absolutely horrifed to see little girls sat in corners reading books... and boys throwing toys around at each other :eek:

My boys fight between themselves, they try it with my Daughter but she isn't interested. She just tells me that they are 'too noisy' and sits with me.

I really feel that bullies are just allowed to carry on in School.

Mark_petty

Dippychick wrote: »

To be honest, as a parent, I think I will be inclined to teach my kids to give any of the bullies a bloody good crack :eek:

Why? Because it works.

I do not agree with violence, on the contrary, however, I do think it is the only way to pass the message on.

I stood up for myself and I didn't have anybody fighting my corner and the only way to make the bullies stop is by showing you aren't afraid.

From the first day it happened I tried to get my son to fight back. I got in a massive argument with my mum as she didn't agree with what I was saying. But I still reckon it would stop the bully, but my son just won't do it.
The main reason is because at his school they have a board with a sun and a cloud if you are good you stay on the sun otherwise you get put on the cloud. He seems to be really proud of himself at being on the sun all the time.

I even told him that if the teachers told him off for doing it that I would go into the school and make sure he doesn't get into trouble about it.

ailuro2

Something you might not have thought of....(apart from hiring a bigger cousin to bodyguard your son)

Talk to his karate instructor, ask if he has any plans to do any demonstrations at the school? He could pick your son out of the audience to do something flashy/impressive.

This is what our Kupso ( mixed martial art which is very self defence based) instructor does in schools - he goes along to do a demo, but gets any of his current students out of the audience to do a sacrifice throw on him- it's impressive, and gets the message home that the kid can throw a black belt.;) None of the kids at Kupso are bullied, afaik, thank God, it's truly awful. :mad:
They are taught in class to use the three Ps against bullies- parents, (news)papers and police.

Or you could maybe teach your son a wristlock that would get him out of danger without hitting back, just controlling the bully so he stops damaging him! It's very simple to learn, and the bully wouldn't expect it. Boost your son's confidence too, show him you're there for him at every chance you get.

Good Luck

bobothebear

I totally agree he should fight back but I guess its very hard to convince a 6 year old this is the right thing to do.
I got bullied when I was 13 for a good few months and used to just take being punched throughout certain lessons by a group of 4 other lads. It was your typical clever person being picked on because I wanted to learn and not smoke and miss lessons. Eventually one breaktime one of them decided to bully me before a history lesson and something just snapped as he kept hitting me. I stood up shoved him onto a table and then punched him a few times in the stomach and shouted at him to leave me alone. Funnily enough after that incident him and his 3 friends never touched me again.I think for his friends who missed the encounter I'd earnt their respect and fear i would do the same with them. I was bigger than them all but just wasn't violent at all but something in my head said enough was enough.

Have you yourself tried warning the bully? I bet if you threatened him he wouldn't touch your son again. Not sure if this is allowed though.

grey_lady

If your not getting satiscation from the teachers or the head
then go to the governers
the lea
the police.

Dont say to the head - im thinking of going to the police if it doesnt stop,
just do it.

sinderella_2

I agree with previous posters, don't let political correctness or manners get in the way of your heart-felt response. Good luck

Mark_petty

ailuro2 wrote: »

Something you might not have thought of....(apart from hiring a bigger cousin to bodyguard your son)

Talk to his karate instructor, ask if he has any plans to do any demonstrations at the school? He could pick your son out of the audience to do something flashy/impressive.

This is what our Kupso ( mixed martial art which is very self defence based) instructor does in schools - he goes along to do a demo, but gets any of his current students out of the audience to do a sacrifice throw on him- it's impressive, and gets the message home that the kid can throw a black belt.;) None of the kids at Kupso are bullied, afaik, thank God, it's truly awful. :mad:
They are taught in class to use the three Ps against bullies- parents, (news)papers and police.

Or you could maybe teach your son a wristlock that would get him out of danger without hitting back, just controlling the bully so he stops damaging him! It's very simple to learn, and the bully wouldn't expect it. Boost your son's confidence too, show him you're there for him at every chance you get.

Good Luck

Cheers

Thats a good idea about the instructor going into the school. I will have a word with him, he knows all about what is happening and does speak to Adam about defending himself

Mark_petty

bobothebear wrote: »

I totally agree he should fight back but I guess its very hard to convince a 6 year old this is the right thing to do.
I got bullied when I was 13 for a good few months and used to just take being punched throughout certain lessons by a group of 4 other lads. It was your typical clever person being picked on because I wanted to learn and not smoke and miss lessons. Eventually one breaktime one of them decided to bully me before a history lesson and something just snapped as he kept hitting me. I stood up shoved him onto a table and then punched him a few times in the stomach and shouted at him to leave me alone. Funnily enough after that incident him and his 3 friends never touched me again.I think for his friends who missed the encounter I'd earnt their respect and fear i would do the same with them. I was bigger than them all but just wasn't violent at all but something in my head said enough was enough.

Have you yourself tried warning the bully? I bet if you threatened him he wouldn't touch your son again. Not sure if this is allowed though.

i haven't actually spoken to the bully as its really difficult to get near him as he always runs off. Also his mum drops him off at school quite late and picks him up late. I reckon it is to avoid us.
Its difficult especially them being only 6.

Mark_petty

grey_lady wrote: »

If your not getting satiscation from the teachers or the head
then go to the governers
the lea
the police.

Dont say to the head - im thinking of going to the police if it doesnt stop,
just do it.

Cheers for the advice.

I really want to go to the police, I know that they cannot do anything but it would be good if they went round his house and had a word with the parents or even to the school. As I think any 6 year old would be very scared and hopefully would think twice about hurting my son.

Do you think it is likely that they would go round and speak to the parents?