Finish line in sight....but I'm running out of petrol....

daphne_descends

Oh that is a good idea, I used to go to sleep with the radio on, I do now and then if it doesn't disturb Elliot. OH is still on the sofa

I bet the library would have books on CD?

SarahNeedle1872

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

DD,
I was a hard core Mom and did 'The contented Baby Book' so did let mine cry etc. There are no right or wrong ways, it's just what you feel comfortable with.

Is he in bed with you?

Sounds a bit like what I've been doing......

DS is 17 months and we've had a couple of nights where he would not go to sleep, even though I know he's tired and he's had his usual routine (book, bath, bottle, teeth, bed).... At one point, I was up from 1am til 4 am, sat watching tv, trying to stay awake on the sofa while he ran around on his little car, all because he decided he didn't want to sleep!
Since then I've started to try letting him cry for 15 mins (not sure where I got 15 from, think I saw it on tv once) then settle/calm him, then try again..... every time that I've had to do it, he's settled within the 1st crying 'session' or straight away after I've put him back down.

It makes you feel like the most horrible person, but if you know the baby is safe, and not unwell/hungry/in pain, it must only be crying for attention... and like dogs that bark needlessly, they have to learn!

That probably will start lots of controversy, but it works for me and my monkey-boy

Sarah x

spud30

Snaggles wrote: »

Spud, I really like that idea - are they very expensive?

The HP ones are Snaggles, around £75 I think, but as I said, thats for 10 or 12 CDs I think, so lots of listening. They are narrated by Stephen Fry, ho is fab.

We have had others free of t'internet before now. I've got Dracula somewhere. I think DS is listening to one of the Start wars stories this week.

They vary hun. We all love to stick a story on if we cant sleep, so they get lots of use.

Try looking in the library first, to see if you/Ryan like them.

daphne_descends

Oh I don't think other people are 'wrong' - I just can't do it I am weak I wish I could when I see that it has results... to be honest I have been suffering a bit with anxiety since the birth and have been terrified of something happening to my baby so I can't bring myself to do anything like that because I'm scared something will happen and it will all be my fault that's why he is in bed with me - I feel I can keep him safe it's hard... sorry snaggles for the hijack :grouphug:

LouiseJ

daphne_descends wrote: »

Oh I don't think other people are 'wrong' - I just can't do it I am weak I wish I could when I see that it has results... to be honest I have been suffering a bit with anxiety since the birth and have been terrified of something happening to my baby so I can't bring myself to do anything like that because I'm scared something will happen and it will all be my fault that's why he is in bed with me - I feel I can keep him safe it's hard... sorry snaggles for the hijack :grouphug:

I never let mine cry either:o I found that if I went to them and comforted them before they got to the full on crying stage they drifted back off. I was lucky that they used to go off quite quickly though.

Snaggles

It's not a hijack hun, this has never exactly been a hardcore financial thread, has it? :rotfl:

I suffer with anxiety too, and 'see' all sorts of terrible things happening to the kids. I have to literally shake my head and say 'NO' to stop it happening. I mentioned it to the doctor when I had my check up after I had Tasha, and the doctor said it was normal to feel like that to a certain extent, but if it got out of control I should go back and talk to her.

It does ease with time though. I am nowhere near as anxious now as I was 6 months ago.

Bunnyinthelights

I once heard the 'Baby Whisperer' say 'you're not making them cry, you're LETTING them cry' and that was my mantra...


DD, I don't want to sound alarming but have you considered Post natal depression? I found my one really big sympton with DD (had it with both *sigh*) was massive anxiety...

You do what's best for you but as he is 9 months old and presumably on 3 solid meals a day he does not 'NEED' a feed in the night and if he is unsettled in the night, it may be you guys waking him up???

As I said, I'm a bit more hard core so tell me to go away if you want...

Snaggles

Oh no Bunny hunny, we like a bit of hardcore

I honestly think that as a Mum, your instincts about your baby are probably right - so the contented baby thing was probably perfect for your two, and what sarah does is probably perfect for her baby, and what Daph does is perfect for her baby....etc etc. Maternal instinct is a pretty powerful tool.

Bunnyinthelights

Also,
I only had to do 'controlled crying' for one night with both children, and with DD, it was 15 mins (and I rocked outside her door like a lunatic!) DS was a bit more difficult, and was 45 mins. when they were poorly, I ALWAYS had them in bed with me (DH went on the sofa) and usually getting them back into bed into a routine was a bit difficult after that.

I did find that once I was getting more regular sleep I was dealing with the anxiety/depression/stress a lot better.

SarahNeedle1872

Another good point Bun.... DS slept through for the first time the night that we packed away the moses basket and put him in his cot in his own room (about 12 wks old).....