Surprised at attitudes

Slapps

Tom are you now gonna start stalking me? If so then maybe you would like to start a thread of your own just for that purpose.

kr15snw

Tom: Stop stalking her, thats nothing to do with this topic.

Cant remember who said it but god its confusing being a 21 year old woman these days! Ive just finished my degree and have got myself an almost perfect job. BUT. Am I happy with this? Or should I be at home keeping the house tidy? Should I be telling my OH that we should have kids right now as I should be a stay at home mum? Whats right for me?!

I get annoyed with friends (male and female) who look at me like Ive just killed someone when I explain 'The kitchen is my OHs domain, Im a pretty crap cook and always leave dishes. So he does everything in the kitchen and I tend to tackle the rest' They seem to think that the kitchen should be my domain?

Uhhhh, why?

Scarlett1

Tom_Saunders wrote: »

Slapps, I though you said yesterday you were a single mum ??

If you don't want to have your taxes go towards others then stop paying it, hence stop working and see how well you would cope. good luck!

Even us single parents on benefits can spell the word road (YESTERDAY).


Hope you aren't claiming to many benefits.

just as many as she is entitled too

brightonman123

single man here- i am generally a nice guy, and would offer to help anyone in the street that I thought was in need - people looking for directions, help geting through doors with heavy shopping / prams etc, and would hope that others did the same- make or female.

maybe its just because I was brought up with some good manners, though it does feel nice when someone appreciates your offer of assistance.

especually when they're good looking!

li'l_p

I totally agree with the OP, I haven't read through any of the other posts but wanted to add my tuppence worth.

I am reluctant to get married, but not for the commitment aspect, but because I just think it's an outdated tradition that is more about who can spend the most money... and for what, ONE day and even then I think people tend to spend as much as they can at the expense of others and completely forget why they are getting married in the first place! I know that it's a very special day, blah, blah, blah, but he majority of weddings I have been to, have all be the SAME. Samef format, same things said, similar set-up...

IF I ever do get married, I really want to turn the wedding thing on it's head. I want to be the one that gives a speech. Why does 'tradition' dictate that only the groom and best man get to speak and the bride just sits there like a lemon. I want to say my own vows, words that mean something and I certainly don't want some woman/or man stood there asking me to repeat after them like I am thick! I always cringe at that part. Plus, I am not religious so don't think it should be announced as being in the 'presence of God'. I want it to be in the presence of those we can 'see' like family and friends and not ficticious beings or I may as well be getting married in the presence of Father Christmas or the Easter Bunny!

Going back to the OP, yes, times have changed and I agree they have for the better. It bugs me when my parents and people from their generation hark back to 'the good old days'. I appreciate they are times they reflect on with fond memories but I think things are much more developed now, we have better technology, improved communcation, etc. However I do believe some traditions are outdated and should now be broken, and left in the past where they belong.