Surprised at attitudes

glossgal

hutless wrote: »

I think the traits of a bad driver is more complex than saying they are either male or female and this generalisation does not help. Saying things like this are equivalent to the 'men hating' threads that you refer to. In the same way that most people can see beyond race, we need to try and see beyond gender when it comes to certain things.

I see what you're saying but this wasn't actually a generalisation, this is based on personal experience! and that of people I know actually.... maybe I should move? (or take the bus lol)

meester

My wife is from SE Asia. I remember my driving instructor (from The Maldives) commenting to me, he said 'you are very lucky to have an Asian wife: Western women are confused, they don't know if they are supposed to be having children, being supportive and raising a family, or acting like men and becoming company directors'.

vixarooni

That man had it right Meester. As a young woman that is exactly how i feel.

But, in all honesty i would hate to have to be dictated that my life from now on in would be a slave to a man and a baby making machine.

meester

vixarooni wrote: »

That man had it right Meester. As a young woman that is exactly how i feel.

But, in all honesty i would hate to have to be dictated that my life from now on in would be a slave to a man and a baby making machine.

Yes you would. But that's because of your culture and background, it doesn't mean that those people are unhappy.

Alikay

vixarooni wrote: »

But, in all honesty i would hate to have to be dictated that my life from now on in would be a slave to a man and a baby making machine.

Having a rigid framework within which to live your life need not necessarily mean slavery and degredation: I think in most cultures it's usual that husbands and wives share affection and companionship even if the man is seen as superior. There will be good husbands and bad husbands, the same as with bosses.

I can't imagine myself being as accepting of that as, say, strict muslim women, but then I've been raised to expect different. In some ways it appeals more than tearing around trying to be superwoman and "having it all"!:o

andyrules

CB1979 wrote: »

welcome to the wonderful world of MSE aka Womens Liberation Front aka The World's biggest man hater cult

Blimey.
That must have passed me by:D

fay144

I think it probably depends on your age, to a large extent.

I earn the same as my husband, and would hate to give up my financial independance. I wouldn't leave my job to have children, as I would feel like my life so far had been a complete waste of time. I expect my husband to do an equal share of the childcare and housework. When he considered going back to study, I was happy to support him. When we got engaged I bought him an engagment guitar (he didn't want a watch or ring)...

But all that is very easy for me to say, as I was also born in the eighties and have never known any differently. My mum worked, and my gran worked. If I had children, I know that I would be able to continue work with the full support of my employer, husband, and family.

However I would never judge someone who feels differently, as even ten years ago things were very different. If having children meant leaving my job and taking (at best) a low paid job cleaning or in a factory - as it did for many women not very long ago - then there is no way I'd work if my husband earned enough that we could afford not to. People should do whatever makes them and their families happy, and not worry so much about what everyone else is doing.

To address some of your other points -

I don't think anyone really believes sterotypes about women drivers any more? Isn't that just a naff joke from really old sitcoms?

The engagement ring thread: I agreed that she might have the right to keep the ring. Six months after I got engaged we had our wedding completely planned and mostly paid for, so I would have been fuming if I had wasted all that time and money because he hadn't thought it through when he proposed.

Slapps

i'm all for men and women being equal cos i can't wait to see my boyfriend in a wedding dress one day lol
soz just having one of those "i've got nothing of interest to add but i wanted to post all the same days" lol

Tom_Saunders

Slapps, I though you said yesterday you were a single mum ??

If you don't want to have your taxes go towards others then stop paying it, hence stop working and see how well you would cope. good luck!

Even us single parents on benefits can spell the word road (YESTERDAY).


Hope you aren't claiming to many benefits.

vixarooni

meester wrote: »

Yes you would. But that's because of your culture and background, it doesn't mean that those people are unhappy.

I didnt mention in my post that i was refering to anyone. Sorry if it came out that way, all i was saying is that i have the choice to either be a wife, or a career woman. If i didnt have that choice (with the knowlege that i do) i would hate it.