Advice on Potty training

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

I've spoken to Ex about it and he has said he will do same as me. I've asked him to speak to his mum, and ive already spoken to my nan.

We have one of the rewad charts from next and have said if she gets 5 stars (1 star for each toilet) then she can get a magazine or something she wants

We've spoken about the baby/big girl thing, i have a niece whose 1 and have told DD she needs to be a big girl and show niece what to do

No accidents today - 2 wee's - Shes just at my mums so will see when she gets back if shes been ok :j

ty everyone

PolishBigSpender

pelirocco wrote: »

Kids have accidents its normal, especially if they are engrossed in something , your poor MIL seems to get the blame for everything lol

No, it's not normal for a child to wet itself at the age of 3. If it was, the OP wouldn't be asking for help, would she?

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

Well DD has gone to her dads today and has had 2 accidents so far She's asked to come home but he is going to keep trying - Told him to do a star reward chart - He did and she has done 1 toilet. Will see what tomorrow brings

hayhay2010

ive only just potty trained my son for the last 8 weeks or so his 2 1/2 an feels like i tryed every trick going.
The best thing i can suggest it lots of encougrament make so much fuss when she gets it right.
He starting having accidients if he was told off or put in time out by ingoring when this did happen seemed to nip it in the bud before it became too much of a problem, just gently reminding him next time even if ur in time out u still need to tell mummy u need the toliet an leave it at that.
I also tryed sticker charts however he didnt seem to quite grasp how long he had too wait for a reward an at one point started not using the toliet because he didnt get a reward when he demanded it.
so now were back on track still say well done every time he goes.
hang in there try not to worry too much im sure it will soon click an she will soon go back to using the toliet.

MrsW82

Well halp me train my DD - (I'd like to point out that I, myself am fully toilet trained!;))

Our DD has just turned 3. She has 2 pottys, and we've got one of those child-seat attched to adult toilet seats on our loo. She goes to nursery 3 days a week - and all her friends seem to have been out of nappies and pull ups for ages now! I know it's not just a case of keeping up with the Jones's - you have to wait 'til your child is ready - but any advice that you can offer will really help!

She's in pull-ups during the day now, and on weekends, (when practical) I have popped her into some plastic coated towelling pants - so she can get a "feel" of when she's wet. We've also bought her some pretty girly knickers - as an incentive to use her potty/the loo - but with no joy.

hitchins

Try a reward chart for when she does something on potty/toilet. All children are different, and one day it will just "click". My DD tends to like using the toilet more as she thinks she's a "big girl". The first time she did a poo on it, you'd have thought I'd won the lottery! :rotfl:

Also, not sure if you do, but let her see you using it etc.

Good luck.

MrsW82

Oh she sees me in there all the time - I'm currently very pregnant!:D -
(plus I think wistfully back to those days when I could just nip for a pee in peace...:rotfl:)

building_with_lego

I think I'd ask her if she'd like to wear grown- up knickers; if she says 'no' leave it for a bit!

When she says 'yes' lose the pullups. I'm not really sure what they're for but they absorb so much that the child really doesn't feel the wetness. Stick with knickers and just go for it. Relentless positivity will be required, through gritted teeth on some days, and remember that when you've had the day from hell the next day can ONLY be easier.
Gina Ford says to keep a record of what time they wee, where (potty/ loo/ floor!) and whether they were prompted by you or went of their own accord. I'm not a fan of Gina but that seemed like an interesting idea- then you can look for the pattern of their bladders and know when to offer the potty. I also found that I was offering and encouraging and Titch ofter didn't realise when his bladder was full- someone on here mentioned sticker charts for their child for saying 'I need to go' and I used that advice.
Good luck, you will get there, and believe it or not you'll have a nappy free household one day! I'm still not entirely used to it.

Teenie_D

I would second the reward chart. If my DD had 3 dry days she got a wee treat then it went up to 5 days. She was totally trained after 3 weeks and she would forget to ask for a treat, she liked the pretty stars

I never used pull ups with her, unless we were going out in the car she was just in her "grown up " pants. Good luck!

mum2twinsx2

I second not using pull up pants, they are too nappy like.
Reward chart works wonders, you can get personalised character ones off ebay, or equally make your own and print it out. I just kept drumming into them how much they were big girls in knickers and using the potty and toilet.
Patience is essential. i use to just leave knickers on in the house no trousers so was quicker when the urgency occurs.
We use to end up having group wee`s, they always wanted to jump on the potty on the bathroom when i need to......