Advice on Potty training

Sambucus_Nigra

Explain it all to her properly?

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

tried it - makes no difference. She knows to do it in toilet and she knows its wrong to have accidents - she wont tell us she's had an accident, she runs off to try and sort it herself

pelirocco

Kids have accidents its normal, especially if they are engrossed in something , your poor MIL seems to get the blame for everything lol

delain

I think you need to have a word with ex mil as she seems to be exacerbating the problem, first saying it's naughty then saying its ok!

I think clearly defined guidelines are needed. Imo 'accidents' in young children should be cleared up with no comment other than maybe 'oh dear' to stop it becoming a massive attention seeking issue like it sounds like it is in your house now.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

Sorry - i think you read that wrong

My nana (whose in her 80's) said it was naughty

Ex MIL said "its ok" (i think she didnt want DD to get upset)

(pelirocco - not blaming ex mil this time lol - cant stand the woman! - but. . . DD just mis understood her - just dont know how to get DD to go back to using the toilet and not having accidents)

I think i'll just have to not say anything to DD and just hope she stops herself

ty everyone

starnight_2

Have you tried praising her and telling how she's a big girl now, when she uses the toilet? It might make a bit of a difference and reinforce how onlly babies go in their knickers

Bitsy_Beans

What's her favourite TV show? Can you decorate a reward chart with her favourite characters and give her a star/small sticker for each time she uses the toilet. Once she's accumulated a number of stars then she gets a small reward.
Accidents will happen and I agree with making as little fuss about it as possible as it's turning into an issue.

morocha

hi, is your daughter at nursery ? My daughter is and before she used to have many accidents, my in laws used to say it is ok to have accidents too but i told her it is not when you have been going to the toilet for a whole 2 weeks and being ok every time until they came around ( every time, they would say it is ok and then she will start having accidents daily).
what worked for my daughter was that she started nursery and was very happy i told her they would not have her unless she could start going to the toilet every time. She started in September and no accidents so far!

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

we have a sticker chart going where when she does the toilet (properly) she gets a sticker but it doesnt seem to be having an effect.

DD has been in a day nursery since she was 6 weeks old but ty for the suggestion

Spoke to nursery about it - they have mentioned she doesnt seem herself and wanted to bring it up with her dad at parents evening but hes refusing to go so . . .

Kit_Kat_Kate

Hi, Some ideas might help?
All the adults need to treat the accidents in the same way so your all are singing from the same sheet.
Sticker Chart?
Is she getting any attention for accidents? Is she missing being the "baby" Chat about being a big girl now and all the things big girls can do that babies can't.
Could she have a water infection? Does she need to go a lot?
Trying to sort it herself? This is normal, but could she be worried about being told off? (from another adult)