OS daily thread Thursday 1st May

Bargain_Rzl

When you said "that is my sanity taken care of" that's what I meant, I think.

Only you can know when you're ready to go back to work - but I suppose I'm thinking of you down the line a bit, maybe a couple of years?... and can't help thinking that how well you're doing then might be determined by the decisions you make now.

Pink.

smokybabe wrote: »

Hi,

At the moment I don't really know what is best. I have moments when I just completely fall apart and I can't really explain it without sounding melodramatic but the pain is almost physical and I have no control over these emotions - they hit out of nowhere.

However I have always worked and do find it very theraputic and even if it wasn't a neccesity for the mortgage I would continue to do so, that is my sanity taken care of.;) Whether or not it will be sooner or later I don't know. TBH at this point my thinking changes from day to day - I hate not being in control, especially of my emotions.

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Smoky,

Only you will know what is best for you and the children. My experience of grief is not to make any decision too soon. Your work colleagues sound fantastic, and although I can't begin to imagine what you are feeling at the moment I think in your situation I would want to continue to be with people who knew me and had some understanding of what I was going through. On the other hand a clean break may be what you want and need.

Take your time, don't rush into anything. It's still very early days.

Pink xx

smokybabe

Bargain_Rzl wrote: »

When you said "that is my sanity taken care of" that's what I meant, I think.

Only you can know when you're ready to go back to work - but I suppose I'm thinking of you down the line a bit, maybe a couple of years?... and can't help thinking that how well you're doing then might be determined by the decisions you make now.

Sorry I managed to post the last one somehow before I had finished.


I agree completely. I have been lucky in that the pension that Eric held has paid out 6k in a lump sum and allthough the funeral will take up £2,900 of that it will allow a little breathing room for another month whilst I explore the child care issue and look for another job if I have to.

I have been in serious debt before and am not planning on going down that road again. Eric bailed me out when we got married and due to circumstances over the last 2 years I have 2 loans ongoing on top of the household expenses. All is manageable if I continue to work, but I appreciate what you are saying. I do need to get back pretty soon if I want to keep things on track and hold on to my sanity.

Smoky. xx

grannybroon

Smoky

Thanks for taking the time to post here. We are all thinking about you and sending you our support, love and hugs.

It will be a long journey regarding home and work and I think at the moment you just have to take small steps each day and not feel guilty about it. Your emotions are totally shot at the moment understandably. Decisions at this stage should not be taken too quickly.

Thinking very much about you and the children.

Love to you all and take care.

GB xxxx