Meeting new people with little or no money - Is it possible??

bathgatebuyer

ZTD wrote: »

The first thing you need to do, is ask yourself what you are contacting people for. If it's for a relationship - then that may be what you're complaining about others for...

My priority is friendship. Please don't think I'm just gaggling about desperate for a husband. As I said on my post, I want people to actually stop and talk to me and find out my name, not just try it on for sex or pass me by with a 'hello' at the gym and know me as the lassie in the back row at the circuits class. Even me saying I've tried meeting people on the internet, the assumption is that I'm after a relationship. I am, but a friendship relationship.

It's about friendship and having people that you can talk to more so than anything else. I want nothing more than someone that I can invite round for a pizza when the footy's on the TV, or someone to go for a coffee with on a Saturday morning.

Is that really too much to ask? It's been about 4 years since I last had dinner or a drink out with someone and life gets very boring sitting in and watching Sky Sports News night after night.

I happen to think I'm a nice enough person. My nickname at school was 'the friendly cow'. People used to write that out on my music before it even got to me. So, friendly enough, but unfortunately a face like a compost heap!!!! Most of my own peers are off and married and it's a bit difficult saying to them, "Do you want to come out and do X, Y or Z at the weekend" when their inevitable commitment is their family.

Anyhow, I ramble and have actually ended up in tears thinking about how lonely I can get. Time to get on with some work I think!!!!

Lucy1982_2

Now Bathgate don't cry sweet.

I know it's hard. And it's not to much to ask. I know you have had a tough time over the last few years. And from what I can see you are a lovely person, just maybe a bit shy and lacking is self confidence which isn't a crime!!

Are you on facebook? I know it's not a have a drink of a friday night type of situation, but if you ever fancy a virtual drink on a Friday night let me know and I will be here, with my drink!

I think what most of us are looking for is a group of friends first and foremost and then if something grows from that with someone then great. If not then you have made a bunch of great friends and you will always have someone to call for a chat.

And I am sure you do not have a face like a compost heap!!! Any way personality is always more important.

Have a huge hug x

Butterfliesarepretty

bathgatebuyer wrote: »

My priority is friendship. Please don't think I'm just gaggling about desperate for a husband. As I said on my post, I want people to actually stop and talk to me and find out my name, not just try it on for sex or pass me by with a 'hello' at the gym and know me as the lassie in the back row at the circuits class. Even me saying I've tried meeting people on the internet, the assumption is that I'm after a relationship. I am, but a friendship relationship.

It's about friendship and having people that you can talk to more so than anything else. I want nothing more than someone that I can invite round for a pizza when the footy's on the TV, or someone to go for a coffee with on a Saturday morning.

Is that really too much to ask? It's been about 4 years since I last had dinner or a drink out with someone and life gets very boring sitting in and watching Sky Sports News night after night.

I happen to think I'm a nice enough person. My nickname at school was 'the friendly cow'. People used to write that out on my music before it even got to me. So, friendly enough, but unfortunately a face like a compost heap!!!! Most of my own peers are off and married and it's a bit difficult saying to them, "Do you want to come out and do X, Y or Z at the weekend" when their inevitable commitment is their family.

Anyhow, I ramble and have actually ended up in tears thinking about how lonely I can get. Time to get on with some work I think!!!!

he bathgate no need to cry. I know what you mean though,when I go to a bar, I would like a man to talk to me, not look me up and down like a piece of meat. I sometimes lack confidence (as I was shy growing up) but now I speak my mind.

Lucy1982_2

When I get shy I talks loads....

Which is good, but has been known to scare people. It's like I over do it, but i figure it's better than saying nothing.

Riq

Lucy1982 wrote: »

When I get shy I talks loads....

Which is good, but has been known to scare people. It's like I over do it, but i figure it's better than saying nothing.

I am like that, by the time I realise how much I have been talking it is too late and if you did stop talking then the person you were with would think something was wrong!!

Lucy1982_2

Been there!!

It's when people start to have that blank look in there eyes... and you look really boring at best or insane at worst.

Hmm the joys of making new friends!!

Riq

Well the last time it happened to me, it went a bit like this...

I arrived in the pub about 30mins early since as i was en route the girl said she would be late, fair enough i thought.
So I had a pint, in the mean time for some courage.
She arrived, I had another pint just because I was buying her a drink
We chatted I had another pint as I was nervously talking fast and my mouth was dry.
I had another pint.
Now bear in mind, I may be 6ft but I am very thin and a complete lightweight.

It was this point I thought it would be a good idea to move on, so she chooses this club, we go in, more drinking.

2:30am comes and then the alcohol all kicks in and for the next 30mins I vomitted profusely, until eventually my stomach settles. I make my excuses and go home. Thankfully her friends were in there (coincidence?!) and went home.

We stil llaugh about that night and she is still one of my friends, no romance in that one, just friends.


The moral of this long and boring post is don't drink and nervous chat kids! It'll only end in tears.

Butterfliesarepretty

Riq wrote: »

Well the last time it happened to me, it went a bit like this...

I arrived in the pub about 30mins early since as i was en route the girl said she would be late, fair enough i thought.
So I had a pint, in the mean time for some courage.
She arrived, I had another pint just because I was buying her a drink
We chatted I had another pint as I was nervously talking fast and my mouth was dry.
I had another pint.
Now bear in mind, I may be 6ft but I am very thin and a complete lightweight.

It was this point I thought it would be a good idea to move on, so she chooses this club, we go in, more drinking.

2:30am comes and then the alcohol all kicks in and for the next 30mins I vomitted profusely, until eventually my stomach settles. I make my excuses and go home. Thankfully her friends were in there (coincidence?!) and went home.

We stil llaugh about that night and she is still one of my friends, no romance in that one, just friends.


The moral of this long and boring post is don't drink and nervous chat kids! It'll only end in tears.

last time I got drunk was xmas eve two years ago with my ex. I was ill in his bathroom, very embarrassing and next day could not eat xmas dinner and he had made it for all his family. Never been drunk since, it put me off, i like to go home merry but no more, do not like wasting a day recovering afterwards.

I sometimes go on as well, can't stop talking now, at one time when I was little you would not get a word out of me.

Lucy1982_2

:rotfl:

It could have been worse!!!

You could have done a me and laughed at her all evening!

I get all hyper and excitable when I nervous babble and look like a complete idiot... I do all the hand signals and normally end up spilling someones drink all over the place.

You didn't vomit over her did you?? :eek:

Riq

No no, I rushed off to the toilets don't worry!
Thankfully it wasn't that busy the club so...
a) The cubicle was free
b) The toilets were not filthy by then, I may have been drunk, but I still have cleanliness standards.