Meeting new people with little or no money - Is it possible??

skintjenny

hmm this thread seems great- ive just spent far too long reading over all the posts!
im newly single after ditching my finance, he was very bad for me and i suspect most of my debt comes from supporting his lazy !!!! for the last 2 years!
really want to move on, but am so bored of the clubbing scene- being in carlisle (thats still in england but only just, for all you southerners), there is only about 3 clubs and non are amazing!
how is everyone doing with the meeting new people thing? ive made friends online before but never taken it past online chatting or texting...
jenny x

Starlett

Hi,

Was single... now not - hurrah... I joined a local theatre... cost £40 for a year membership, everyone is chatty and friendly and outgoing, and there's the actor types, but also the techy group all the lights and sound and stuff, wardrobe, directing, stage management... it's a real laugh, great for meeting people, everyone goes to the pub after rehearsal/performances/just for the sheer hell of it, and everyone buys a round, so I now go to the pub a couple of times a week, stay for a drink or two and pay for a round every now and then... I probably spend £20 a month and my social life has taken a real jump!! Plus you meet really interesting people who do so many different jobs/still at uni and all sorts...

This sounds like a rant but I'm super chuffed with how my personal life took an uplift!!

Starlett

Lucy1982_2

Scarlett.

That sounds like so much fun! It's one of the things I hate about living where I do there isn't really much around like that. And what is would mean me traveling loads.

Good that you are going out more.

Skint Jenny - I've been making more of an effort to get out, been to play Badminton with work and I'm out with a work friend tomorrow night to watch a Queen tribute act.

So i think it's a change in attitude. But I have met some lovely people through this site.

skintjenny

every time i read through this site im amazed at how nice and supportive everyone is... but everyone is so southern!

Butterfliesarepretty

Hi everyone, well single again and staying single for a long time. You know I met scott on plentyoffish, well I was keen until he started to feel strongly for me within a week and he was a lovely nice man but I got panicky and could not immediately give the same feelings back.
The s** side of things was amazing, but I can't have a relationship just based on that.
Realized I needed female company to have friday nights out in Bury. My best mate in newcastle talked with me and she said you can put adverts in papers to ask for female girlfriends to have nights out and shopping with.

I was crying when I split with him, as he was so genuine and caring and he was very upset. Feel really bad about it. But I am at home alone, trying to find a job and am stressing about that, got a holiday on 3rd July so need to sort myself out before any more relationships.

Energised

skintjenny wrote: »

every time i read through this site im amazed at how nice and supportive everyone is... but everyone is so southern!

From the NW me!

Butterfliesarepretty

Where is everyone these days?

Hi everyone, not having a good day today, time of month but other things too. I have an interview tomorrow at 2pm which I am not looking forward to. It was my birthday yesterday, and I spent the day with my daughter which was nice but I also got a text from my ex-boyfriend of two years(the one I dumped) he wished me happy birthday which was nice but I could not understand why he sent it. After a few more text today I phoned him to find out. He said he just remembered the date. He also mentioned that his son was moving into an apartment in mcr and I said I was no offended at the birthday text but puzzled. I told him me and him were not compatible and that I had to finish it as it was making me ill. He replied saying I can't have felt anymore for him as I did not contact him after I had finished with him. Well when he said that I knew he had not changed (me always chasing him). I also told him that I did not know he was in the pub the other night when I was on a date - he replied 'well you did come and stand in front of me' which was not intentional as I did not see him till last minute of settling down with my date scott. Scott and I split up later last week, cause he was saying he loved me which was too soon. I also mentioned I realised he could be occasionally jealous and not liking me talking to friends (immediately he said 'I don't think so') so then I knew again he would never admit to being partially incorrect and just said everyone has bad days. I wished him a happy fathers day and wished him a good future. Later I was approaching tesco and he was stood there and I said hi and he said he was waiting for his kids (who are in there early to late twenties) and he said they were cooking him lunch for fathers day. I said thats nice and said enjoy yourself and I left him. Later when I got home I had a massive cry. I don't want to be with him but I felt intolerably lonely and I just hope its because I have too much to think about.

Lucy1982_2

Hi Shaw.

I'm sorry things didn't work out with new blokey. But if you weren't comfortable then there is no point.

As for you ex. I have one like that. I swear everything he sees me he thinks it's a way of getting me back... NOT happening!!!

I also know that lonely feeling and I think it is worse around Birthdays. It's mine today and I can't help feeling I should be married with kids or at least in a relationship. And after a week of being really upset, I realised something. I am single, this is not a bad thing. I can do what I want, when I want to. It means I can spend time on me and find out who I am and what I want to do with me life. No it's not easy and there are so many times when I just want someone to say 'I Love You' and wrap me up in a huge hug, it will happen when it's ready to. In the meantime I am just going to try and concentrate on me and making me happy and see what happens.

And loneliness is never a reason to go back to a relationship you obviously ended for a good reason.

Have a huge hug and you know where I am!