Student Daughter finding sat job hard

Riq

My mum got me a part time job at Natwest. She knew the recruiting guy since she trained him when he started.

emilyt

Well i am another mum guilty of ringing up for an application form for my daughters. Then again i pretend to be them. How bad am i. They do ring them selves as well.If they have been at school or collage then i don't see what the problem is in me ringing. Usually if there is a job vacancy you have to be quick to get an application form in. In the past my daughters have worked at JJB sports, Macdonalds, cheshire building society, horticulture firm.

Now my eldest daughter is working as a carer and doing her NVQ levels. She wants to work as a nurse. My youngest daughter is working at Blockbuster at the moment but hopefully will be able to get a job in a bank or building society once her exams are over.

Keep up the good work Ripata. You are doing the best you can for your daughter.

duchy

Rude or not-I'm afraid there IS a grain of truth there (actually it wasn't rude IMHO just realistic)
I've employed 6th formers and students and expect them to have enough get up and go to enquire about the job themselves. They may not be unmotivated or lazy but that IS the impression some employers may form -and with competition for jobs is an impression she may not care to be/afford to be giving. It could be the difference between getting an interview or not.
We all want to do what we can for our kids (mine is 16 too) but sometimes we don't do them any favours by doing it for them

Ripata_2

Thanks EmilyT,im glad someone agrees with me! and i think iam doing the right thing while she is away at college,and i still think that the other response was rude! Heres to us mums that care!

C_Ronaldo

duchy wrote: »

Rude or not-I'm afraid there IS a grain of truth there (actually it wasn't rude IMHO just realistic)
I've employed 6th formers and students and expect them to have enough get up and go to enquire about the job themselves. They may not be unmotivated or lazy but that IS the impression some employers may form -and with competition for jobs is an impression she may not care to be/afford to be giving. It could be the difference between getting an interview or not.
We all want to do what we can for our kids (mine is 16 too) but sometimes we don't do them any favours by doing it for them

if the OP's daughter doesnt get home until after the shops are closed or no one there who can help then what else is she meant to do, at least someones helping her, its not ideal and im sure the daughter would rather do it herslef

The_One_Who

I'm sorry, but I have to agree with the posters saying the daughter should phone for herself. Fair enough finding places looking for workers, but to actually phone up is going a bit far. I find it hard to believe she works at college from 9 to 5 without any sort of break.

foreign_correspondent

I am only being straight with you, but sadly you have chosen to take offence. If a young person is adult enough and responsible enough to be ready to work, I would not expect their mum to be ringing for them.

I would expect the young person themselves to ring, even if it inconvenienced them a little bit, for example, if they had to make a call in their college lunchbreak, and after all most of the places you are talking about are open at weekends.

Someone's mum ringing would suggest to me that maybe their mum was more keen on them working at the establishment than the young person was, or that the young person lacked the skills and confidence to make the phone call...neither of which bode well really, from an employers point of view.

You may also find that if you do suceed in getting her a job that she will not really get into it, or try as hard, as she has not had to strive for it herself.

melancholly

foreign_correspondent wrote: »

You may also find that if you do suceed in getting her a job that she will not really get into it, or try as hard, as she has not had to strive for it herself.

i think it's nice that mum's care and try to help. sometimes it can go too far, but ringing up for an application form so that company doesn't even know it's a parent isn't that bad. i also don't think that having help to get a job will make you any more likely to be a lazy employee!

some parents push too much and do everything for children who are wrapped in cotton wool. that's scary! others just want to give a helping hand - that's different! the biggest lesson i learnt from careers events was all about networking and using contacts to help you hear about opportunities or get your foot in the door for an interview..... a bit of help from parents seems like that to me! it would also take a much nicer teenager than i was to willingly accept help from a parent - with me it was about proving i could do it all on my own when clearly i still needed support/help (and still do!). i appreciate what you're saying, but i don't think it's valid to the OPs situation - more for over interfering parents.

pboae

Ripata wrote: »

Well if you had read my previous post,she is at college away from home and doesnt have time during week to ring up places,and as ive said before im her mum and iam trying to help her,its what mums who care do!

I do appreciate that you are only trying to help her, and with good reason, but pushy parents cause so many problems that the slightest hint of it means you've blown it before you began. Employers aren't usually in a position to weed out which ones are normal concerned parents trying to help, and which ones are going to turn into Parents From Hell at the first opportunity, so it just isn't worth the hassle. They have plenty of other potential employees to pick from.

So even if you are doing everything right, you are being tainted by the people who went before you who did it wrong.

Obviously this isn't what you want to hear, but you *are* reducing her opportunities by doing this for her. You want to know why she is finding it so hard to get work, and this is one of the reasons. Take offence at that if you must, but you asked for advice, and you are getting the truth.

Have a look at this thread
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=819075
and you will get an idea of the sort of people you are being lumped in with.

You need to find a way for her to start contacting people herself.

Oldernotwiser

Would I be wrong in thinking that you provide a mobile phone for your daughter? Well, they can be used for other things than socialising!