Babies, biscuits, boobs and budgetting!

hypno06

(((hugs))) to you and to Ryan.

Hopefully you can, in time, be ready for the triggers in his life, and maybe the bad days will slowly get further and further apart.

Or maybe not, in which case I would get a big supply of jaffa cakes and some earplugs in.........xxx

Snaggles

It's going quite well thanks Gemmzie - we are doing a course that specifically looks at autism spectrum conditions and ways of managing their associated 'issues'.

And the Stars (autism outreach) team are shortly going to start some work with Ryan's school, to help them accomodate Ryan's needs educationally and socially.

I absolutely love his Stars workers, they are beyond fab. Its a shame their input is so short lived (6 half days at the school), but the things they will put in place will hopefully have a big impact on how he copes.

Other than that, we are still waiting to see the speech and language therapist, the enuresis clinic, and school will apply for funding for some one to one help after the summer holidays (but he's not likely to get any because he's doing well at school at the moment).

So not much! :rotfl:

Snaggles

hypno06 wrote: »

(((hugs))) to you and to Ryan.

Hopefully you can, in time, be ready for the triggers in his life, and maybe the bad days will slowly get further and further apart.

Or maybe not, in which case I would get a big supply of jaffa cakes and some earplugs in.........xxx

Thank you

I think we are slowly seeing him learn to cope better with certain situations, and I feel really happy for a while thinking 'yes, he's going to be okay'. And then I have days like this where I just think 'how on earth will he ever cope with the big wide world'.

But he will find his own path in life.....one way or another!

hypno06

Snaggles wrote: »

Thank you

I think we are slowly seeing him learn to cope better with certain situations, and I feel really happy for a while thinking 'yes, he's going to be okay'. And then I have days like this where I just think 'how on earth will he ever cope with the big wide world'.

But he will find his own path in life.....one way or another!

Remember, it is still early days.....he has his whole lifetime to get things right x

beanielou

Have you applied for DLA for Ryan(Cant remember)

boredofbeingathome

Aww hope he has settled a bit now. I wonder if the hot weather and the fact that he has been so poorly hasn't helped.

Snaggles

hypno06 wrote: »

Remember, it is still early days.....he has his whole lifetime to get things right x

It is - and he will. :A

I think this whole process has been good for me too - I've said before that I'm convinced I'm somewhere on the edge of the autism spectrum myself, and talking to a couple of the professionals who are helping Ryan has only confirmed it.

Knowing more about it has helped me make sense of a lot of things in my own life, and I am feeling more comfortable in my own skin because of it. I can see what the triggers for my own bouts of anxiety attacks have been, and I really hope that will help me keep them at bay more easily.

I can see, for example, that my job is probably completely wrong for me, and just knowing that helps me be better at the job, because I'm no longer beating myself up for not being perfect at it (perfection doesn't really exist in judgemental lending, hence the need for the 'judgement' ).

I hope Ryan will be better equipped to cope with life because he knows about his condition from such a young age.

hypno06

It does make sense........sadly it often takes the "big" things in life for us to realise who we are and how we can deal with the "real" things......in your case having Ryan diagnosed, and in my case losing my Dad - big, and tragic, in many ways, but positive in others x

Snaggles

beanielou wrote: »

Have you applied for DLA for Ryan(Cant remember)

I've filled the forms in but haven't sent them off - I know I really need to, but what's stopped me until now is that I don't have anyone who can fill in the bit where someone who knows him has to say how his condition affects him.

I don't want his current teacher to do it, because Ryan is doing really well in his class, and the teacher seems quite keen to gloss over the times when he IS struggling. And also, I'm not convinced how much the teacher really notices, because he has talked about Ryan being 'in floods of tears', but I have never seen Ryan cry a single tear, EVER - I don't think he can. I even said to him 'did he really cry tears' and he insisted that he does it regularly. I'm not saying he's lying, but I would be very surprised if it was true.

His teacher last year saw a lot more outbursts, but of course that is 12 months ago now.

My Mum and Dad have seen him 'in full flow', but they always say they can't tell how much is the Aspergers and how much is him just being a typical stroppy 7 year old.

And there's no-one else who has really seen how he can be, because when I think there is a likelyhood of trouble brewing, we just don't go anywhere.

Snaggles

hypno06 wrote: »

It does make sense........sadly it often takes the "big" things in life for us to realise who we are and how we can deal with the "real" things......in your case having Ryan diagnosed, and in my case losing my Dad - big, and tragic, in many ways, but positive in others x

Awww Hypno, that made me cry - I can't imagine how you got through that hun. It's unbearable to lose those you love, and I am always grateful that whatever Ryan's difficulties are, he's here, and he's healthy, and I love him to bits (and Natasha too, of course).