Ok to leave daughters overnight?

Spendless

I didn't realise until you mentioned your husband being your 4th child that you had 3 kids bestpud. How old is your son and is he in a position to help you with o/night care?

bestpud

Spendless wrote: »

I didn't realise until you mentioned your husband being your 4th child that you had 3 kids bestpud. How old is your son and is he in a position to help you with o/night care?

DS is 17. He has left home and is unable to help us out with babysitting unfortunately.

Spendless

I went back to your opening post to see if I could think of any other options that haven't been explored. You mention both you and your husband having siblings nearby- could they help?

also I'm a bit lost about using the ater school facilities. £18 for 1 session.:eek: that sounds dear,. I don't understand how it would help you with o/night care though?

SUESMITH_2

i would leave them, she sounds mature enough to cope. i agree with people saying about kids needing to be given responsibility

bestpud

Spendless wrote: »

I went back to your opening post to see if I could think of any other options that haven't been explored. You mention both you and your husband having siblings nearby- could they help?

also I'm a bit lost about using the ater school facilities. £18 for 1 session.:eek: that sounds dear,. I don't understand how it would help you with o/night care though?

I'm thinking about the relative option but not sure if it's viable or not. It's definitely on my list of possibilities though.

If DH works days then I cannot continue with my job because he won't be able to take dd to school in the morning. I don't want to give it up as I love it, and we need the income.

But, even if I gave my job up, for days, we would still need to arrange care for dd after school when I go back to uni in September as the modules are all in the afternoon. There is the cost issue as well as her liking to do after school clubs at her school, so that is not a good option at all.

Re the cost: She goes to a village school so the nearest after school clubs arrange transport for the children that go. I assume that bumps up the cost. They have been unable to get one at the school unfortunately. One of them charges £21 for the session!

So it's not really feasible for him to work days as we'd have to pay for childcare and lose my wage.

If he works nights, we can fit in uni ok as he can pick dd up from school, but my job becomes the big problem.

So I think that is what he will do, but we have to decide whether to leave the girls for that night, give my job up, or try and arrange for someone else to have them.

mrsbez_2

Go with your gut instinct, if you have any doubts don't leave them.I don't think you would have posted the question if you didn't have any doubts.
I personally wouldn't leave them at all. I would probably feel comfortable leaving the 16 year old on their own, but not in charge of a 6 year old.

Sorry, i realise your situation is difficult and hope you can come up with a reasonable solution.

And for the the one who leaves her children to go running - i hope common sense restores itself after reading these posts!! your children should always come first - run up and down the stairs if you have to!!

Sorry, coming back to the original post -Can you not do a job during the day and study at home at night?? sorry if i am not completey understanding your situation.

Hope it all works out

Just re-read your last post - could you not study your modules at home via distance learning - or in the worst situation, put off your modules until you can manage the childcare situation and it doesn't mean leaving the children??

fannyadams

ailuro2 wrote: »

As to the person who claims to leave their 3 and 7 year olds home alone- they need to go for a run back under their bridge- they're obviously a troll. Anyone with a bit of common sense would have a fold up treadmill available for £20 most weeks from the local paper.:rolleyes:

actually I think you'll find i said
" i *sometimes* leave my two (7 1/2 & 3 1/2) for half an hour (long after their bedtime) whilst i go for a run."

haylibo

bestpud - my only concern would be if DD6s school were to find out and have an opinion on it. I have no opinion on it eitherway I have to say other than that you are lucky to have an older daughter who sounds so responsible and clear headed. Schools though are increasingly keen to get involved in people's home arrangements as are neighbours so my main area of concern would be any negative reaction from the authorities.
Hayles

mrcow

fannyadams wrote: »

actually I think you'll find i said
" i *sometimes* leave my two (7 1/2 & 3 1/2) for half an hour (long after their bedtime) whilst i go for a run."

Fanny, what do you think would happen if say you had an accident whilst running at night, an ambulance had to be called and the authorities found out that you'd left your children alone in the house? Do you think they would find it acceptable?

vix2000

That makes it OK then? Sorry, but if I knew who you were I'd report you myself. I am a nan and if my daughter left a 7 and 3 year year old alone I'd report her as well.

fannyadams wrote: »

actually I think you'll find i said
" i *sometimes* leave my two (7 1/2 & 3 1/2) for half an hour (long after their bedtime) whilst i go for a run."