WHY can't anything ever go RIGHT???

immoral_angeluk

elantan wrote: »

i tend to disagree here....i think alot goes your way ...

Well it doesn't feel like it at the moment!

elantan

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

Well it doesn't feel like it at the moment!

maybe you need to change your thinking

Gemmzie

Also, Sar, think of all the things that are on your side.

You're 22, not 62 - you have your whole working life ahead of you for a career, what's a couple of years difference going to make? Not a lot.
You live in the UK where the minimum wage is going to be £5.72 plus you're guaranteed Tax Credits on top of that to live on whatever job you do.
You have two beautiful, healthy children and a partner who's around and loves you.

And, you've been out of education for a while, I know you're into finance and budgeting but learning it at degree level won't be as easy. I think doing that, working a few hours and being a mum is a very commendable effort and you shouldn't feel like nothing goes right when you have so much.

jinky67

Gemmzie wrote: »

Also, Sar, think of all the things that are on your side.

You're 22, not 62 - you have your whole working life ahead of you for a career, what's a couple of years difference going to make? Not a lot.
You live in the UK where the minimum wage is going to be £5.72 plus you're guaranteed Tax Credits on top of that to live on whatever job you do.
You have two beautiful, healthy children and a partner who's around and loves you.

And, you've been out of education for a while, I know you're into finance and budgeting but learning it at degree level won't be as easy. I think doing that, working a few hours and being a mum is a very commendable effort and you shouldn't feel like nothing goes right when you have so much.

Thats kinda what I was saying too:D

elantan

things in life are sent to try us ...it's is through them we learn and grow as individauls ...look at this as a learning oppertunity ....a chance to discover a talent you may have forgotten or didnt know about or an oppertunity learn a new one ....you never know one day you may be counselling a person in the exact same position as you are in just now and through this experiance you will be able to use the tools you are learning here to help them develop a way the suits them

affordmylife

hi IA

just wanted to say a few things.

i have followed your debt diary and your struggles with childminding course etc.

and i wonder why do you want to do something so badly that is voluntary.

you need the money so im confused.

your children are babies themselves you need to be at home.

most mums will work evenings around partners hours or weekends.

i did that for years or worked from home childminding or ironing etc.

my childrens needs come first not my own. now that they are all in full time school i can do what i choose. your time will come.

take this time to decide what you really want out of life and work towards that.

you could study at home or go to college one evening a week. you could get an evening job.

i hope this doesnt sound harsh i really dont mean it to.
there is always something or some way around it. good luck.

Keeping_Motivated

I would like to point out that there are plenty of women who put their children in childcare and the childrena are still happy and balanced and their mums still are there when their children need them. Saying to IA your children need you I feel is a little harsh as she obviously knows that and is not attempting to abandon them.

Snaggles

Aww hun, sorry I've not been around much over the last few days. I haven't got much to add to what people have already said really, but it's crap when life seems to gang up on you.

I spent 9 months of my maternity leave stressing that I wouldn't be able to fit in going back to work because of the problems with childcare for Ryan, and not being able to wean Natasha, and to be honest I feel pretty annoyed with myself now that I used up so much energy being so stressed about it, when I could have just relaxed, enjoyed the time off, and taken things as they came.

Have I understood the problem right? Your training starts before Ashli starts 'school', and then also you wont have childcare for her through the holidays?

Can't the nursery that K is going to take her when she can't go to school? It would cost more, but tax credits would cover most of that wouldn't it?

affordmylife

keeping motivated - that is just my personal feeling - im sorry if it offends.

i believe a mothers place is at home when the children are under school age unless they are with either their dad or granny or something.

of course there are tons of people who put their children into childcare but i dont have to think its the right thing.

they are only home for a few short years - i say make the most of it. they are all too soon grown.

i was trying to suggest (perhaps not very well and for that i apologise) that an evening job which would actually bring in some money and fit around husbands hours would be more practical than trying to do something voluntary at inconvenient hours.

floss2

Gemmzie wrote: »

You're 22, not 62 - you have your whole working life ahead of you for a career, what's a couple of years difference going to make? Not a lot.......You have two beautiful, healthy children and a partner who's around and loves you.

And, you've been out of education for a while, I know you're into finance and budgeting but learning it at degree level won't be as easy. I think doing that, working a few hours and being a mum is a very commendable effort and you shouldn't feel like nothing goes right when you have so much.

Gemmzie is right, I-A....If you hold off the CAB until September, the girls will be able to go to nursery while you do your training & get settled in, you'll have kicked Egg & the TV into touch (or almost), you'll have started your OU course to give you more background for CAB....and after all, although it is a setback, it is only deferring until September which is 6 months - that isn't too long to wait to start what you really want to do is it?

I think you may be feeeling a bit left behind everyone else and even a tiny bit jealous of Ste's luck with his new job...but you don't know how other people's lives are in reality. You are a great SAHM and Ste can only do his job so well because he knows how well you manage his home life....all this experience will be great for you in the near future. Just enjoy being at home with the girls for a while longer

Love Floss xx