Worn out.

HHH_2

I'm bumping this because I think the poster needs support and kindness at the moment.

kyh

HHH wrote: »

As a long time poster you may well have been one of the people who has helped me. When I thought I had no one to turn to and the debt was taking over my whole life someone like you or maybe it was you took the trouble to offer me some words of kindness and made me understand that money and especially the lack of it is not the be all and end all. Remember all the times you have helped someone on these boards. Your situation has changed due to your husbands illness and no doubt on top of everything else that is making you depressed. Depression as many will tell you is an illness please get yourself to the doctor and explain just how you are feeling also have a chat with the samaritans. despite everything that has been written recently about anti depressants not working THEY DO they lift your mood enough to be able to deal with the stuff life throws at you. You have made huge progress along the debt free road and it is exhuasting at times. let your husband see your original post despite his illness maybe it's time for him to take the load off your shoulders for a while. I hope things get easier for you soon xx

I agree with HHH, you do sound like you need to speak to your Dr and maybe see about getting some Anti D's. or some counselling so you have a safe environemt to get things off your chest. It also seems as if your DH expects you to do everything and doesn't want you posting on here - something you said and the way you said it! i understand he is unwell but there may be other supprot outt there that you are entitled to - carers allowance DLA, motability - does he have any form of medical pay out with his job is his illness job related, is there a charity related to his illness, is he ex military? Lots of things here that may be able to provide support.

Hope you get some help!

KYH

immoral_angeluk

Aww hunny. It must be really tough for you at the moment with your hubby being ill and laying everything on your shoulders. What's the prognosis for your hubby? Is it a long term illness? Does he have any insurance either through his work or one you've taken out? Payment protection? I would call the companies and explain the situation. You really can't help it if your hubby has had to give up work because he's seriously ill can you??

Sending massive hugs your way. :grouphug:

churchrat

hi
no good advice to add, just wanted to say how much I agree with most other posters on here.
see gp
investigate insurance
talk to OH
look at entiltlements
look at support groups
all good ideas and things that I'm sure you will do, but sometimes , just sometimes you wish that everything would stop, just for 24hrs so that you could get your breath back and then step into the fight once more. When our family was hit by sickness I felt like I would never stand up again and more than anything I just wanted to leave it all behind, just for a little while. I was really lucky and had a good friend to talk to, but to be honest, it was just slogging through that helped in the end. I think perhaps that it is the never-endingness of it thats really getting you down, and perhaps now might be a time to remember all that you have achieved, which is a great deal, and you have STILL made time to support others on here. You sound as though you are ashamed of not getting everything right, and say we would be amazed if we knew who your other "self" was, well I might be amazed, but it would be because I was amazed by your honesty and strength. going to go now cos I jus read that back and it sounded all yuk and slushhy and it wasn't meant to be. Damn e-mails!!!!!!!!!!!

Benthosboy

HHH wrote: »

I'm bumping this because I think the poster needs support and kindness at the moment.

Ditto.

Martyn.

1_step_closer

You say we would be surprised if we knew who you were - sometimes we try so hard and work so fast we sometimes build up too much expectation of ourselves, so take a deep breath and think what you would say if you were a brand new person on this site and what advice you would give.

I bet you aren't sleeping either which really dies not help, so read what everyone else has said and take it a step at a time.

You take care xxxxxxxxxx

hopeless_case_2

hi loisemarie am i right in thinking your husband does not know you come on this site yet he thinks you can sort out all the finances?

kizzykizzywizzy

Can't add much just a bug squeezy hug, I posted last week when I was feeling very very low & had had enough, to be honest, not a lot has changed financially, but my frame of mind has changed.
I think a lot of my upset was because it was coming up to Mother's day & I lost my Mum last year
Sometimes it's just one thing that tips you over the edge, good luck at the Docs, just don't answer the phone & do 1471 after it's rung off, just in case it's someone you want to talk to.
Have a bit of breathing space & think about what you are going/able to do then write to them.
Hope your Hubby is feeling better soon

Merlot

Louisemarie, change your phone number today so the creditors cannot phone you, its free to do and go ex directory. It will save you lots of hassle.

Are you receiving all the benefits you are entitled to?

We are here for you, if you can post an SOA, we will do all we can to help, even a experienced DFW can sometimes overlook things on the SOA.

Hugs to you.

Merlot.x.

HannahandMark

Dear Louisemarie,

We don't have any advice to give but are hoping that you can sort this situation out. Serious hugs to you.

Best wishes and looking out for you