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bails

Vic, have a massive hug hun. You are incredibly strong and somewhere deep inside you know that the worthless feeling will pass so hold onto that. I understand how awful it feels to be dressed by someone else and how desperate that lack of independence can feel. I say get in the bath with your clothes on, especially if it'll help ease the pain? It's certainly been done in this house so don't you worry about a small thing like that. Although there is noone in your house today you are definitely not alone xxxx

serendisglair

victory wrote: »

I am so frustrated today, I am cooking a paella properly tomorrow rather than the ww version, went to get all the ingredients:eek: bang goes the GC:rotfl: came home , can't peel an onion with the pain I am in with the arthritis, my OH had to dress me this morning, I feel worthless, there is no point to this life, I can't peel an onion, can't get dressed, have to rely on others all the time and there is no one here, my OH is working until midnight, my son is at football training until 8pm, my numbers have not reacted well to the over eating so that is going to be knocked on the head tomorrow, the tears or rather the sobbing uncontrollably has started, I just can't help it, what is the point, all this pain, excruciating pain that I can do nothing about, there is nothing I can do, I don't want this

One massive point to life Victory...you've produced an amazing son...life's got to be worth it to see him get on.

Only get in the bath with your clothes on if you are absolutely positive you can get out again!!!
Is there noone who could pop over for a bit?

You've come such a long way and achieved so much so please recognize this as a down day out of the norm. You are only worthless in the sense that you are priceless!! and it has been ever so inspiring to watch your progress. So do what you can to stumble through the day (or just lie on the bed perhaps...no need for doing stuff...) and believe that it will get better.

serendisglair

Ooh vic...do you have a shower? would a super hot shower help? (the only reason I'm nay-saying the bath is that if you get stuck it will go cold and we'd be deprived of your company all afternoon)

missyg_3

Worried about you Victory, at home alone and screaming in pain isn't right. Who can you call to help you?

bails

That's a good point about the bath Serendisglair, and about calling someone Missy - does anyone live nearby Vic?

x_raphael_xx

tagz wrote: »

told to get a grip!

:eek: What!! Unbelievable!!

Big hugs to Tagz & Victory sounds like you both need them.

tagz

Thank you all so much for your lovely replies! Just off loading helped to tell you the truth. Summing up the details helped me focus on what was going on. Realised that having a release (you lovely lot) took a bit of pressure off. Does that sound right? I feel a bit better anyway!

Victory big hugs:grouphug:. Thinking of you.

Brighton_belle

You mightn't be looking for sympathy victory but you still have it. Doesn't make the pain go away though, I know. But if nothing else I hope it affirms you can come on here and have a good wail at the shere unfairn ghastliness of it all.
Suggs - as a maintainer I do identify with what is going on for you re relaxing a bit and snacking more. It is so hard to always be uber focussed I think. If bails sugar coated right arm as still on offer I think I'd eat it today. Had the raw carrot and baby tomatos and still need fooood. Think I'll have to have an early dinner (don't normally eat til 8ish). I went up another lb on Sat (not an official wi delly)and saw 11 stone again. I was NOT happy but it seemed to help pull me up - that and a wedding I've got to go to on Saturday in a 'snug' fit dress. Hoping for a weight loss tomorrow when I weigh in to show for turning my back on sugar & flapjacks these last 4 days. I guess suggs we are going to have these blips and fear the slippery slope has started, especially during stressful times. We need to find a way not to beat ourselves up about it, but still be motivated to limit the damage.

victory

Thanks everyone, don't worry about me although I am worried about me:rolleyes:
I did have a bath(yes I have a shower) but went and got my friend from over the road, unfortunately she has never really been involved in undressing, seen me scream in pain etc so was a bit overwhelmed with it all and very surprised that I was in such a state, once explained she came over and helped me.

The look on her face compounded what I feel about me, pointless.

I did think about getting in the bath dressed for the sheer annoyance and frustration I was in but as it was pointed out there would have been no way I could have got out of the bath again alone and got the wet clothes off alone:rolleyes:

Rang the docs and he said no tablets iburofen, paracetemol with the high dosage arthritis ones I currently take, knew he was going to say that but wanted to let a doc know how much pain I was in, so he was no help :rolleyes:

As for having a son I have two, adore them but what use am I to them when I can't even get dressed, they deserve an active happy mum and I am not.

I did ring my OH when I started to peel the onion but my wrist would not allow me to do such a simple job and he said he was busy at work, to leave it and he would do it when he gets in at midnight(as if he has not got enought to do working until midnight) and would call later. More useless, who wants a wife ringing up like that.

I just can't stop crying, sinking to all bad low here, typing with one hand.

Brighton_belle

Victory, hang on to the fact this is a particularly vile day. You do loads with your kids. And kids are adaptable - they need their mum what ever condition you are in today. Kids who face no hardship, or the suffering of others perhaps don't have that opportunity to develope extra life skills and compassion. Your boys can see by your suffering what is really important in life and what isn't. Today is a day for not trying too hard really. Your boy can peel the onion - tell him girls will be falling over a boy who can cook.