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Nessa56

Tagz

Wishing you all the best in the world. Waiting is hell I know.

Take care

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wendyw1947

tagz big hugs sweetheart from your "new" mum you can pm me anytime and I'm always here ,and if you want we can exchange numbers if you want a chat , all of us are rooting for you ,sometimes you feel better just getting things out in the open and talking about it .keep us posted to whats happening I'm sending a guardian angel to watch over you xxx

bails

Tagz, big hugs coming your way. As you can see already, you definitely don't need to feel alone this time. Your eating has nothing to do with a lack of willpower, just a natural reflex action to the massive stress you are facing. The first thing with emotional eating is not to beat yourself up about it (you listening too Suggsy) - many, many people use food as an emotional 'bandage'. Hopefully by sharing how you're feeling the need to reach for food will naturally diminish. Writing down how you feel in some kind of diary or on any old scrap of paper can really help too - the process of letting out your feelings brings a real release and frees you from the need to stuff food on top of them to 'bury' them. I hope you can get a definite diagnosis asap; you know where we are xx

wendyw1947

mumma2one welcome you couldn't have come to a better place for help and support

victory

I am so frustrated today, I am cooking a paella properly tomorrow rather than the ww version, went to get all the ingredients:eek: bang goes the GC:rotfl: came home , can't peel an onion with the pain I am in with the arthritis, my OH had to dress me this morning, I feel worthless, there is no point to this life, I can't peel an onion, can't get dressed, have to rely on others all the time and there is no one here, my OH is working until midnight, my son is at football training until 8pm, my numbers have not reacted well to the over eating so that is going to be knocked on the head tomorrow, the tears or rather the sobbing uncontrollably has started, I just can't help it, what is the point, all this pain, excruciating pain that I can do nothing about, there is nothing I can do, I don't want this

Brighton_belle

tagz - I'm so glad you felt able to share your news. PLease do keep telling us how you feel: not only can we more than take it, we want to know. A number of us on here have been through rough times of one sort or another and found the love and care on this forum amazing. I was very sick at the beginning of the year and peeps were wonderful and it did help. It is so hard when you want to protect your OH, so if you can use us to offload, don't ever feel bad about that, or feel you are just repeating yourself. As you have already seen, there are a number of folks on here who have had to cope with a waiting game and know exactly what that is like. Of course you are scared, that's a normal reaction. Keep posting xx

Brighton_belle

victory wrote: »

I am so frustrated today, I am cooking a paella properly tomorrow rather than the ww version, went to get all the ingredients:eek: bang goes the GC:rotfl: came home , can't peel an onion with the pain I am in with the arthritis, my OH had to dress me this morning, I feel worthless, there is no point to this life, I can't peel an onion, can't get dressed, have to rely on others all the time and there is no one here, my OH is working until midnight, my son is at football training until 8pm, my numbers have not reacted well to the over eating so that is going to be knocked on the head tomorrow, the tears or rather the sobbing uncontrollably has started, I just can't help it, what is the point, all this pain, excruciating pain that I can do nothing about, there is nothing I can do, I don't want this

Oh victory, how awful: you must be feeling bad as you are so strong about all this so often. You know I know how you feel with the arthritis. It is so wretched and you are so young to have to cope with this. Have you come off the drugs, is that why it is so bad today?? I know you feel worthless, but you are not Victory. You are a great mum and wife for starters: remember how miserable your OH was when you had the cancer scare - he couldn't bare the thought of not having you. But you are valuable in your own right: look at what you have overcome, look how determined you have been to lose the weight AND chnge your mindset about food and weight. YOu are always here supporting others on the journey. It is horrible to be so bad you need to be dressed - you know I have been there. Have a good cry - you need it. I can only send you lots of hugs.xx

wendyw1947

victory dont know what to say to make you feel better,I think bb has said it all ,my OH suffers much the same as you with arthritus and has several other problems as well,and if there was anything in this world I could to take the pain away I would ,and I'm sure you're OH and son feel the same,he also gets very down and I too have to help him dress sometimes,and I'm sure that you like my OH are loved and needed very much . have a good cry get it out of your system. when you are this down pet ,the only way is up,my thoughts and good wishes are with you. You are not alone hugs

retiredlady

tagz wrote: »

Don't want to bring the mood down but is it ok if I share something? My other half knows about this but I can't let on how much it is upsetting me.

I got a letter a few days ago outlining my last clinic visit. Whilst looking for something else they found a small lump on one of my lungs. I've had two scans so far and they have brought forward the date for a third as it has grown. I've never smoked (but I grew up in a bar) but the consultant said if it's cancer it would appear in the same place as this lump . I feel I can't let my OH half know how frightened I am as a few years ago the doctors found a benign tumour in my brain and that was a huge strain on us. Don't get me wrong he was great but the waiting for results put us through the wringer. Now it seems like it's happening all over again. I'm putting on a smiley face but it's hard. My mum puts her head in the sand about things, my dad doesn't like talking about things and my brother and sister aren't the most sympathetic when it comes to talking about emotions either (told to get a grip!). I was on my own really the last time.

This is one of the reason I really want to lose weight. The consultant told me that if it is the worst news it would be best for me to be in good shape. The problem is I have no will power, and when I get down or worried I eat! That's why I'm trying to concentrate on exercise but I have to be careful due to the thing in my head. Catch 22!

Gosh I'm sorry for going on! I feel a bit better for getting that out though![/quote


Tagz - I am so sorry you are going through this and it is great that you have the confidence to confide in us. As a group our collective good vibes are rushing through the air to you and will be a force to be reckoned with!:T

Speaking on a more personal note (and in the end the decision must be yours), I would let my husband know how frightened I was. Generally speaking men are stronger than we give them credit for - give him the opportunity to be stong and supportive for you!

That is only my opinion but I have always believed in a problem shared and all that. And if I am upset about something my DH had darn well be pretty upset too!!:rotfl: (we have been married 38 years!)

Love and hugs
Marion

victory

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Oh victory, how awful: you must be feeling bad as you are so strong about all this so often. You know I know how you feel with the arthritis. It is so wretched and you are so young to have to cope with this. Have you come off the drugs, is that why it is so bad today?? I know you feel worthless, but you are not Victory. You are a great mum and wife for starters: remember how miserable your OH was when you had the cancer scare - he couldn't bare the thought of not having you. But you are valuable in your own right: look at what you have overcome, look how determined you have been to lose the weight AND chnge your mindset about food and weight. YOu are always here supporting others on the journey. It is horrible to be so bad you need to be dressed - you know I have been there. Have a good cry - you need it. I can only send you lots of hugs.xx

Thank you, not after sympathy just for the pain to go away or at least ease, no still on the tablets, can't even have a bath because I am here on my own and the darn arthritis will not let me take my upper half clothes off, I have a good mind to get in dressed, I can't stop screaming with the pain and sobbing, I am in a right state today. I really can't do anything today, it is so very bad.