The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

Pippilongstocking

Hey guys
Not been about a bit - Winebox hugs to you. Keep yourself safe and remember the good bits and the bits that made you laugh together xx

Can I join the AFJ - and I will be signing up a couple of goodpals too.

Been a hell of a couple of weeks =
My surrogate mum has just been diagnosed with something nasty, no cure, starts chemo to keep things a bit further away in Jan so the whole family are going alcohol free as like me if its in the house it sings to my poor surrogate mummy and then she finds it and drinks it - so we are all having an alchohol free house pact from Jan1st if Granny annie can't drink then by god neither can any of us who love her its not very supportive xxxx

PhD meeting was pants (hey guess what it seems you can't get blootered most nights and work constructively) I have 3 months and alot of persuading to get kept on, whist my field work was ok, my writing was non existent and no amount of a hard month no alcohol has got me back on track (although it DID I think save my skin) So thanks to you all for giving me AFD's and focus. xxfor this I love you all, hadn't had an AFD in about um 10 years - so go you lot:T

Glad you all sound up and happy


new song

weather is shocking here so I am singing ..............

Stranded at the drive in
feeling a fool...........................:D

Bismarck

Winebox...my thoughts are with you.....it's never a good time for things like that. rest in peace.

Bis bracelets? I'm really touched....guess Mrs Bis will want one from Santa!

Talking of not drinking saving your skin....I've passed the works "do" test without even having to mention not drinking....guess it's more common than it used to be.

On the morning , I was briefly tempted...."Go on, what will you say when they offer you a pint of lager?"

To which the other side simply laughed and spat back "NO THANKS!"

There have been many times over the last year where being hungover would have changed so many things and probably lost me my job...sometimes it was hard enough anyway but at least I had a clear head to deal with any fall out.

take care everyone!

Miss_Piggy_2

Good morning all

Bis Bracelets are a very good idea. Keep us all on the straight and narrow!

Feel like I need one today. Hell of a week (although been put into perspective by Winebox's news). And I was sat here this morning thinking I really fancy a bottle of wine tonight. Text my husband to say so and he text back to say "Think Again". Was quite touched as normally he thinks my drinking is ok.

I really REALLY want to be AF but I just don't know if I'm ever going to manage it. Am I making this too hard for myself. I just don't know. What I DO know is that the levels I was drinking at were causing my health to suffer and I DON'T want to go down that route. Its my little ones 3rd birthday tomorrow and I don't want him to grow up constantly seeing his mother drunk.

Guess I'm just a bit thoughtful and contemplative after a crappy week.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Miss P
xx

jo1972

Winebox, I am so sorry to hear your loss. Please still lurk and come back when you're ready, we are all good friends on here and we would love to support you.

jo1972

I feel like utter carp this morning, I indulged on the binge night of the year. It was my work do which was really great although I was aware that I had already drunk enough to suffer a hangover only half way through the evening. Do you think I stopped there :rolleyes: Yeah right, carried right on. After the do a colleague and I went to a late night pub and drank more.

Jeez, feel so ill today. I can not drink tonight, doubt my body will stand up to the abuse. I definately am in on the AFJ but think I might need to bring it forward a week or 2.

graemecarter

There is never a better time to stop drinking than now. One can always find excuses - Christmas, family celebrations, success at work, divorce, bereavement, boredom, cheap offer of wine in supermarket etc.

However, alcoholics are people who only give up when they need to. That bottom has to be reached first, so I suppose I am p1ssing in the wind by saying this......

Good luck everyone - AFJ is a great idea. If that is too much, just do AFJ01 . Alcohol free January 1st, and then take it from there, just one day at a time.

Don't try too much at once - giving up booze, smoking, losing weight, fitness regime, etc is too much for mere mortals in too short a space of time. Just concentrate on one thing, and for anyone reading this thread, that should be alcohol.

Cigarettes will get you in the end, but they are unlikely to make you lose your job, family, etc...unlike alcohol.

eselt

Hi all- just checking in. Glad to see so many positive responces to the AFJ idea- its at just this time that I gave up last year and like Graham says theres never going to be a good time to start so why not now? I really hope its not true that everyone has to hit rock bottom before they emerge again though, some people undoubtably do, but if this thread has taught me anything its taught me that if you are alcohol aware and try and nip this in the bud, you might not have to hit rock bottom to change...at least I hope thats true, you lot are all too nice to go there, I wouldn't wish it on any of you.

Best of luck with the weekends temptations, Winebox ((hugs))), thinking of you hun.

RecoveringAlcoholic

A share for today from RA.

Remember that we deal with alcohol,

cunning, baffling, powerful!

*Mari*

My week has not been at all AF, I spend all day being possitive then get to the evening and cave in...ahhhhhhhhh :mad: Anyway I really like the idea of AFJ, don't think I will be able to get over the festive period AF but am really gonna try and cut back. Then take it a day at a time. I think I need to have a plan to keep me focused. I have the Allen Carr book which I intend to read aswell.

Sorry for the ramble!!!

Hope everyone else is doing ok


Winebox (((hugs))) thinking of you at this difficult time, take care

Miss_Piggy_2

I fell off the AF wagon last night. Had a bottle of wine and , my God, do I feel poorly today! Considering I WAS downing two bottles with no sign of a hangover I'm a bit surprised. I just think my body is telling me its had enough.

Am not going to beat myself up about drinking. But I am now on AFD 1 again. Think I will be avoiding it over christmas. I just don't want to feel poorly like this all the over the holidays!

Its my little ones 3rd Birthday today. Which made me think its been 3 years since I was alcohol free for longer than a couple of days. Not good.

So here goes again......slow that wagon down cos I'm chasing after it!

Hope everyone else is ok. ((hugs)) for Winebox and anyone else that needs them.

Miss P
xx