The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

nobbynorbert

hi eselt well done for your first year and heres to many more i say with a hot chocolate beside me.
Thanks to you and miss piggy for your replies to my post.

Miss piggy i sometimes shouted and screamed at my brother to stop drinking despite knowing its a disease. for 10 years i took him all over the place for help but i dont know about you eselt but i dont think there is enough help for alcoholics in the comunity. I would get so frustrated with him because i knew what was going to happen to him (ive seen it all before as nurse) the worse thing was trying to explain to my family the severity of his situation and prepare them but even though i knew the worst was going to happen i cant get over the shock of losing him. he has left behind a lovely wife and two kids. its devastating.
everytime i have a drink i feel guilty yet i know ive drunk more since he died, my other brother said he has too. When my mum stays with us i can see the fear in her eyes when we have a drink even a small one because we are all so paranoid about it. Thats why i want a fresh start. reading your posts eselt made me think about the thought that must have run through my brothers head when he was sober and even though we were there for him we didnt talk in any deeper way. i dont know whether if i knew his other fears (apart from the obvious) would have helped me to help him but it does torment me. my heart is really with you and anybody else in your shoes and the friends and rels.
so now im sorry for being maudlin
x

polaroid

some really great posts.

eselt, well done. and thanks for sharing your journey and truths with us all. i think i can speak for most of us to say how much it has helped. thank you

miss p its a shame you cant get your brother to have a look at the thread. what a strain it must be. my dad is an alcholic but he must be the best disguised alcy around. its getting worse though. but no one says anything to him.
take care everyone xx

mollypolly

Just popped in to say Congratulations Eselt......and Thank you.

Wanna_Bee_Free

Missed a lot going on here recently! Some heartfelt posts, thanks. Congrats Eselt and welcome to the new people.

I drank too much at friends Friday night, same again on Saturday and then hammered it again yesterday with too much wine. So I have been awake since stupid o clock this morning and I am now feeling so disappointed with myself as had been making real progress a few weeks ago.

OH has some time off between now and Xmas and he wanted to go to the pub today in the afternoon as a gesture of freedom on a weekday. Not sure if I can join in moderately with a couple of pints. Worried it will be another all or nothing day and haven't had a nothing day since last Wednesday.

Need to find that switch again (tomorrow through Friday?) rather than drink every day until next weekend's parties.

winebox

Morning all,
Just been catching up on posts last 2 days.

eselt, I have never found your posts maudlin (or Reggie, a feeble joke only older readers will get) or depressing....often very moving, which is different!

There seem to be quite a few "regulars" missing on here.......wot you all up to?

The weekend was party party party....for DD, so I was driving. & again tonight! Not keeping me completely out of mischief but is helping with the cutting down.

Hope you're all OK out there.

Miss_Piggy_2

Afternoon all!

Hope everyone is ok and had a good weekend.

My Mum has just rung to day they have won 1st prize in a Christmas raffle. Big basket full of spirits and another box of 10 bottles of wine. Typical! If it had been last year I'd have happily taken a lot off her hands. I'm trying my hardest not to think about it...

This weekend was tough. Little one unwell so very grumpy which usually drives me towards the wine bottle. Luckily I was shattered too so didn't much fancy a drink. Went to bed 9.30 last night and am feeling bit livelier today.

Starting to dread christmas a bit though. I know the pressure will be on to drink. I know I could have a glass or two of wine and that it wouldn't hurt...but I know I won't stop there. Don't know what to do for the best. Feeling a tad confused today. Am sure I'll get over it!

Thinking about my brother probably hasn't helped. Last Christmas he was living in a Salvation Army Hostel. This year I'm sorry to say I don't know where he is. Think he's back with his long term girlfriend but she's also a heavy drinker so not the best place for him. Wonder if I should send a card anyway?

Miss P
xx

shopaholictiedtheknot

Morning all

Congratulations Eselt you did it!:T :beer: :T

I have been rubbish alc-wise over the weekend, out Fri and Sat and worse for wear on both occasions! yesterday we found out OH's Gran had died and so we have a funeral to attend before xmas, so sad but she was 88 and didn't really want to be here anymore.

Hope you are all ok today, I am planning to be AF till Friday at the earliest!

Welcome to the newbies

Needstochange

Afternoon everyone.

Just back from a few days away and wanted to say many many congratulations to eselt and thank you for the inspirational words you keep on posting:T

Spent lots of time with family this weekend and I have realised that a few of them really do drink an awful lot and then claim not to have any kind of a problem. One of my female family members claims not to be able to go a full day without booze (well I kinda understand that :rolleyes: ) but does not have a problem because she doesnt start till after 5 except of course on a weekend when its fine to drink at any time:rolleyes: I guess at least we on here with some kind of awareness of a problem.

Tough couple of days coming up for me for various reasons I wont bore you with but I will keep my intent in mind as much as possible.

Good luck all this is a very difficult time of year

Bismarck

morning everyone...hope you are all OK....or as well as you can be at this time of year....

Miss_Piggy_2

Good morning all

Hope everyone is ok...bit quiet on here last couple of days. Everyone getting ready for christmas I suppose!

Little one is poorly today so we are both a bit worn out. Early nap-time coming on today I think. At least I'm too tired to think about wine.

Have good day's all

Miss P
xx