The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

eselt

Hi all- glad things seem to be picking up for you BHB, well done on the AFD's everyone.

No bobble hat for me either- too much hair and by the time I get to work its full of static and it stands on end for ages. Hate the cold but loved driving to work this morning, all the coastline and rolling hills in cornwall looked magical today, everything was veiled in wispy bits of sea mist, it was lovely.

Hey Jo- you OK? Let us know either way, you know we worry.

Best of luck today everyone.

jo1972

Hiya,

WB & eselt, thanks for the concern, I am here and still reading, you can tell cos I regularly thank all the posters! I often don't have time to post, especially at work.

No things aren't 100% but I'm still chasing that wagon. Really bad time of year to quit, I know I'll always have an excuse or justification to wait but there's a couple of work dos coming up and I'm umm'ing and arr'ing about whether I should go.

shopaholictiedtheknot

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

The only advantage to poor blokes like me with the hairline heading for the rear end ...... rapidly !

Do you mean you have a hairy bum BHB :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: - sorry couldn't resist:rotfl:

Jo it is a difficult time of year that's for sure - too much temptation which i am so rubbish at avoiding!

Eselt you are so lucky living in Cornwall, St Ives is my fave place in the UK

Miss P, 2 years early :eek: I DREAD to think how much I have spent over the years, I daren't even calculate!!

I wasn't quite AF yesterday, had one small glass of red at my friends before dance class but pleased I didn't succumb to more later! I will be drinking tonight and again tomorrow but am aiming to be AF from Sunday for a few days!

Good luck today one and all

barshamhillbilly

shopaholictiedtheknot wrote: »

Do you mean you have a hairy bum BHB

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winebox

jo1972 wrote: »

Hiya,

I'm umm'ing and arr'ing .

Local yokel. You chewing straw when you say that?

Good point re the "thanks" to posts; as Shoppy would say, durr! or, doh!

It is TOO TEMPTING to write off the rest of the year and "start properly in the New Year". That's what I did at the end of 2007......(((sigh))). I think that's what's going on in my head tho I'm trying to suppress it; it would be nice to get thro Xmas not feeling jaded. I remember last year wrapping up presents, which I usually love doing, & it was just a chore cos I'd been drinking & was tired. Although I'm being pretty carp I am still refusing to give in...there's 3 weeks of year left & that could be a lot of alch units NOT drunk??

Miss_Piggy_2

winebox wrote: »

It is TOO TEMPTING to write off the rest of the year and "start properly in the New Year". That's what I did at the end of 2007......(((sigh))). I think that's what's going on in my head tho I'm trying to suppress it; it would be nice to get thro Xmas not feeling jaded. I remember last year wrapping up presents, which I usually love doing, & it was just a chore cos I'd been drinking & was tired. Although I'm being pretty carp I am still refusing to give in...there's 3 weeks of year left & that could be a lot of alch units NOT drunk??

That sounds so familiar. I always used to end up drinking and wrapping. I also graduated to drinking and cooking - made my sister in law some cakes this year for her birthday and looking back I would have to say they were TERRIBLE as I was three sheets to the wind when I was doing them.

So, how many units a week then? I was up to about 40 so for me to the end of the year I will save 120 units! :eek:

Miss P
xx

biscotte

Hey folks,

Winebox, you are right about 'writing off the year' and starting in January. What I'm going to try and do is not be AF (that doesn't seem realistic at all) but be alcohol moderate. We have having several groups of friends to stay over the holidays and we are all in agreement that the one thing that's really nice about being up in the mountains is how healthy it all is - clean air, lots of exercise, good quality sleep, lovely home cooked food. So I will be trying to keep the next three weeks moderate moving to healthy with lots of fun but also early nights - I really need to recharge my batteries!

With that I shall wish everyone a very happy christmas and new year - I hope Santa is generous but whoever's pouring the drinks isn't.

And Eselt, happy anniversary when it arrives - you are inspirational.

see you in a few weeks

Wanna_Bee_Free

Hope everyone's doing well, will try and catch up on the thread tomorrow.

Wine for me last night, planned to have a couple of glasses but it was more like 4. No hangover and didn't wake up at 4am so not too bad.

Tonight and tomorrow won't be AF but maybe Sunday.

eselt

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eselt, i know i dont know you personally but i am dead proud of you for the 14th! one year! thats huge, i think the way you post and you dont try to hide behind what happened - i mean wow, your posts have really helped me since i have been on here. so thank you and well done
have a good day everyone xxx[/quote]

Thanks everyone- what a journey this is turning out to be, nothing like hanging on by your finger tips. Two yrs ago I had no job, my kids were being looked after by their dad, my mum had just dropped dead suddenly, my partner ended up in prison after beating me up, and I was just a depressed wreck and an alcoholic, in and out of emergency detox's with withdrawal convulsions and alcohol induced hepatitis- there were only two ways to go really, die a horrible death or have a go at rebuilding my life. I knew it wouldn't be the same kind of life as I had such a public meltdown I could never go back to my old job, who would employ me anyway?, and had lost all my confidence- I was paranoid about gossip and I thought noone would ever take a chance on employing me again, I thought my kids would never trust me again, I thought my family would never forgive me and all the freinds that drifted away in exasperation would never return, I couldn't even pick my kids up from school as I thought the teachers and other mums thought I was just pathetic- I just felt like damaged goods really. BUT....something just clicked, I reached rock bottom and found myself thinking I really want to live, and it was a close call, so I took the meds, starting eating, forced myself to do small activities and get out more-even if it was just to the shops- and gradually my strength returned and the brain fog started to clear, and after 6 months I applied for a job and got it, and I love it (although I dread the day someone recognises me and blabs about my past- but I've rehearsed the conversation in my head and I'm ready for it) and most of all I'm sober. My dad's very quiet, he doesn't say much at all, but he said the other day, 'welcome back, I never thought I'd see my real daughter again- don't you dare worry about what people think, if anyone says anything they'll have me to answer too- I'm proud of you, and I don't care what people think'- grumpy old men can be so sweet sometimes.

I just hope this thread helps people to manage their drinking before they have to reach rock bottom, cause the further you go the longer it takes to come back.

Bis, hows your idea for christmas going? Jo good to hear from you, everyone else just keeping going- eventually something will click and you'll find out what motivates you. Good luck everyone.

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Eselt - :A :T