The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

mollypolly

jo1972 wrote: »

Day 2 for me today

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Welcome back Jo.
Cuddle up on this wagon where its warm and just take one day at a time.
Good luck
Love Mollypollyxxxx

cornishinfens

Day 3 AFD so far - Will have some on Friday but sat will be driving so will be a light week on the demon drink front

polaroid

welcome back jo. glad you are back (for whatever reason) good to have you on here

xx

biscotte

Good (not really - it's pouring) Afternoon.

thanks for the great posts everyone.

Winebox, I am exactly the same as you as regards smoking (gave up just over 4 years ago too). I think the writer you talk about is John Diamond - he had tongue cancer, wrote a column in the Sunday Times that I read every week. I kind of had this deal that if John Diamond was going to be oK then so would I - the day he wrote that he'd got the terminal diagnosis I cried.

Somehow, the connection between smoking and ill health seems much more immediate than that with drinking and ill health. Quiting was such a relief and 'I thought now at least I won't die of a horrible disease' (well, yes I know I still can but the risk is lessened). I just don't have that feeling with booze.

As far as OHs are concerned, I think often their unwillingness to support change is down to control issues and also their self recognition that really THEY should be cutting down as well. I guess it's scary when someone changes because that means they are taking control and the relationship may well be forced to change (which isn't comfy)

Jo, glad to see you back on board, well done.

Have good evening

115K

WifeofDJFLP wrote: »

I'm not saying it's been easy and in the early days I spent all day thinking about wine and engineering scenarios in my head that would allow us to drink (dead relative, lottery win (even though we don't play!!), witnessing a crime/accident etc etc) but I feel quite evangelical now as does my partner.

I thought it was just me that had thoughts like that when I had stopped drinking especially the lottery thing, (when I don't play it either!)
Well done everyone who has been alcohol free for a few days!!!!:T

polaroid

has anyone else noticed how much they drink on coronation street?? its unbeleivable! sorry, bit random, just watched it and got really annoyed for some reason...phew..rant over

hope everyone has had a good night xx

Pippilongstocking

Hi everyone manic evening having to get house ready for visitors -productive day at work - kinda then my boss gave me something back to covered in red pen (lots of it in capitals - doesnt he know its rude to shout) knackered stressed and to be honest just about burst into tears (unlike me).

Fight with ex on phone re sons birthday on Fri - oh am just posting is card/pressie now (he lives in fing france - will take ages to get here) - ended up being a bag and shouting at everyone for not helping - I so wanted a drink tonight, I know its bad, but it takes the edge off my stress and my vicious tongue and I just seem to be nicer somehow cos am not so blinking stressed out. (i know am kidding self, but, tonight I just wanted a calmer head and more smiles - instead am a grumpy irrational idiot am so stressed out I feel as if my heads gonna go pop.

Did go out and get evening bits, logs and a few errands, even turned into the road of the supermarket thinking - why not bottle wine, easier for you to cope, be less stressed, kids get shouted at less etc etc etc - stopped - thougth about you lovely lot, thought about how its only a temp fix and thought about how crap, paranoid and stupid I would feel in the morning - so didnt buy any.

Am still stressed out - but have fire and candles on (usually be passed out by now) for this I thank you. Guess its a day to day thing right enough.

Hope those of you having AFD's managed - dont know how I will fair over next few days I know I need to own up to stopping drinking, I seem to hae developed a deep rooted set of pals who all drink quite alot - and my partner is here too, dont see him much, whilst he is supportive, he wouldnt udnerstand and its my demons at the mo, dont think I can face talking to him about it either, so that leaves me offloading ot all of you - for the moment. I don't feel I understand myself enough to be talking about things ot friends.

Hoep you are all well, thanks for the support, hope you all sleep well and fully x

Bismarck

fayjmck wrote: »

I so wanted a drink tonight, I know its bad, but it takes the edge off my stress and my vicious tongue and I just seem to be nicer somehow cos am not so blinking stressed out. (i know am kidding self, but, tonight I just wanted a calmer head and more smiles - instead am a grumpy irrational idiot am so stressed out I feel as if my heads gonna go pop.

Did go out and get evening bits, logs and a few errands, even turned into the road of the supermarket thinking - why not bottle wine, easier for you to cope, be less stressed, kids get shouted at less etc etc etc - stopped - thougth about you lovely lot, thought about how its only a temp fix and thought about how crap, paranoid and stupid I would feel in the morning - so didnt buy any.

Am still stressed out - but have fire and candles on (usually be passed out by now) for this I thank you. Guess its a day to day thing right enough.

Hope those of you having AFD's managed - dont know how I will fair over next few days I know I need to own up to stopping drinking, I seem to hae developed a deep rooted set of pals who all drink quite alot - and my partner is here too, dont see him much, whilst he is supportive, he wouldnt udnerstand and its my demons at the mo, dont think I can face talking to him about it either, so that leaves me offloading ot all of you - for the moment. I don't feel I understand myself enough to be talking about things ot friends.

Hoep you are all well, thanks for the support, hope you all sleep well and fully x

well done in so many ways.

we are all a work in progress...I'm still making improvements and finding little bits of the old me as each day goes by...for some it may be a quicker process but I'm just happy with progress in itself.

Today's thought was ...

How would you feel if you saw someone from the past for the first time in 10 or 20 years........"

would they say "you look great!" or would they ask if there was anything they could do to help or simply blurt out "what the hell happened to you?"

take care everyone!

shopaholictiedtheknot

Morning all,

Apologies for my absence, not been doing well at all on the AFD front somehow the fact I am not at work makes me want to drink more:rolleyes: I have been having a nice relaxing time but have had a drink every day:eek: Am having AFD for definite today though as we are taking DD and a friend of hers to Alton Towers Scare Fest tomorrow for her BD (really dreading it as I hate scary rides!!)

Have read through all the posts and absorbed all, good luck to everyone for today and the rest of the week, won't mention you all individually but hugs to those that need them xx

mollypolly

Good morning everyone.

Well done Fay for fighting those demons.Sometimes a bottle of wine seems like the answer but it really is a quick fix which makes us feel worse in the long run.
As for telling your friends I would say just do it.Most of mine just look like I am mad when I say I dont drink anymore.Some ask why and I just say that I feel so much better healthwise and not so bloated through not doing it.(Hopefully it makes some of them go home and look in the mirror LOL):D

I have noticed when I tell people that I dont drink that it still really seems more of a big deal to me than them.Most just say Oh and I think to myself 'Oh,is that all you can say.You could at least say 'How clever':rolleyes: '
Hope everyone else is ok.
Have a lovely day
Love Mollypollyxxxx