The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

barshamhillbilly

fayjmck wrote: »

Tried therefore to find some no alcohol wine, thought I fancy a glass but not the sore head etc, so what about this alcohol free stuff - none in both supermarkets??? Where do folks get it from, I know its just a subsitute - have pals coming at weekend and thought alcohol free wine, might work?

Hi again
Just wondered if everyone has seen this company ...

http://www.alcoholfree.co.uk/

Not tried them myself but will have a look through.

BHB

winebox

Have just read through 3-days-worth of posts, feel all wrung out! Have printed off some, thank you. Am being carp, ongoing. I did say that if I can't have a few AF days over half-term I'd go to GP......is looking that way though must still try - a week to go yet. Major row with my boss this morning - far from under-performing I am the only person in this place who can do loads of stuff, and I job-share so have finally blown my top at being asked to do everything cos my opposite number (on equal pay) is incompetent, & my boss won't deal with it, so I have refused to do some things. Of course its got me nowhere except for wound up. Also had row with OH last night (a non alcoholic one) which is still weighing over me - even tho he was 'orrible I climbed down & texted a sorry this morning which he has ignored. All of which is making me feel extremely agitated & therefore wanting to you-know-what. Sorry to offload.

Sometimes my feelings towards OH & alcohol are very similar.....I'm not sure how much I really love it, it can make me feel good but all too often it makes me feel bad, but I can't face the alternative of nothing.

Yet.

Plus ca change etc.......

eselt

Hi all- back to perky and chipper for me today- have started taking vitamin supplements again to ward off any winter blues that might cause a wobble.

I tried drinking Sloer (spelling!) last year which was OK but just as dear as wine! And alcohol free beer gives me terrible headaches-god knows what thats all about. When I go out I usually have a grapefruit and soda water- quite nice and dead cheap.

Polaroid-congratulations on getting your work accepted- how exciting for you!!!

Winebox, shoppy, bis, molly, BHB, fay and everyone else, hope today goes well.

Any news from Jo? or Jack?

Take care all.

afterglow_2

i work in a pub in the evenings to get the extra income i need to pay bills and for my loan and debts, and have just become a licensee to up my income.
so that keeps me away from long nights out drinking and get paid too!
but just wish could stop myself drinking completely as just a drink before or after work costs me around £10 week which would like to hold onto.
Very hard to give it up completely!!!

biscotte

Hi all, had two AFDs, Sunday and monday. First thing oH asked when he came in last night was 'did you get any red wine at the shops today?' to which the answer was no so he had to have tea. Really if I don't buy it then we don't end up polishing a bottle off between us!
feel very positive.

Winebox, I feel for you. there's nothing like a bit of stress and anger to get us reaching for the bottle - take care now

polaroid

i bought some alcohol free chardonay from waitrose( :rotfl: ) . OMG!!! it was
vile. i dont know why it tasted it so bad, well I do, but still! it was hanging, it tasted like off vinegar AND it cost £3.99! i had to laugh though! my friend had told me about it and i whilst i was looking for it I found it really difficult. they had insenstively planted it right on the top shelf above loads of great deals:mad: !! what a joke - no wonder this country has problems!!!

Pippilongstocking

Polaroid - tell me it wasnt the 'Fre' stuff - currently have a a bottle each of chardonnay, pink zinfandel and merlot in a bag from finding it in a local shop...............:) - only got three to see what they are like, honest - pals coming on Thursday and they all drink like little fishes, they are on holiday and I won't be..........

rubiales

jacktyler wrote: »

omg, i just read the replies to my message,
and i don't mind telling you i'm bawling my eyes out and i need your help.

my life is in ashes, embers, ruins,
i don't quite know how to describe it.

i just know i'm rubbish and not good enough.

i'm really sorry, for being a !!!!!!-head,
i'm not very good at this sort of thing.

jack xxxxxx

Hey Jack,

been missing you on the PB forum. You're a good guy and you've made lots of people happier with your helpful and cheery posts on PB and lots of other threads.

Sorry to hear you're feeling so bad. I know it's not much but we're here if you need us! XXX:grouphug:

SiannieLaz

Hey All,
been catching up after a few days away...
Winebox-I know how you feel, my relationship with my OH is very wound up in alcohol and I don't know if it will survive me stopping but i still have to stop. I know if leaving one behind means losing both, it will still have been worth it. I find one of the hardest things about stopping is having to deal with my feelings and emotions. It is much easier to pick up a beer or storm off down the pub, but it just means yet another day of the same misery. At least if it's over but I'm sober, i can start learning how to deal with everyday life. I know it's going to be really, really hard having my crutch taken away but for the first time I can start to learn how to be me.
I think it's probably the same for everyone, there is never a good time to stop. There will always be problems, whether it be money, kids, relationships, work, the list is endless, but you just have to take that leap at some point if it's what you want. There are millions of other people out there who have to deal with really traumatic events on a day to day basis, and they're not sticking their heads into bottle just like me.
I think we all know when we're ready to stop, and you will reach that day Winebox, and when you do you're going to be a success and stopping and everyone on here will be 100% right behind you.
big hey ho to all:T

Bismarck

Shloer's quite nice...and Ame...but it's not cheap!

Tea and coffee have a lot going for them..so does sparkling water and fruit juice.

There's been lots of good advice recently and it's unfair to single any out really....so I'm just looking at the last one, from SiannieLaz and thinking it's spot on.

One guy at a meeting said, "whatever I do it may still rain tomorrow!"....OK I'm some way into this but the longer it goes on the more I come to view it as a way of life....there is no fix...just a way of existing....

saw in a paper that Peter Andre does not drink.....made me think in many ways!

Today's thought was one of duty....I now know I have a duty to keep myself alive as long as possible...my kids would miss me if I wasn't here.....I need to choose to live for the others in my life.

I kind of knew this already but sometimes we forget how important we all are in the scheme of things.

I figure I've learnt more about philosophy and "being" than I thought possible over the last 12 months...part of which helps me focus on what really matters.....tough times lie ahead for many but a bottle of wine etc never really solved anything...it just helps you hide and makes you do silly things.

take care everyone!