The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

mollypolly

spring_watch_girl wrote: »

Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life.

Bismarck...Your question reminded me of this post by Springwatch girl way back when...When I first read it that was what I wanted.
And now.....That is me....and.... I LIKE THIS ME.
Hope everyones ok.
Love Mollypollyxxxx

MARTINS_DOLL

Good evening guys... :beer:

I do hope you are all well.

I wasn't even aware of this thread until a great pal of mine posted here (Jack Tyler) having read some of the posts I really do have such great admiration of you all, and do wish all of you well in the quest to give up the drinking (I like a little drink too!) Good luck to you all... :beer:

Jack cherub, if you read this please do send a PM... xxx

eselt

Hi all- well done fay, molly and others today. Martins Doll, you say you know JackTyler, I'm really worried about him- if he's a mate please get him to get some help, sooner the better- good to know he has mates around him, please support him through this- the answer is really easy, 'stop bloody drinking' , its the process that you have to go through to get there which is so bloody hard....

Feeling very fed up today, ex OH has new partner and I saw him and her playing happy families with my kids and hers on the beach, my kids looked like they were having a ball, felt very very jealous- if I hadn't cocked everything up that could have been me. Don't like him much, but hate the idea my kids will get attached to someone who seems to be such an earth mother- the only exciting memory my kids have at the moment is of mum being carted off to hospital because of bloody alcohol again- oh well that was 2 years ago but I still wander if I'll ever get over the shock and shame. I don't like myself today, I know I will feel different tommorrow so I've just got to hold my nerve.

Sorry if I sound a bit depressing, I don't mean too- good luck guys.

Pippilongstocking

Sorry you feel so rubbish today Eselt - seeing something like that can't be easy - just keep in mind they are your kids and you are their mother, that can't ever change (i remind myself of this fact everytime mine call me by my ex's new wifes name, etc) they will only ever have one mummy.

My ex thankfully lives a long way away, but - he has an internet site for his business with the whole 'happy family' plastered all over it, I sometimes look at it with the kids, to catch up on life back at dads - its very hard to see, but nice that they are having fun in the photos (if that makes any sense) there are my kids, her kids and their new kids on it - everytime I see it I have to bite my lip breathe deeply and remind mysef that I am their mum and proud that I am - to the rest of the world it looks like they are one singular big happy family

- but the facts are that we are the 'mum's', always will be and that isnt something that can ever change no matter who comes along, even briefly, into their lives.

Am thinking of you, no idea if it helps but I am thinking x

Bismarck

I look back sometimes but if you project forward it's much more constructive. when the kids come to you for advice you can give it from the heart - how it really was and is and explain how, ultimately - no matter how you felt were tempted at the time and how hard it was, you chose to stop drinking, mainly because of your love for them.

The best thing we can do to make long term amends is to be there for them - and available for all kinds of things....for many years to come.

MARTINS_DOLL

eselt wrote: »

Hi all- well done fay, molly and others today. Martins Doll, you say you know JackTyler, I'm really worried about him- if he's a mate please get him to get some help, sooner the better- good to know he has mates around him, please support him through this- the answer is really easy, 'stop bloody drinking' , its the process that you have to go through to get there which is so bloody hard...

Hi eselt,

I only know Jack from posting, exchanging PM's on MSE etc. If I knew him in RL, I would of course help him huns.

I too am awfully worried about him.

mollypolly

WOW
Is this a first......a whole day and no postings.
Hope you are all alright.
See you later.
Love Mollypollyxxxx:happylove

barshamhillbilly

I'm Here

Busy day yesterday - failed miserably in the evening again with 9 units of the beery stuff.

Have filed money away today so I can't get at it so its just a couple of cans of of tescos finest 91p lager tonight at the most

Hope everyone is Ok

Best wishes for the day
Andy

Pippilongstocking

Hi Guys
Just a quickie dashing out the door - was very tempted last night even made it to the wine isle, but picked up a huge box (expensive) of party snacks instead, prob wont be able to get off sofa by end of week as will be size of the sofa. To be honest at the moment i dont care.

Tried therefore to find some no alcohol wine, thought I fancy a glass but not the sore head etc, so what about this alcohol free stuff - none in both supermarkets??? Where do folks get it from, I know its just a subsitute - have pals coming at weekend and thought alcohol free wine, might work? (for me not them)

Hope everyone good - trying to make the rest of the week AF but pals arrive on Thurs be a trying time.

Snowwy here waving to you all. Thanks for the words over the weekend its kept me thinking xx

polaroid

Hi guys,

just read through the posts . Blimey - lots of thought provoking stuff.

I am doing ok. am struggling to sleep again though. i thought i'd cracked it and I 'd stopped taking the sleeping tabs but its getting bad again. So many money worries. But, last night instead of disapearing into a bottle of red like the bad old times i sat on the floor until 10.30 and sorted out bills and paperwork. not exactly a great monday but at least I am attempting to deal with it.
i wrote a piece about drinking ages and ages ago and sent it to some editors, someone rang me last week and its going in a big sunday supplement - i ll keep you posted!

Bis, mollypolly, eselt, winebox, shoppy, faymack and everyone else hi and keep posting - you are keeping me sane!!
Jack tyler, please come back.

have a good day xxxx