The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

barshamhillbilly

Evening All,

I made a plonker out of myself last night. Had a few cans a bit too quick. Ended up slurring and shouting. Then had a belly and head ache later. When will I ever learn ??

However, on the plus side the weekly total of units has gone down every week for the last three weeks, so I guess thats progress of sorts

Strangely I've bought all of next weeks beer ...... He's mad you might think - but there is method in my madness.

I can now not access any money until next Friday (with a bit of finance manipulation )

So the only alcohol I can have is what I have bought ..... 20 cans of Tesco's 91p for 4 lager ! A weeks beer for less than a fiver !

The only problem I guess is getting used to the reduction in intake as I will be down to 1/3 of the daily units that I was last week. If all works out OK as planned this week then I should be under 20 units for the week.

Anyway fingers crossed .... no alcohol free day yet but hopefully heading slowly but surely in the right direction.

Hope everyone is OK - though bit worried about Jack ??

Have a great dryish weekend everyone
Best wishes
Andy

PS Happy Halloween :eek::eek:

MARTINS_DOLL

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Hope everyone is OK - though bit worried about Jack ??

Hiya,

I did email Jack that night he posted, but unfortunately he hasn't replied yet...

Pip26

Hi everyone - just wanted to say that I have just discovered this thread as well through trying to see if Jack was around and I can't believe what a great thread it is it - you are all so supportive, understanding and friendly - can't help admitting I got a bit emotional reading through it and wish I had discovered it sooner.

Glad to see that Jack posted on the 25th and is aware that we are all here for him if he logs on. Hopefully he will be reading these posts and may be looking at other boards, like the freebies board, even if he is not posting and he will see how much support there is for him, how many friends he's made, how much we all respect him and how much we all care for him.

Jacko - can you let just one of us know somehow that you are o.k?

You can see that we care about you and are missing you.

Don't for goodness sake feel ashamed in any way or think that people will think less of you in any way or anything like that - we won't. Everyone respects you and that will never change. There are people on here who can give practical advice as well as emotional support - how ever bad you feel, help is there. Just take one tiny step at a time, even if it's just making a phonecall.

Maybe your first step can be letting us know you will be back because we are waiting for you.

.... and actually that will be a big ... no massive ... step because not only are you are doing somthing postive (for all of us, i.e., stopping us worrying (!) it will bring home to you the amount of support you have and that you are not on your own.

xxx

MARTINS_DOLL

Pip26 wrote: »

Hi everyone - just wanted to say that I have just discovered this thread as well through trying to see if Jack was around and I can't believe what a great thread it is it - you are all so supportive, understanding and friendly - can't help admitting I got a bit emotional reading through it and wish I had discovered it sooner.

Glad to see that Jack posted on the 25th and is aware that we are all here for him if he logs on. Hopefully he will be reading these and may be looking at other boards even if he is not posting and he will see how much support there is for him, how many friends he's made, how much we all respect him and much we care for him.

Jacko - can you let just one of us know somehow that you are o.k?

You can see that we care about you and are missing you.

Don't for goodness sake feel ashamed in any way or think that people will think less of you in any way or anything like that - we won't. Everyone respects you and that will never change. There are people on here who can give practical advice as well as emotional support - how ever bad you feel help is there. Just take one tiny step at a time, even if its just making a phonecall.

Maybe make that first step letting us know you will be back because we are waiting for you.

xxx

Jack... Will you PLEASE stay online for a while cherub so that we can talk to you.. We ALL do care very much about you, please check your PM's an emails. I sent you an email last week, PLEASE read it xxx

eselt

Hi all- hope you are all OK. Agree with everyone though- Jack where are you, are you OK? Worried that you are at risk- please get some help- depression and alcohol problems are very serious illnesses and you need to get help, and we will all support you all the way- thats what we do, thats why I feel so lucky to have found all you guys. We don't give up on anyone here and we don't judge- I think we all recognise that a lot of the outside advice we get we know deep down already. But its important to get the help, its out there, its free, it could change your life...it gave me my life back when I was about 5 weeks away from death, I pinch myself everyday that I was lucky enough to have a second chance and my kids could have a proper mum. You guys are great you know- thanks Jackie

Bismarck

I PMd him on the night he was on but felt helpless that I couldn't do anything except offer words.

Hope everyone's OK...was amused in local supermarket to see so much booz being loaded into trolleys.....and 20 cans of Stella for £5...no wonder no one goes to pubs any more!

polaroid

I know what you mean bis, the supermarket stuff is getting beyond crazy. it wasnt so long ago that there was a huge uproar about booze in S'markets but as far as i can see it worse than ever. hey its a recession - cheapen the booze..if everyone is plastered it wont matter!!! mad, really mad!

just thinking, dont know if you are reading the posts jack (i hope you are) but if you feel embarrassed or ashamed (not that you should AT ALL) you could get a different log in name and come back. there are a lot of people here who are worried about you but it may be easier for you to talk if your under a different name. thinking of you , take care
haev a good night everyone xx

Bismarck

seems the biggest hardship with booze is not the affording of it but the lugging the stuff home..and disposing of the empties.


I do differ with some of you regarding a money pot where you store what you've not spent on booze...I had got to a point where the money didn't really matter...it was just found when needed...similarly I didn't stop to save money...I stopped because I had to and me saying to myself that I had saved £x was a small thing compared to the importance of stopping in itself..in a way the saving money bit just confused the issue...(I'm rambling!)

sure...the money saved is nice...it's just that it's money that I don't have to find now so I don't really notice it!

take care...

eselt

Hi all- have to agree with Bis about the money thing, in the end when I had nothing I was taking the sofa apart, checking the car, searching in the garden etc for cash to buy the stuff- the money didn't matter really, in fact when I had no money at all because I'd blown it on booze it stopped me being able to drink and I didn't have those should I/Shan't I conversations with myself because I didn't have a choice. My sister even took my purse off me once so I couldn't buy any more booze. Molly, Bis do you have a period in your life which you can't remember and things just seem a blur? I seem to have blocked out 2005-2006 and it worries me- all I can really remember is that I didn't send any christmas cards that year, and I spent a lot of time on the setee after losing my job drinking and being useless. Now I've emerged from that I still don't know if it was the drink or an underlying depression which led to that awful time. Perhaps best not to dwell on it?!

Bingowings_2

Jack will be back - when he's ready