The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

Bismarck

Don't know if there is an actual point but I think of it as being little lines of defence you put in place so that you don't cross the line. After the first month I would have rated myself on the way out of the woods but with some hurdles to go - events like Christmas etc that I couldn't really feel relaxed about until I'd done it. Each day along the line, the resolve gets more embedded and you just get used to it. Once you've addressed most situations that could tempt you from your path then I'd say you're past the worst of it. Having said that - constant vigilance!

mollypolly

alisong wrote: »

Bismark, I know it's different for everyone but how long did it take for you to get to being not at risk?

Personally I wonder if I will ever be 'Not at risk' although I dont seem to worry about it as much now.
When I first gave up alcohol I still needed a glass in my hand even if it only contained water or pop, but last night I sat in front of the TV for two whole hours without a drink of anything....Progress I think!!!!!!!!
Hope everyones ok.
See you tomorrow
Love Mollypollyxxxx

jo1972

Morning all :wave:

Haven't been around for a few days so haven't caught up with all the posts yet, except WB, sorry to hear about the boat and hope you had a nice birthday

Had a bit of an odd weekend....went to the wedding on Sat and did drink cos I felt so jealous of all the people drinking and having a good time and I just wanted to go home, so I decided to drink. I didn't drink Sun or Mon and haven't had cravings since. I'm not saying I'm cured! I kind of wished I hadn't drunk, just to prove to myself I could do it. But heyho, it's done now, I didn't have any better of a time after having a drink so that proves that drink really does nothing for me in a positive way. I'm fine about it all and am not worried about it

More worried about my laptop that's going down the pan as we speak, I'm hoping someone over on the techie board will be able to help me

I'll catch up later xx

beachbeth

Don't worry about the drinking, Jo. At least it sort of proved that the drink doesn't help you have a good time - we all just think it does. Carry on with the good work and look ahead positively still!:T

Bismarck

I'm surprised you drank but glad it didn't seem to affect you...if you see what I mean.

alisong_2

Hi Jo, good to hear from you.

I actually think that the last drink I took after I'd been dry for 6 days turned out to be a good thing because I didn't enjoy it and felt really down the following day. Now when I think about my last drink I have bad, don't want to go there again memories rather than good I'd like one feelings. Hopefully you'll feel the same.

Ali x.

*jobags*

Hi - can I join you - I've been inspired by reading through these threads over recent weeks and I've probably had more AFD's in the last 4 weks than in the last 5 years
Had annual blood tests at the end of last month (kidney problems in last pregnancy and now on annual checkups) and my LFT's were normal!!
I told doc I thought I needed to give up drinking, he replied a glass of wine a day is good for you - yes I replied, but is a bottle?
I generally like to quit while I'm ahead and if I've got this far without LFT issues then why should I wait until they are an issue so that I have to stop

That's me - My habit is to pick up a bottle of wine every day on the way home and drink it over the course of the evening.
I have 3 children - a boy aged 5 and twins aged 17 months. Yesterday I got in, emptied the shopping and put the wine on the kitchen worksurface. Twin 1 reached up, picked up the wine and dropped the bottle. In doing so she somehow cut her finger open on the foil - I initially thought the wine bottle was broken because almost immediately the floor, her face etc was a sea of red.
The wine was intact but DS had cut the ring finger on her R hand on the foil around the cork
Went off to A and E (en famille) Me DH and the three and on examination were told that DS needed plastic surgery to her finger - I had to take her to the Lister today for surgery on her finger. Nil by mouth from midnight etc plastic surgery, reconstruction. likely lifetime minor deformity - all cos of mums habit
On return last night necked the wine (stress being the excuse) and slept thru waking her up for her final botttle pre NBM
Went to the Lister today, she had her surgery and we were let out at around 19.15
I stopped straight at Sainsburys near the hospital (along with recently post op 17 month old) and bought a bottle of red to see me through the evening.
I think I have a problem - what do you think

I reckon I spend around £180 monthly on wine - around 10% of income
I am not a nice person when I drink, I have less time for and generally less patience with the children.
DH isn't supportive, doesn't think I have a drink problem - he hasn't drank since 1967 having taken the pledge as a christian. His view is thet they drank wine in Christian days etc and as long as you stick to wine and avoid spirits there isn't a problem.
I am starting to think that it is somehow in his interests to keep/encourage me in thiis state -what are your thoughts
Anyway, for everyday I have AF I get £5 into my MF pot - just somehow at the end of the day it doesn't feel worth it

Thanks for reading this so far -sorry it's a long one, any pearls of wisdom appreciated

Jo

Bismarck

sorry to hear about the injury.

there is lots to say here but I've got to dash... I think your husband and doctor are both wrong - you seem to want to give up...do it.

sticking to wine as a rule is useless - how much is too much? a bottle? some part of a wine box? here it gets hazy....."I'll just make a start on a second bottle....." the slopes still there and seems somehow more innocent and justifiable...

as for the doctor...yes maybe a glass a day may be OK but there are thousands of people who can't just have one glass and stick the bottle away until tomorrow....

must go...take care.

mollypolly

Morning all

Well done Jo for climbing back onto the wagon after the wedding thing.I too was very surpirsed that you drank, but at least you didnt do too much damage.Hope you are still doing ok today.

Welcome to the thread jobags.I agree with Bismark ,if you want to give it up do it for yourself.You will look and feel so much beteer for it.As for drinking wine in days gone by, they only did that because the water was so unclean.
For me one glass IS too much because as you say...it leads to a bottle....and then more:rolleyes: :rolleyes:
Good luck with whatever you decide.
Hope everyone else is doing good giving up/cutting down.
Off to get weighed now, see you later.

Love Mollypollyxxxx:happylove

yellowmonkey

*jobags*

First of all welcome to the thread and secondly do not blame yourself for the wine bottle incident. If I come home and put a piece of paper on the table and my DD gets a paper cut then it is an ACCIDENT. The same as the wine bottle incident it is not down to your habit. These things happen so try not to beat yourself up about it.

Hope everything pans out OK for you

Jo

We are all allowed a slip now and again ;o)