The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

Bismarck

jo1972 wrote: »

Lurky, I'm presuming as you're singing the Boo Radleys at some unearthly hour you abstained last night? If so, well done

Ali, you're doing great, how did you do last night?

YM, what's 'hi' all about, how you doing?

What a horrible night I had last night, I got it into my head that I'd drink. I decided that I was gonna say to OH that I was drinking that evening, we were gonna watch a film and have a nice dinner so thought I'd have a can or 2. I had decided to tell him I was having 2 but I was gonna buy 4 :rolleyes:

I told him and he said I couldn't, told me that I obviously had a problem if I've only lasted 17 days, he reminded me that I'd told him I was never gonna do it again and I'm caving already etc etc.... I got quite irritated and aggressive and just wanted to run over the shop and pour a can down my neck. He then said, go on then, get beer and I'll just sit here and watch you drink all night. I was well p1ssed off....irritated cos I knew I couldn't do it now cos he'd be making comments.

I managed to get through the evening okay'ish and then laid in bed and was so grateful that I didn't drink. I imagined how worried I'd be if it was the other way round and he had decided 'just to have 2' and I would've said the same stuff to him.

God, what am I going to do for the rest of my life :eek:

there's a lot in there...well done for not drinking but I need to go! take care!

Different_Corner

Good Morning,
I've been dipping in and out of this thread for a while now. Something is nagging at me. I recognise a lot of my own habits in many others posts.

Don't want to bring anyone down but I'm in a quite raw and sad place at the moment, after a life changing situation in May. I'm taking babysteps to get through this but as a result of of the situation I know I now need to take more care of myself for my teenage sons. Aswell as setting an example.
At the same time I have to give myself some slack as I'm just getting through each day at a time.

So I drink 2 or 3 bottles of lager a night, whilst cooking dinner, clearing up etc etc and then settling in for the evening for BB9 or whatever other meaningless stuff is on.

I smoke aswell - 10 a day, and I think the two go hand in hand. So I'm gingerly stepping in and taking small steps towards becoming a healthier person. Emotionally I feel I need all the props I can get hold of, but I'm also quite a positive person so if I can shake these habits, I know I'll feel better, and am doing something positive towards whatever else life has to throw at me.

Thanks for reading.

In_a_Mess_3

DC, I also drink every night at the moment, not lager but half to a whole bottle of wine depending on how bad my day has been.

But I have decided today to face up to my debt problems and to stop drinking, as I said to my hubby today, when I am drinking it all seems fine, but the morning after it hits me and I am in tears again about it all.

This thread can be a big support to people like us

Good luck, and baby steps, you will get there.

Different_Corner

Thanks In A Mess.
It's not like I even feel any effect, the glass is just 'there'. Feels like a waste of time really.
Like you I'm taking control if my financial situation, and perhaps we're kidding ourselves with a glass of the silly stuff, not going to resolve anything is it ?

pjc33

Thanks for all of your comments - I totally agree with the other posts about baby steps.

I have so many reasons for wanting to not drink - it costs a fortune and I always end up having to get cabs home as I dont realise the time and miss the last tube, I always feel crap and guilty the next day and it really bloats me out.

So far its been over a week and I do feel a lot better for not drinking - I think it may even just be making the choice to not have a drink makes me feel so much better, that I am making positive steps to sort myself out.

Anyway - just wanted to say thanks, have been lurking for a while and think its a great place for support.

jo1972

Welcome In A Mess, Different Corner, mm244 & pjc33 :wave:

Have a look back through some of this thread and you will see that all the oldies on here, whether quit, cut down or otherwise have all had to learn that it's baby steps all the way. If you try to run before you can walk then you've not acclimatised (sp?) yourself to your new life and it's inevitable that the worst will happen. Good luck to you all, today is day 19 for me but at the moment (particularly the last few days) it's not much easier, but I know it will become easier and I'm holding out for that. I don't want to put you all off, sobriety is the most amazing gift you could have and we can all have it, it's just something you have to work at I've realised. I've been fairly lazy with regard to quitting, I would've easily have driven 100 miles to buy beer a few weeks ago but wouldn't have even driven 10 to not buy some, but quitting the alcohol has hand in hand increased my motivation and I now feel like working at keeping quit. It's very daunting at first, but once you're on the road it becomes a little more manageable every day. Keep posting and let us know how you're doing

Mousey & Sparkly, nice to see you posting again

Bis, morning :wave:

Lurky, are you honestly telling me you didn't see all the advertisng for the 'watch your own heart attack' from the British Heart Foundation? They were playing a 2 minute ad type thing last night during Mid Summer Murders at 9.17pm to show everyone what a heart attack feels like and when to know you need an ambulance.

Molly & Lurky, I've had a look at the website and I think you can watch it here

Right, I've got a couple of mystery shops to do today (luckily not Threshers!) so I'd better get me arris off ere and get going.

Also gotta buy tons and tons of choklit supplies for this evening, been really struggling the last few days, last night I ended up buying 2 cans of Kabiler cos I couldn't stand it anymore. Then I found out I had no choklit :eek: :eek: :eek:

Have a lovely day all

shopaholictiedtheknot

Afternoon everyone,

What a lot of posts over the weekend!!

I have been on a total downer since my night out on Friday, the night was great, went for a chinese buffet and then a few pubs in town and it was great catching up with my friend - on the downside we managed to sink two whole bottles of wine with the meal and then I had another two glasses and a couple of halves of cider:eek:

Anyway the upshot of it is that I weighed myself on Sunday morning and found that I am almost 12 stone:eek: I used to be 9 stone 12 (four years ago when I met my DH) and a size 12 and now I am a size 16. I know that alcohol is largely to blame for this, the empty calories and the takeaway urges or chips, dips and chocolate binges when under the influence and I just feel so cross with myself :mad: I got really upset and broke down in front of DH and told him how bad I feel about myself and he has promised to help me sort myself out once and for all.

Sorry for the long rant, hope I haven't spoiled the positive vibes on here at the moment

Just want to say in conclusion that I am going to spend this week concocting a plan of action - Diet, Exercise and Alcohol reduction that I AM going to stick to!!

Congratulations to Molly and Jo - you are just little :A and a huge inspiration to us all :T :beer:

Hope everyone has a good day

Lurkio

jo1972 wrote: »

Lurky, are you honestly telling me you didn't see all the advertisng for the 'watch your own heart attack' from the British Heart Foundation? They were playing a 2 minute ad type thing last night during Mid Summer Murders at 9.17pm to show everyone what a heart attack feels like and when to know you need an ambulance.

Completely passed me by, jo

Haven't watch 'proper' telly for absolutely ages.

Hi everyone :wave: - and a big welcome to the newbies

Well, I made it to a week..... but its all coming to a shuddering halt. I have just been reminded that I am out for a social with work tomorrow night..... Still, I have gained some confidence from the last week. It wasn't that bad, except for the weekend, and I think when I'm back off my hols, I can give the whole 'not on a school night' thing a good go

((hugs)) to you shoppy. But you have DH supporting you now. Make sure you are clear in the type of support you want.......

Hope we're all well and happy today!

Lurky

Bismarck

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Well how about following only slightly behind :D

fine by me.....;)!

jo1972

Hugs Shoppy, we've all been there in one way or another and I can truely sympathise...good luck with concocting your plan, stick around and get some positive vibes on here

I need some 'stop spending money' vibes at the moment, was totally skint till I had some ebay money paid in this morning and blown it all on a suit for DS for a wedding we're going to on Saturday....he does look cute in a 3 piece suit, shirt and tie though Gotta get his hair cut and a new pair of shoes yet :eek: luckily DD2 is the bridesmaid so I don't have to pay out for her dress shoes or hair :beer: