Daily Chat Thread 5th Feb

ellerose

Sorry to be on a downer but since I'm recently dumped I feel bloody awful.

ZTD

Lucy1982 wrote: »

Sorry if I bring you all down but...

I've not had a good day today I was all happy and positive and then my boss told me they had been looking at me internet use at work and it was high and i now have to have a disaplinary with HR. I am terrified and want to cry. I know it's my own fault for using the net at work, but I don't know what I am going to to.

I can't afford to be out of work and this is stressing me out so much!! I hoping that I will be offered the other job tomorrow. But what happens if not?

I feel like I am taking 2 steps forward and 4 back!!!

Unless you've been looking at something illegal or profoundly against your company's ethos (spelt P-O-R-N), they're not going to sack you for a first off offence.

It also depends on what sorts of guidance (if any!) they've submitted in terms of internet use - some companies have issued things like "don't look at too much stuff we wouldn't like you to look at" and then wondered why it hasn't amounted to much.

Also it depends on exactly what your job is. Often HR don't have a clue on a stick, which leads to surreal conversations like "So why are you spending so much time on the Company's House website? Is it part of your job?" The answer almost was: "No, it's because it's full of hot guys." (It was a woman being asked.)

Don't go in with an assumption of guilt, but don't be aggressive either. If you do have a lot of internet work, ask for examples where they think you may have been doing non-work stuff. What you consider non-work stuff and what they consider non-work may be entirely different.

If they have caught you, just explain the circumstances, and do the usual promises of cutting down. "Too much" is a very vague limit anyway.

Hope that helps... :grouphug:

Edit: Also remember it doesn't matter how long you're looking at something. The only thing it tracks is downloading a page.

Snaggles

Lucy, poor you, you are having a really hard time. If this is the first time they have pulled you up on this, I'm sure they will have to follow procedures and give you verbal warnings, written warnings etc before they can sack you. And if you explain how much pressure you have been under recently, and that you have been accessing your 'support network' (us ) when things were getting on top of you, it might not even come to that.

Try not to panic hun xxx

redsquirrel80

ellerose wrote: »

Sorry to be on a downer but since I'm recently dumped I feel bloody awful.

Hugs for you too Elle x

Snaggles

Elle, sorry you are feeling down - it's not easy when a relationship breaks down. Sending you a (((hug))).

ZTD

ellerose wrote: »

Sorry to be on a downer but since I'm recently dumped I feel bloody awful.

:grouphug:

Don't worry, there's a frog out there, waiting for your kiss.

Lucy1982_2

Thanks it is a first offence, so hopefully they will be ok, my boss didn't seem to concerned but that doesn't mean anything!

Lemon_Tree

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

Laura go buy a home kit!!!!

glad you said this it was my thought exactly!

and as to being money saving, when i had to get one from the chemist there was one at 2.99 and one at 10.99 and the pharmacist said they were both as good as each other, one just didn't have a brand name.

good luck hope you get the news you want, whatever that may be

lauradora

pregnancy test negative

Lemon_Tree

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

HEre's something to make you guys laugh!
Ash has just gone through my bag opening all my 'lady things' saying 'looook!' mummys nappy!!!
cheeky mare!!

lol my nephew once walked downstairs with 'lady things' dangling from his ears so he could show off his new ear rings. His mother curled up with horror as there were loads of visitors there at the time, but we just wet ourselves with laughter!