mothers day gift for mam with terminal cancer

ellielambert

I know there have been various suggestions about a memory jar and getting your mum to record her life which are all fab. I also thought maybe if you can record (either on a casette or a video camera) messages/memories from various members of your family. On days when she is feeling particularly weak she can just lie back and listen to it rather than having to strain herself and read, also the voices of your loved ones are always so comforting.
My thoughts are with you x

amyparr

Along similar lines to the above, you could rope in friends and family to record her favourite poems or even a story so that when she's feeling low she can listen to you all reading them.

elaine59_2

Why not get hold of her favourite photo and have it enlarged and/or beautifully framed. Then take the time to talk to her about the memories it evokes. Alternatively, make up a scrapbook of family photos and leave spaces for notes to be written in as she remembers the occasions. This can then be kept and passed down through the family as an heirloom. I used to take photo albums into my mum and it was amazing what I learnt about the family which I didn't know before. Ask lots of questions before its too late. :A

Edinburghlass_2

How about bringing the pamper day to her by getting an aromatherapist to come to the house to do a massage, this is not as expensive as it sounds although you would need to let them know she is undergoing chemo.

edited to add, have a look at this thread for lovely smelling "melts" you could get for her room.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=734815

sarah_wilko

Hope that you, your Mum and family enjoy your time together, whatever you choose to do.

These books are great, you give them to your Mum (they also do Dad and Grandparent ones) and each page asks her a question and she records the answer in her own handwriting. eg Where do you meet my Dad? What did you consider calling me before I was born? What was the first album you bought?

It's a trip down memory lane for your Mum, and once she's finished it she gives it back to you to cherish and look back at.

http://www.gettingpersonal.co.uk/gifts-for-mum/Dear-Mum-From-You-to-Me.htm

Purpledansa

I have a couple more ideas - things I have done for friends and family.

For my Mum's 70th birthday I got in touch with everyone I could who knew her and asked them to write either a good memory they had of her or to say what they loved about her. The replies were really varied - from poems to memories from childhood - to some lovely letters saying all sorts of lovely things about her.
My Mum knows lots of people, so there were over 100 replies, and I made them up into a book.

The other idea - but this one takes longer to organise, and you may want to do something quicker - is to make a freindship quilt. I did one for a friend who was going away. I chose some quilting fabric in a colour she liked and cut out enough squares to make a quilt. Each of her friends and family embroidered something on a square. If they couldn't embroider I got someone else to do it for them. There were pictures and messages. A friend and I made them up into the quilt which she took away with her.

It's lovely that you want to do something special for your Mum. I'm sure she'll appreciate it.

PinkLady

Hi, what a lovely idea to have some pampering - aromatherapy is wonderful! The therapist would need to know of any medical conditions.
Is there anywhere that she would really like to visit again?
You sound a lovely daughter - I'm sure she would be delighted with anything you arrange as it has obviously been done with a lot of thought and consideration.
Sending you kind thoughts x

nearlyrich

My dad died just after Father's day so I kind of know what you are going through, I racked my brains for a good present as he wasn't really well enough to appreciate an outing.

I bought him a dressing gown in the end, he didn't get much wear out of it sadly.

I hope your mum feels well enought to enjoy Mother's Day with you.

specialK

How about naming a star for her?

scattymam1

Thanks specialK,thats a really nice idea.

p.s. I like your signature quote a lot.