mothers day gift for mam with terminal cancer

qwiksave

I agree with the idea of making a memory, scrapbook, photo album (aswell as the Centre Parc treats, its lovely there!) but particularly the idea of a video. When my father died, we interviewed my mother on video, and she told us about the story of their lives together and the interesting history of our family home. My mother sadly died of cancer a couple of years later and this video is one of my most treasured possessions. My younger son never met my mother but through this video he could see what she looked and sounded like. It's also a very valuable record for future generations.

HTH

mary43

Thats a brilliant idea. I'd have loved one of my Dad...........best I've got is a recorded interview he had with local radio station when he and mum were two of the first people to qualify for a home improvement grant for the elderly to help them stay in their own home. It's not a lot but at least there's the sound of his voice.
If I'd have had any foresight I'd have done that with my first husband. My two sons have photos but nothing else.

hogshead

I echo all the suggestions. Make a jar not just for you to keep after she's gone but one also for your mum so she can take a lucky dip & read the things you love/remeber fondly when she feels a little low.

Take care.

margaretclare

Nice smelly things. Pretty nighties. Luxuries. Special chocs.

I used to look after a woman who had MS and she had very expensive lacy nighties. She said 'her body was so ugly, she needed beautiful things'. I didn't see her reasoning at the time, but I have done since. The nighties she had were from this company: https://www.davidnieper.co.uk

With very best wishes to all of you

Margaret

scattymam1

hogshead wrote: »

I echo all the suggestions. Make a jar not just for you to keep after she's gone but one also for your mum so she can take a lucky dip & read the things you love/remeber fondly when she feels a little low.

Take care.

Thanks Hogshead - this is def. what I am going to do. I'm going to write down memories of holidays and put in photos so we can chat about the good times and put some funny things in too. I just need a kind of large pickled fruit jar! I do hope I get her voice on tape though my sister in law has videos of her so she said she will copy them for me. It's funny because my mam is a dedicated scrap booker and she has made books about herself, her children and her grandchildren. It will be a lovely thing that we can keep forever. She probably has filled about twenty of them. My mam is 70 and has never smoked,drank, she always exercises, has a killer figure, people think she's in her 50's. She has taught me to be a fighter.

Sue-UU

Hello scatty,

I'm so very sorry for your dear Mum, she sounds a lovely lady and so does her Daughter of whom she must be so very proud. Take you children to see her often and do all you can to keep her focused of wonderful, happy times - it'll do you so much good too! Sadly smoking, drinking, obesity etc don't always come into cancer, that's why we all need to do the same as her though - to try to beat it as much as is possible. One thing which might help you though, is that had she not led a really healthy life she may have had the disease and passed away some years ago!

I think you're wise with the decision you've made, though I do still believe the idea of her talking about her life on video would also be wonderful for her and for you all as a family. It'll be great therapy for your Mum and something to keep her thinking of what to talk about next time etc...you also!

All the very best of wishes to you ALL. Sue.

becs

An alternative idea to photo album is a photo book? Have a look at www.bobbooks.co.uk They basically make a beautiful hardback book of your photos. You download their software and arrange your photos in the templates, i think you can also add text in aswell so any nice messages or special thoughts for any of the photos can be included. We had our wedding photos done in this way and everyone says it's a really beautiful way of doing it and just something a bit more special than an ordinary album.

poppett

Hi scattymam, I firstly want to say how much I am thinking of you, having been through this with my own mum.
Secondly, regarding the mothers day gift....when my mum was going through her chemotherapy she loved having an aromotherapy massage by one of the ladies on the oncology ward. Maybe you could treat your mum to something like that. Other than that I suggest what other's have suggested....photo albums crammed full of happy memories. And more importantly....tell your mum exactly how much she means to you.
I hope whatever you decide to do you'll come back here and tell us about it. I lost my mum 5 years ago this year and would do anything to be able to treat her again.

scattymam1

I will poppett. I never really understood what other people go through I knew it must be awful but I never really knew how bad until it was happening to myself.

ANDENA

my mum done her life story which was done on writing pad ,when she passed a way my sister showed me this 15 pages long .i got it photocopied for all 5 of us and now i will cherish that the rest of my days.my dad 96years old taped his and we all have a copy i think something along those lines or a nice locket with you in it.