Family forcing us to spend money

velvetybubbles

i think its disgusting they have asked you to put in money for a present they have choose to buy without even thinking if you can afford to.if they want to give a £500 present they should be buying it and not getting others to chip in more they can afford by the sounds of it and have to pay out for getting to the party and something to wear etc,some people just cant see beyond themselves.

GreyPilgrim

£500 pound for a watch.

£500.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only sane person on this planet.

LuciferTDark

always_amazed wrote: »

Exactly; I'm a responsible 21year old but still loose stuff all the time.

It doesn't get any easier to not loose things as you get older either.;)

wydsiwyrg

I had my 21st last year. Didn't get a thing. Didn't mind to be honest.

Posted this on another thread; but our family have now changed how we do birthdays. We don't ask for a present as such - more something that each of us can do with their time for another person (write down a recipe, record a song etc.)

southernscouser

My reply would be;

How about you never ask me to contribute money again and I won't punch you in the face.

BettiePage

Send them this link. http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=575780
Maybe it will make them think twice?

Edit: This girl asked for donations for the Meningitis Trust instead of 21st birthday presents (she's a friend of an mse'er whose little boy died from it) and has so far raised £7,483.37 in his name. Tell them you've donated to this in their name instead.

wannabe_a_mum

Mt SIl always does that too....she always asks for around £25 to buy pressies. In our extended family, it's getting a bit out of hand, as we buy for birthdays, anniversaries, new babies, weddings, achievements such as exam passes/driving tests, new homes, going away on holiday, thankyou presents........

Now imagine if we gave £25 each time!!??

What I do, is buy in bulk pressies for the whole year in the sales, especially as I like to get pressies that would mean something to the recipient. This way I do buy pressies which are worth £25, but I spend around 75% less!

Now that I do this, it's easy enough to tell SIL that I already have something!!!

bandraoi

GreyPilgrim wrote: »

£500 pound for a watch.

£500.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only sane person on this planet.

I would rather spend £500 on a watch that I love and I wear every day for 50 years, than £20 on one that I didn't like so much and that needed replacing every year or two.

BettiePage

bandraoi wrote: »

I would rather spend £500 on a watch that I love and I wear every day for 50 years, than £20 on one that I didn't like so much and that needed replacing every year or two.

I would rather my relatives had money to feed and clothe their children. However, if it was my own money I was spending, I would agree with you.

GreyPilgrim

BettiePage wrote: »

I would rather my relatives had money to feed and clothe their children. However, if it was my own money I was spending, I would agree with you.

It's absolutely a personal preference thing of course. I'm just saying it's not something I can get my head around.

i can appreciate paying £20,000 for a car which has a load of more features than a £2,000 car, but if you ask someone with a £20 Casio watch what time it is, you're going to get exactly the same answer as you get from the chap with the Rolex.

Not saying you're wrong. Just saying I must have missed that lesson!