Lose Weight 18

dellybelly_2

Thanks for your kind words everyone. This feels so very strange and my head tells me that I'm completely over reacting but I've been upset all day and crying on and off all day too. I really need someone to tell me what to do cos I don't know what's for the best.

My parents came over this afternoon and Mum said she had seen this coming about a year ago (dad started to say I told you so but mum shut him up!). It's not completely about the state my house gets in when the ground is wet or the amount of muck she brings in on her paws. I feel so guilty that she doesn't get enough exercise or attention and if we do have another child, it'll only get worse. I know that it's not all completely my responsibility but I know my OH and he'll never take her for walks regularly. Not having her around would also mean that I could start walking at lunchtimes when I get shifted to a different office that's been built in a greenfield site and I wouldn't be under so much pressure to not take my walk at lunchtime and walk her in the evening instead. But I will miss taking her to the beach in the summer and for long walks in the brighter evenings that I know are only round the corner.

My FiL also loves the wee dog and I think I may have had more support in getting her exercised if he wasn't on hols abroad for the past 3 months. He's going to be so annoyed if he comes back and find out that I've given her away.

One of my main worries is that she is stealing food from my DS. I don't know if any of you have seen the episode of It's me or the dog where they had to get a black cocker spainel put down because it had started to nip the children in the house if they dropped food and tried to pick it up again, but that show really affected me and although I'm fairly sure she wouldn't bite DS, it is still a worry.

What I'm really hoping for is that my friend and her dad get so attached to the dog that the decision is taken away from me and they ask to keep her.

I realise that this is completely unrelated to the topic of LW, but it is in some way - I've hardly been able to eat all day. OH got chinese to try to cheer me up but it was tasteless. I even ate chocolate but it was vile too and I just feel sick now.

Anyway, thanks for listening.

victory

delly huge amount of sympathy goes out to you, I always find the positive/negative list works to clear the mind, seeing it on paper gives an idea of what the answer is;)

bails the trust thing will never work for me, I am fed up with myself this evening as I have eaten my fair share, why? because I was bored and because I can, I have been SAS commando, navy seals good for what seems like forever and tonight decided to eat but oh boy there is eating and knowing when to stop:Dmy legs don't work for the sugar rush, have a dry mouth feel sick,ill self induced,thinkto yourself this happened last time, surely you knew what was going to happen if you pigged out, why do it to yourself? Why, why and thrice why and still I press the self destruct button, just because I can, madness, senseless, now it will take a few days to recover, get the numbers back on track, for what? Yes I wanted it but did not need that much ,even I know that but no one stopped me, I never stopped me, H only commented on the amount of bacon(gave it all to my son) even I cannot eat that much in a day, not for the want of trying though:D

Well done debt

Just spoken or argued with H about why did he let me consistently have food in my mouth all day long lol and he says I have to eat my photos came back with my face drawn, that I look like a druggie, my passport photos last week he said I looked 20 years older and he is going to let me eat whatever, whenever because my face needs it!!

Brighton_belle

dellybelly wrote: »

Thanks for your kind words everyone. This feels so very strange and my head tells me that I'm completely over reacting but I've been upset all day and crying on and off all day too. I really need someone to tell me what to do cos I don't know what's for the best.
Oh delly, this sounds so tough. But what comes over loud and clear is your 100% concern for the wee dog, and doing what's best for him too. I think this will sort itself out by your excellent plan to loan her to your friend. This gives you breathing space to see how much you miss her or how relieved you feel. It is entirely legitimate and normal to not be able to cope with that extra responsibility on top of 9-5 working and a young child. You need to take care of your health and emotional well being. We are not superhuman invinceable beings - there is only so much time/energy to go round in your life and something will give. Your f-i-l may get upset, but he's not here and may be off every winter for 3 months. If he's so keen on a dog, why doesn't he get one of his own? And parenting is a hard enough job - this is one worry too many that you can do something about. That sort of back ground anxiety is not good for you to live with for long
I hope you feel better tomorrow. Just think how happy you may be making your dog by getting her the attention she needs -that's true love you're showing.
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vixarooni

Aw, delly, what a situation! Ive been around a dog since i was born, ive had a cocker spaniel birth to about 7 or 8, then a lab, and then a terrier/jack russel. All three dogs have never bitten me once if you were worried about the biting aspect. All three dogs were around in my childhoood too.

I think although its hard you have to think of the dog at the end of the day. If you cant give it the time and attention it deserves then you should perhaps think about giving it another home as hard as it will be.

My opinion is, go with your gut feeling. The fact that you have asked your friend to look after her suggests that you are siding more to letting her go. Hope you find a solution that works for you all

Well done Debt! Good work.

Victory: Men always choose the right words dont they! Im sure youre face looks gorgeous. Although a passport photo is never flattering is it! Im 16 in mine, i look like a child. Got a really fat face!

bargain_babe

hugs Delly, I can quite understand how you feel. We had to make a decision a long while ago now, about our beloved dog - yep, she was a substitute for children until the children came along. She was such an excitable animal that when the doorbell went she would bowl one of my three little ones over in the process of getting to it first, She never hurt any one of them but would bark as soon as they napped, and hated not getting the attention she used to. I found her a good home, with a large playing fields behind the house and much older children. I think she would be gone now, but still think about her and I have to admit still sometimes feel guilty but it was best for all concerned. I hope you can do whats right for you all and try not to worry about it.

The loss adjusters came to look at our house on friday and the nightmare is still not over, we have to fill in loads of forms, basically listing an inventory of everything we own to check we are not under insured, I think we should all have to fill these in when we take out insurance so we can make sure we are covered properly. I just hope everything is okay and our claim starts to proceed as I can't get the burglary out of my head at the moment and feel as though we are still being victimised, now by the insurers as well as the criminals.

Weight loss wise, am gonna start behaving, am going back to face the music at class on Thursday - gotta sort something in my life out and this is a biggy.

Take care all and good to hear some people are losing weight - well done all x

Intergalactic_Floozie

Morning all!! Unfortunately I don't have time to reply to everyone's posts, and all you who are having problems or feeling upset - have a hug!!! - But I am reading all the posts that have been written since I last visited, just want you to know that.

Went to the gym yesterday and had a good work out. When I started two weeks ago, they had me doing 34 minutes, but I didn't feel that challenged so as of yesterday I have upped it to 50 minutes and am trying to go three times a week:

Treadmill - 10 minutes, 3.5mph, L5
Rower - 3 minutes, L1
Hand Bike - 3 minutes, L1,
Hand Bike - 3 minutes, L1
Stepper - 5 minutes, L2
Cross Trainer - 6 minutes, L2
Recumbent Bike - 5 minutes, L2
Stationary Bike - 5 minutes, L2
Treadmill - 10 minutes, 3.5mph, L6 reduced to L0, 3mph for last minute.

Works out at approximately 294 calories burnt.

Knowing I need to get some resistance exercise in, I have booked in for tonights body pump session (eek) haven't been in about a year. I was "lucky" to get in, the list was full but they had a cancellation so I nabbed it.

Steps: 11,153 steps, of which 6,990 of those were aerobic steps (60 minutes)

I did a walk to Morrisons, then back home 1.57 mile (33 minutes) - which is something I wouldn't normally do as I'd go in the car, but a lot of the other steps will have been gym steps - but hey, what does it matter where they came from???

Today will be a test because I'm obviously back at work and am desk bound apart from a walk to the loo a couple of times, so finding ways to do extra steps will be a challenge.

x_raphael_xx

Hugs to you delly, at least you are making your choice rationally and thinking thru whats best for both you and the dog. Some owners would just neglect them or dump them in the street.

katiepoppycat wrote: »

hmmm, v interesting lilaclillie! I was always told not to use blue plates for food photography because it makes the food look weird so that's nearly the same thing. Apparently there is no blue food (naturally anyway) . . or is there? Any takers?

hmmm...blueberrys??


Weight day for me this morning, thanks bails and everyone else, you were right. I stck at it and I have lost 4.2 lbs this week!! :T I was so happy I was dancing around my kitchen at 5am this morning! :rotfl:

HannaB

Happy Birthday Poohbear and welcome Floozie and all other newbies.

Well done raphael - great result!!

You really can't take a day off this website without having 3 pages to catch up on.

Just reporting in another 2lb loss this week...I'm up to my half-stone:j I was nervous about the weigh-in today after a weekend of grazing. Just shows that one bad day doesn't make a difference if you're doing it right.

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victory

raphael you deserve to dance:T :T :T

hanna:j :j :j

victory

Last night was cleaning, emptied DS age 7 cupboard and found loads of haribo wrappers/sweet wrappers etc, bit concerned they were hidden, asked him, got the usual answers..they are not mine, what sweet wrappers,what cupboard, I don't know, etc, so cannot get a straight answer from him why his cupboard is stuffed with sweets, some eaten, some yet to, I would not want him to feel he has to hide them, that he does because of me,that he is eating in secret, prob taking it out of context just a bit surprised , don't want to make it into a big issue with him,maybe they are just from xmas, never found stuff like that before .....