Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

I just wish I knew how to take photos that could go on to here? I have no idea how to put them on, then I could show everyone why I wanted to come to this house, and also the great bargains that I have been able to find. Mind you its probably not to everyones taste to have second hand things. But to me its very MSE and also very good for the planet as I am re-cycling as much as I can.
Two of the kids have gone out, so I am babysitting. Both babies went down for me today, with a cuddle and a bottle and were down? Wonder if they will sleep for long or if I will be going up and down the stairs a lot.?
Trying to find things to do with all the glut of vegetables that I bought today. Using up the girls healthy start vouchers, £15 worth, although I bought a lot more than that in the end. But a lot of my shopping was also for my Biggest of Mooloos. She needs some good vitamins etc inside of her!!

Thanks for the wishes for her, I will pass them on. She does come on here some of the time.
Now its time for me to go and put the kettle on and maybe go and find a cardigan as I am sittng in the kitchen and its stone floors and glass all around. Brrrr

Savvy_sewing

Morning. The father of BBJ has just arrived, and the new BF of his mother is still here. Currently at opposite ends of the house. But I am wary there will be a war in a minute.
One of the twins friends has just rung to say that she is also pregnant,? God do these youngsters never learn!!
I just recieved a letter from work requesting that I have a meeting with the Area Manager, and quote" The purpose of this meeting is to discuss your progress as your absence has an impact on the business with respect to providing temporary cover. As this is a formal meeting you have the right to be accompanied by a work colleague/volunteer or a trade union representative. If you are not accompanied, Margaret will ask you to read and sign the noes from the meeting. A member of the Field Management team may be present to take notes.""

Sounds a bit foremidable to me.
They have had a report by the occupational health people to say that I am not fit for work currently and that it doesnt have a date on the horizon for my return due to stress and other illnessess. So reckon I will need to start to look for more information on some of the other forams. Now its time I become referee.

Savvy_sewing

Well thats another stressful weekend out of the way. I could murder twin2 at times. I had to be very careful and bundle the baby and his dad out the door for a walk, and get twin2 to go out with her new BF. She tried introduction on the stair and the babies father just ignored the man, and was going red. So I was chatting away, taking both babies out, full of the joys of spring, come on to BBJ's Dad and then when we were outside of the house, sayiing where I was going for a walk, etc etc.
As twin2 drove off in her friends car with new BF in tow the babies Dad said to me, I dont know why she thinks I want to meet him.....
I had to just say that you know her, she is a bit Child like, and its just like a small child likes to show off their new friend to their old when they fall out, thats what she is doing. Just ignore her. I understand why he doesnt want to meet the new chap. I will have to make sure that next time she gets the timing of their visits better!.
The rest of the day went ok. I managed to get him off on the 2pm bus, sending my son with him, as he wanted to stay with one of his old mates.
I wasnt sure if I was going to come to Oxford as I wanted to check on Biggest of Mooloos. BF trouble on top of her illness. But in the end I did come.
We went out for a drink at the local pub. Their was a group on and I was persuaded by one of the older women there to get up and dance. I enjoyed it. But oh my, Yesterday i was in agony. I could hardly do anything for the rest of yesterday except prop my arm, use my heat pads and rest.
I stopped in Oxford last night as DS has a dentist appointment here this morning. Once thats done we are going back together. I will then have to assess the state of home, and plan the rest of the day accordingly.
I hope its going to be more delegation then anythingelse as I am still very sore. That will teach me for having a dance. I am just not the girl I used to be.

Savvy_sewing

Morning all.
Yesterday evening I was panicing becuase the council still have not issued the cheque for £615 rent back dated for October. They said it will be re-issued next week now.!! As the rent is due to go out of my account on the 1st of the month I am beginning to panic.
I have £784 in the bank, and the rent is £1200. So you can see its vital that I have that. I cannot go overdrawn as I am a bankrupt. Things like this are adding to my stress. When I returned it as soon as we received it, (becuase it was in the wrong name,) the woman said that it would be on the Fridays run, that was two fridays ago!!. Will anything in my life run smoothly? Probably not.
I am trying to be upbeat, but its so dam hard at times.!
Physio this afternoon, so back to Oxford. (This is also where my money is going, but at least I am going to get to see my BF too!!). Will have seen a lot of him this week!! (He he).
Time to go and look for something to have for tea tonight.! Not been following the menu plan at all. Really must try to get back on track with it all.

shaz_mum_of__2

Could you cancel the Direct debit to save going overdrawn and tell the landlord it was a bank error then pay him when the cheque comes in ??

Bit cheeky but better than going OD

Shaz

Savvy_sewing

I shall see if I can contact the bank and change the date till a few days later, but as I have just moved there I really am worried that if I am deemed a bad payer, I will not have the tenancy reviewed and would result in being homeless again! Having been in that situation twice in my life, I am not willing to be in that position again.
I think I ought to be honest with the landlord and tell her that I have a cash flow problem this week only, caused by the Council. The problem is the landlord doesnt know that I am not working at the moment. When I took the house on, I was on "holiday" and had planned to return to work.
Work want me to return, and part of me wishes I could, but I have just spent the last hour writing it all down in my diary, and trying to think about the realistic possibilities of me going back to work, bearing in mind the fact that I have also now added an hours journey either end of the working day, if I was to return to work. As my arm is not very good when I am driving for a long period of time, then the physical amount of work the job usually involves. I just think that it will be impossible.
I saw an advert for a part time assistant in another charity shop, in the town I have moved to, but its only 21 hours and minimum wage.? I was thinking would it be worth applying for that one,? But I am not sure I am going to be fit enough, really. Also would BHF give me a favourable reference? I doubt it as I have spent nearly 7 months out of the past two and a half years off on the sick.!! Not really that employable am I?
The delemma between my heart, my head, and my abilities are really testing me at the moment. I just dont,know what I should be doing, what I really truthfully would be able to do, and for how long.? I have been doing all the exercises the physio suggests, but things are not getting anybetter then they have been in a long time. Physio said that she can probably only see me one or two more times as Ihave been going to see her for a year now. (cost of her time I suppose). that scares me, as if she doesn't manipulate the problem on a regular basis I am stiff as a new boot, and unable to do the most basic of tasks.!
Ah well, I am not expecting an answer of of anyone really, I am just writing down whats going on through my mind.
Also if I was able to return to work, what would happen with the twins and the babies when I am not there? I think it would go back to the caos of the other house, (it nearly is when I come here to oxford), so the dilemma continues.

Eager_Elephant

Hi Mooloo

I know you weren't expecting a reply but I have followed your story since the start - I just don't know how you cope with everything life throws at you. (Well actually I do because I do the same but years of doing that have now ended up with me having counselling)

I know you would like to work but you are one of the genuine people that is too ill to work in the job you want.
Is it so wrong for you to take some time out, help to bring up the grandchildren and enjoy life for once instead of charging around?

My personal opinion is to give up work (I wish I could) and see how things pan out. I know the girls need to learn to cope with their own babies but while you can guide then it can only make things better.

If you went to work as minimum paid job then you would get Tax Credits but knowing your luck you would be out of the range to claim HB and then you have to find all your rent and that causes more stress.

You could possibly next year volunteer in a charity shop. You wouldn't have to do any sorting you could do the till instead. You could do this say 2 mornings a week which would help you feel like you are doing something and also it would mean the girls have time with their babies without you and so they gain independence gradually.

Sorry if it is not relevant, just typing whatever came into my head.

EE

Savvy_sewing

Hello, I think that you are probably right Eager Elephant!. I think its just the working mentallity. I can see the things you are saying are right. I am unwell, I have got to remember that.! It would be more sense for me to get the health and kids sorted out before I re think about me. There will always be volunteer spaces in a charity shop, and if I am fit enough, as you say I could volunteer. That would satisfy my need to help and too work. So from now on, I must try to just take this as a bit of a transition. Work on the things that I can do at home, sort the twins out with the babies, and get them set up. Then I can have the me time back.!
Thanks for helping. I really do appreciate it.

Savvy_sewing

Now I have got to sort out the Tax Man, who has sent me a bill, that I dont believe I should have had. Time to do war. Yesterday I just cried about it all and panic set in. Today, after a talk with Biggest of Mooloo's. Back soon. I hope.

HotLips_2

Having been following your thread and just wanted to add my support. I think that you are doing amazingly well and you should just keep on trying. I have no wonderfull or worldly words of advice but am sending you all the best vibes that I can muster. Good luck with everything and just keep that chin up high!!!