Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

I am so relieved, even though twin2 is rebelling.! I will be taking her to get the keys to her room today. As twin1 is away on holiday with her BF and his family, she cant get hers until Monday. Which is a bit of a blow, as it would have been easier to move her at the same time.!
I am hoping that by the end of the following week, I will be living my relaxed more simple life!. Fingers crossed, that once the girls move in, they will manage to find a few people to help them. Twin2 is worried as she doesnt know the town. Even though I dont know it, it looked quite nice as we drove through it.
I will just have to keep myself positive today, and remember that it was her attitude that started all of this off. I have tried to live with her, and I am not prepared to move again for a very long time.
Now I better get on, there are lots of jobs to get done before I go, as I know I will be too tired when I get back.

jha

"I will just have to keep myself positive today, and remember that it was her attitude that started all of this off"

I think so too mooloo:T she needs to try and make it in life on her own now (with your and social services support). I am sure it is just the distress of having to start again somewhere new and the change of surroundings that has unsettled her.

All the best for today and just keep reapeating your think positive to yourself today

shaz_mum_of__2

Mooloo wrote: »

Unfortunately there is no other choice for her, and she should not have treated me so badly, or her sisters/brother for that matter.
I have enough of a guilt problem as it is. I donlt need her to put it onto me even more!.

Hold that thought you have no reason to reproach yourself it's like everything in life .............you have to be realistic about what you can achieve.

Sounds like mentally you are in the right place to deal with it all and who knows how relationships between all concerned will change without the day to day stress of the chaotic life you have all been living.

Take care

Shaz

Jo4

Mooloo wrote: »

I will just have to keep myself positive today, and remember that it was her attitude that started all of this off. I have tried to live with her, and I am not prepared to move again for a very long time.

Go Mooloo! :beer: Go Mooloo! :beer:

You remind me of my Mum sooooo much, she puts everyone else first and herself last. She often says that she is going to change and put herself first but it still hasn't happened.

Savvy_sewing

Jo4 wrote: »

Go Mooloo! :beer: Go Mooloo! :beer:

You remind me of my Mum sooooo much, she puts everyone else first and herself last. She often says that she is going to change and put herself first but it still hasn't happened.

I would like to meet your Mum!!:rotfl:
I am exhausted. There is not a piece of me that is not aching at the moment.
But there is still masses to do back at the house.
We got the keys for Both the girls places. The lady from the Housing was very nice. She gave me Twin1's things and said she can hand them in at the office on Tuesday.
Twin2 was a struggle yesterday and I was so angry with her, as she still hadnt even started to pack her clothes etc.
It was 9.30 when DS and I headed for home last night!.
But we hope we have broken the back of it now.
Back today to clear all of our other stuff!
Must go, (reluctantly) as I have the man coming to clean the carpets for me. A necessary expense!. I just am not able to do that.
Dont think I am able to do very much today. Will have to direct people! :rolleyes:

SuziQ

I'm so glad things are finally slowly working out for you Mooloo. Maybe your twins will appreciate what you have done for them all these years now!

Thanks for the good wishes by the way. I had a bowel tumour which turned out to be a grade 2 cancer.I have had my colon removed and they are sure they got all the cancer out so I am very very lucky! Still have an op left but no chemo or radiation so very relieved.

Savvy_sewing

Well it took all of my weekend to get the stuff out of the house. If the family had sorted out and packed things when I asked it would have been a lot easier. I have gone through £130 in petrol driving backwards and forewards.! It was 7.30 last night, when I finally gave up. If it was not cleaned or missed, then tough. I could hardly move for the pain!.
I am suffering today.
Twin1 wanted me to go and pick her up from her BF's and take her to the hostel, with her Baby today. But I have had to bow out. My car is still full of furniture etc, that DS and I loaded last night.
DS is in Towcester stayed with a friend as he has an exam this morning, and one this afternoon. So there is nobody to empty the car for/with me.
Saying NO, I felt guilty. But they are going to have to let me rest today, becuase I am unable to do much, Struggling to even type this!
I have masses to do here, but it will all have to wait.
There is masses of stuff at my Parents too. There is no way the girls are going to manage with everything they have in one room!.
The will have to sort out even more, so they can be comfortable.
(As I do here, now that the house is empty and the cottge is stuffed full!!)

Today, I am going to have a hot bath, use my heat pad, drink tea, and watch TV!!
I am only going to potter with a few jobs, when and if I am feeling up to it!.

Savvy_sewing

Still havent managed to get to my bath! Been trying to sort out a few bits of paperwork etc! Phoned in my final readings for the water, electric and gas.
Asked for time to pay on them all. Lets see what they all come up with!.
Its going to be a big struggle with the bills. Luckily I have been off on ESA for so long, that the money has now gone up £25.50 a week. (Just as well as the bank account is nearly dry now!).

Having trouble getting the post redirected. Will have to unpack my printer, and print off the form Royal Mail sent me, and take it to the Post office, along with the ID and the rest of the parafinalia. So much for being able to do it on line, to save time.

DS has just rung, he has done one exam, got another to do today. HE needs clothes! Went to his mates and forgot to take any clothes with him!.
So I may have to drive later today afterall, unless I can get Biggest of Mooloo to divert after work, and come to get them for me.
Infact I am going to ask her now, while I think about it.
Its about time I take that back seat!!!

jha

Wow mooloo youve done amazing to get them all moved:T:T I am hoping you are having a rest tonight as it is so warm.

Savvy_sewing

Morning All, I had a day of rest yesterday. Not really through choice, but necessity. Twin1 is back of her holiday and needs to be sorted out in her room. She has been on the phone already wanting to know who has the hoover!.
I am about to go over with the paperwork for her to sign. Then we will see what else is needed. It may have to be a dust pan and brush to start with!!.
I have been washing, and washing, there is so much that was brought over to mine. 5 baskets full!! So I have worked my way through 2 and a bit. Not much has been on the line, even though it was lovely weather I needed to tumble dry as my arm couldnt reach up to the washing line!.
I managed one lot arund six last night, after I had had an afternoon nap!.
The landlord was not happy with our touching up the paintwork. (It was non washable walls so every time we washed off a mark, we had washed off the paint!). He is demanding that the place is completely redecorated!! And that the carpet cleaning was not good enough, and I have to pay for it to be done again!.

Bye bye my deposit!. I was relying on that to pay off the fuel bill.!! Now I will definitely have debts again!.
The water board have let me spread the payments, along with the DD for here, so I will have to pay £60 a month for that.
I am dreading the final bill for the fuel!!
Time to go.
I hope to be in Oxford for the evening as its one of BF's kids 21st today.
Tomorrow BF and I will have been together for 5 years. (With a few splits at the beginning when we were trying to get the families together! ).
So if I am not about until Thursday you will know why!. But I may be able to get on to his computer some time in the day.