Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

oystercatcher

jm2926 wrote: »

Hi Mooloo,

Your son needs to sit his CBT to drive a moped. Not sure if you were including that in the provisional driving license - but for bikes/mopeds the provisional license is not valid on its own. Like this one:

http://www.karmenzbiketraining.com/courses/default.asp

Hope things pick up for you when you eventually get into the cottage.

Two of my son's ride mopeds. The CBT is around £100 here in Hertfordshire. The company supply the bikes to do the test, it took my husband all day (9-5) to complete the training, both sons had the full day and also 1 or 2 return sessions until they were deemed safe on the road. This was an all inclusive fee.
It's a legal requirement but also in my opinion well worth it to make sure they come home in one piece!!
Also make sure he has proper safety clothing, I know it's expensive but it can make a huge difference if he does have an accident.

It's lovely for them to have the freedom once they are ready, and lovely for me to not be running lifts everywhere!

Hope you are settling in.

Oystercatcher

Savvy_sewing

Hello, just popped on the computer before I set off for Home. DS has his maths exam this afternoon. I stayed over in Oxford an extra night, as I was really quite tired last night, after helping BF with his boat. Not that I could do that much, but what I did was enough to make me tired.
Spoke to DS on the phone, he is fed up of twin2. She is making life a misery all round. So I have decided that our move is definitely the right thing and if the girls have got to go into a hostel again, then so be it. Not nice but necessary if they are to get help from the council.
I have just got to accept that its time for them to step up a gear and show what they can actually do.
The estate agent rang me yesterday to say that there is someone who wants to view the house, and was I leaving any earlier then the end of the month!.
I said well I have, but the girls will need to be there right to the last minute, or council wont help them. If in deed they will help, as they havent made up thier minds as to if they have a "duty of Care" towards the girls!.
We have lived back home for more then 6 months so they do. But they are just trying it on.
They dont know who they are battling with though!.
I am beginning to be a seasoned arguer here!
I will be checking out the courses for the driving with DS, and will be asking his father to cough up some of the funds!. He doesnt exactly do much for his children afterall.
I plan to take DS to look at a helmet this week, and the cost of leathers etc. Not sure I can afford to do it all for him in one hit. May have to wait until we get the deposit back from the house, and milk a bit off it off, before paying the Utilities bills. Mmmmm we will just have to see.
Getting his independance will be liberating for both of us!.
Now I better get my things together and go home, as I will want to stay in Oxford and that means I would not be getting anything done, AGAIN!!!
I will be back on line as soon as I can get access to another computer. (Must get mine from the main house, and see if I can find a Wifi area somewhere near to me, on occassion.).
End of the week will be when BT put a phoneline and my Broadband in. (Touch wood!).

shaz_mum_of__2

Pleased that your side of the move went to plan mooloo shame about the girls but it sounds like your not letting it get you down too much ........well done

Often once the difficult decisions have been made following them through is easy no matter how rocky the path

Take care

Shaz

minimoneysaver

Don't forget to check out ebay for motorbike gear. I'm sure there must be loads of it on there. He can always go to a shop to try stuff on and see what sizes he needs.

SuziQ

Just catching up with you Mooloo, as I have been in hospital for major surgery. I am so angry for you that the social services have let down you and the girls once again-they need some negative publicity if you ask me! Whenever things go wrong and social services have been involved they spend huga amounts of money and personelle trying to shut the door after the horse has already bolted-why not do before the disaster? I almost feel that you are being punished for being so good for so long. They should be ashamed of themselves and I applaud you for sticking to your guns. Your cottage sounds ideal and I hope you will be really happy and settled there,as I am sure that will improve your own health immensely.

Savvy_sewing

SuziQ wrote: »

Just catching up with you Mooloo, as I have been in hospital for major surgery. I am so angry for you that the social services have let down you and the girls once again-they need some negative publicity if you ask me! Whenever things go wrong and social services have been involved they spend huga amounts of money and personelle trying to shut the door after the horse has already bolted-why not do before the disaster? I almost feel that you are being punished for being so good for so long. They should be ashamed of themselves and I applaud you for sticking to your guns. Your cottage sounds ideal and I hope you will be really happy and settled there,as I am sure that will improve your own health immensely.

Hello SuziQ, and everyone else. I have been trying to post on here for the last two days, but I have been having a problem with some virus or other called Winiblue, and it keeps stopping me from doing things. Not sure what I have done to get passed it, but its still lurking in the background.
I am doing a lot better then I was before the move, but still worried because the girls were not sorting out their things and they still do not have anywhere to go, and thats at the end of the week!.
Twin1 is on holiday with her BF and his family, (and baby girl P) and wont be back until the end of the week, with nowhere much to go. I think she can stay a day or so at BF's house, but not any longer.
Twin2 is being her usual stubborn self, and is determined to hold the proceedings up, and taking her time to do anything. AND I MEAN ANYTHING.
I am worried to so much distraction, about what the hell is going to happen to them all?
I have managed to put some plants into the garden, and I hope that I will be able to do more over the weeks.
I have started Pain Clinic. Well its a self help, for people with Chronic Illnesses. I have been to two sessions so far. Have come accross two other mothers with twins, one has MS not sure what the other one has?
I hope that I will be back posting more often now, as I have the WIFI here at the cottage now.
Once I have found the girls a place, and they are sorted I think I will probably be on a different thread though, as it wont be a struggle with family. It will be a struggle with Debts!! Aargh.... I have still got to sort out the huge fuel bill, as the original offer of help has been withdrawn by the company. They are now threatening to cut the place off!.Which will affect me getting my deposit back, and I need the deposit to be able to pay of the majority of the fuel bill! Can I ever win anything? Who knows.
I am remaining as upbeat as possible and I am convinced that I will be better living here.
My BF has not been up, as he is unwell. He has shingles, which is nasty, and of course I cannot risk contact becuase of the babies.
I miss him so much.
We are coming up to 5 years of dating in June, I am hoping that we can find time to see eachother at least on that Day. I hope he rrecovers soon.!

Savvy_sewing

PS, Sorry, how rude of me, I hope that you are feeling Better SuziQ. I had a hysterectomy a few years ago, major hick up and had to stay in hospital longer then expected as I had an infection!. Not so good.
I hope you recover from your surgery as expected, and that life after the recovery improves for you.
Take care,
Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Well GOOD NEWS FOR ONCE.
The council have agreed to house the twins and thier babies in the local hostel in Brackley, town about 8 miles away.
They are not thrilled, especially twin2, but I have taken her to see the place today, and the lady incharge seems very nice.
It is not the best place in the world, but it is certainly better then the hostels in Oxford were.
I can breathe a sigh of relief, and start to relax some. Although i have a lot of things to get sorted out before the weekend is over.
I ran out of energy to do the things I wanted to do today, as I spent my time driving from place to place. The driving takes me out of my comfort zone, and exhausts me. So I have had to come home and leave the clearing up until tomorrow.
DS has dissappeared with his mates when I needed him most!. Its very annoying.
I just hope he doesnt decide that he needs me to pick him up again, and that he will stop at the old house with twin2 and her baby.
I am going to have as much as a relaxing evening as I can. The rest of the week, and weekend is going to be hectic as anything.

Savvy_sewing

Well last night I fell asleep just after 7pm! I woke around 10pm, and sort of drifted abit, but my mind got busy with all of the things that I still need to do.
So I got up, made a cup of tea and read a bit more of the Self-management book, that I got with my course.
Biggest of Mooloo has just text me to tell me that she has enough Kitchen stuff to supply the twins with things, so not to buy anything until we check out her boxes!.
She already has a box marked up for each of them.
Her BF is going to borrow his Dads Van tomorrow after work, and help to move twin2 into her room at the hostel. That means I can help her sort things out during today/tomorrow. Take her to get her keys, clean the place a bit more, and put up some curtains. (If I can find some that will fit. If I can't then I will e making her some) She is on the ground floor so will need curtains for privacy.
There is a laundry room, and they get tokens. £2 for the washer and £1.50 for the dryer. Apparantly though the electric cards cost them £1.50 but they only get £1 worth of electric from it. I guess the rest of the electric goes to supply the electric in the rest of the building. I met two young mums there, who seemed quite nice and polite. There was also a lady in her 40s who is splitting up from an awful marriage, and she has said to Twin2 that she will be there if she needs someone to talk too. She was starting to move in yesterday.
I am taking it a bit slowly this morning. Have decided to do a few things I need to do here at the cottage before I go back to the house, and start sorting stuff out that has got to go to the tip!.
Then I will divide the rest of the kitchen things up.
I am so relieved that the twins and babies have somewhere to go. I cannot tell you how much of a relief it is.
I can now see the start of our new lives, and the reduction in stress on me.
The girls will be getting some help, although it wont be as much as they had been promised, or the accommodation that they were promised. But at least it will be a start for independancy for them.
DS stayed at his friends last night. He did finally ring me around tea time and ask.
He is a one, for leaving things to the last minute. (We all seem to end up being last minute at things!).
Time for some breakfast. I have had a cup of tea, but I need another one, and maybe some toast.
Its raining here, so I wont need to water my garden, just the plants in the green house.
I have put on the first load of washing, since I got the machine installed here. I hope it doesnt leak, it was a very tight fit to get it and the tumble dryer into the space here!. Cottage is slowly starting to look a lot smaller with all of the furnishings here now!.
But I suppose that is to be expected when I have downsized from such a massive house. To a two up, cottage. BUt I am not complaining, I love the place!. Draughts and all. But I suppose I will be moaning about the draughts in the winter!. Still need to get them sorted out.
Once the girls have been settled I will still have a lot to do to keep me busy!.

shaz_mum_of__2

I am pleased finally something is going right for you

Is the quiet life at the cottage helping you,mentally ?

Now the pressure is off at least you can retreat to your own space and take care of you


don't forget freecycle for stuff the girls need and for stuff for the cotage garden ...................if you lived closer i could arrange tomato,pepper and cabbages ..lol


Shaz