Mooloo's struggle with babies and bills

Savvy_sewing

:eek: I have spent the evening with Biggest of Mooloo's. She was very down, and It really hurt to see her that way. I tried to be positive with her, for her, and give her some hope. We have discussed trying to sell things on Ebay, do a bit of Money Challenge and looking towards finding some deposit for her to be able to get a mortgage of her own. She has said that she cannot live with the twins anymore. Looking at the mess I came home today, (which was a clean up apparantly??) I am not surprised. She had to stay here when I went out and recouped at BF's.
Between us we are both struggling with the twins.
Both the girls were on reasonably polite and good behaviour, but I fear its a little too late.
Biggest of Mooloo's and I, have made a pact to try to sell off our excess, and I want to look for work again, as soon as my health improves. Meanwhile I think I will be de=cluttering. Then we are going to both look towards what we have wanted to do for a longtime. She wants to be a Wedding Planner, (has done since 2003 ish when she helped with my wedding), and I am seriously thinking about going back to doing the alterations and repairs I used to do, and although I could not do much, just a bit here and there, something for me to focus on anyway.
We are going to try and support each other and get through this with something to hope for at the other side.
We want to save for her to get a deposit for a mortgage, and the possibility of me joining her, if I am free of my responsibilites with the twins.
I would like to be with my fella eventually, but I would not rely on him to finance me. I dont know if any of this is possible of course. Just we want something positive to look to, or we are both at rock bottom. We have to rise above that.:T

SuziQ

Good luck with your plans Mooloo-having a goal really helps me to get through things so I hope this has a double benefit for you.

Savvy_sewing

I went to see a lady at the citizens advice beureau today. She also thinks that I could take the Social to task. She thinks I should complain. Insist on thier Duty of Care to the girls as adults, and so I will have a go at writing a letter over the next few days.
At least I will have several reminders of whats been going on when I start, as I have this thread to refer to, and my diaries!
But its going to be a daunting task.

Tonight I am tired.....again and I am going to rest. Just come up to my room and getting comfortable for the evening.

Oh I put a few books on to GreenMetropolis, see how they go. Will add more as the time goes buy. See if we can make a few quid here and there out of all my hording!.

Palm_Centro

Aww Mooloo you poor thing.

Savvy_sewing

I am trying to be positive and proactive. No longer going to let myself feel like the victim. Enough. I am determind that I will get somewhere, and that the girls will have the Care they need. But I also have my own rights, and so does my DS. So I am going to drag up any of the remaining determination out of my boots and continue to fight for what I think is right.
My health aside, it is important that the girls/babies have what they need then I can look after myself. As has been pointed out to me on many a time, What would happen if I was not here?
Right off to start that letter. Where do I begin? Its going to be a long letter!!

RachelW1987

Good luck Mooloo and go get 'em!!

jha

All the best with the letter Mooloo!

Keeping_Motivated

Good luck Mooloo

I'm sure its going to be a looonnng letter!! Just remember though that the main points need to be easily identifiable so maybe bullet point and bold them then they don't get lost in the whole letter if that makes sense.

Also I would start off with your reason for writing the letter and your dissatisfaction and why and then in the middle I would bullet point the main points clearly. Then I would end it with what I want doing and when and what would be happening if I did not get a response by 'such a date'. I would send it recorded delivery too so you know the date the 'definately' received it so they can't fob you off. They need to know you mean business with this letter so nothing wish washy will do (not that I am saying you will be wishy washy just that don't let them think its just a run of the mill complaint) you mean business this time and you expect action or you will take action against them and they need to know that.

Well thats my opinion anyway but I sure you will have wrote a super duper letter already.

Take care

Jo4

Good luck with writing your letter. Hopefully you will get something sorted which will benefit all of you.

Errata

It would be worth checking the local authority's complaints process, which might be lengthy and unwieldy with several formal stages that have to be completed. A complaint, although justified, may not be the quickest way to get things in place for the twins with things like care packages, accommodation etc sorted out.